We moved to the city not long ago from a suburban house that was pretty Waldorf in its set up. I was actually quite excited about the opportunities city living would present to us, but things are not turning out OK at all. We have to be here due to my husband's hospital treatments so it's not like it was just a wish to move. But I didn't think it would be this bad.
We picked the best apartment we could afford (it's like $2000 every MONTH) but we didn't think in terms of neighbors. We have to be quiet all day, every day because the walls are paper thin and the neighbors keep complaining about kids. The management is understanding to a point but there are certain rules. No noise between 9 pm and 8 am - or else we can get kicked out. The kids wake up at 5 am (can't change that no matter what) so the only way to keep them quiet is to sit them in front of the TV in the morning. For like three hours. Really. And that's how most of the day is spent, actually, because there's no other way to keep them quiet enough. Whenever they run (which is against the rules) the neighbors come up to complain.) They were TV free before. They need to share a room but they can't go in there during the day cos people below us sleep during the day so we're all in the 6X10 living room all day. I need to find a job and the kids will be home during the day with DH, who is beyond mainstream. He just wants to play video games all day while the kids watch TV. I mean maybe he'll take them to the park for an hour each day, but the rest of the day?
We can't walk around our neighborhood because it's incredibly crime ridden. Women get mugged and raped. I had no idea. I thought we could use public transport but taking two hyper toddlers on a city bus that's just riddled with.... urban youth (rowdy, foul-mouthed, etc) does not seem great. We got a membership to the zoo but honestly I can't spend every day driving to the zoo and standing around all day. Even our food budget for healthy food went from about $300 a month to $1000 - and right now we're NOT eating as healthy as we were and I'm constantly hungry - I only eat the leftovers.. We're living on credit cards and just going into debt more every month. Can't justify spending money on gas to drive around - and I already got into one accident here (haven't in 15 years driving but I have in the month we've been here) so I'm scared to drive.
We can't play any musical instruments. Not even kid type ones. We do some crafts but nothing messy (no painting, etc) cos we're afraid of getting the place dirty. There's no nature here at all unless we specifically drive to a park, and I've already talked about that. We can't all even fit in the kitchen, literally, to cook together. Poor DD had a heartbreak because we were sitting on the kitchen floor to make cookies (no other space to do it) and she stepped in the cookie dough when she stood up to reach something (there was no turning room) and the cookies she worked so hard on were ruined.
Basically, we seriously miscalculated how things would be. There's no way we can break our lease. I can't get a good enough job to pay for insane daycare fees for two kids, especially not in any daycare I'd want to put them in.
All day, we watch Netflix. That's what we're doing right now.
I don't know what to do and I'm miserable...
How to fix this? =(