aljm - I too saw the Arkansas decision. Woot-woot! Small victories are better than none.
We're in Memphis, TN, and there are no rights here. (Nashville was alot better.) In fact, DS and I both are listed on DP's insurance through her company. DS was adopted by DP before I came along. Last spring, he had an allergic reaction to something and needed a dermatologist appt. They almost refused me service because I wasn't his legal guardian, even though all three of us are listed on the insurance card. It was quite the scene! Fortunately, the doctor realized what was going on, felt embarrassed, and did see DS. I was furious, and felt so helpless. DS was crying because he was so miserable and all I could was stand there begging for them to see him. He's 6, and I've been around since he was 2, yet, I still could do nothing for him.
We're considering a move to WI or IL in the next few months for DP's job. WI is our first choice due to DP living there previously, friends, and her job. As liberal as what the state appears to be, there's still a law banning 2nd parent adoption. (1 of 4 states with such a law.) We're even considering living in IL for now to establish residency, getting the kids adopted, then moving to WI once the adoption goes through. It's sad to think about, but what else can we do?