ANOTHER daycare change

[zebra15]

UGH.... I know ds is 10 and I know its my choice to homeschool but sheezez do DCP around here need to be so ditzy.  I was hoping this one would last us until we either moved or DS was old enough to stay home.  But honestly the bullying from her OWN kids getting to be a bit much.  I already pack ds' food because she fixes 1 of 3-4 things for lunch (mac n cheese, pbj, hamb. helper or ramen noodles) they only get water to drink.  None of this is ok for ds who has some minor blood sugar issues so I decided to pack his food when he started 2-3 years ago.  The final straw is the parent/friend/stranger who dropped of her 4 kids THREE weeks ago and never came back to get them.  IDK where CPS is but DS10 says he's had enough.  When I pick him up in a few hours I hope he has all his stuff cuz I never want to go back there again.

2 weeks ago one of the 'new' kids (abandoned) socked my kid in the jaw.  He had a black n blue mark that finally faded.  My kid isnt agressive.  Heck my kid spends most of the day on the sofa with a book(s)- he gets taunted for this.

I have an interview with a DCP tomorrow and if it seems ok he can start Monday as a 'drop in' for the days that I work.

All my kid needs is a place to hang out while I'm at work.  Really, just because of my life choices do I have to settle for sh!t care?  (part of me doesnt even want to pay for this week, but that would be wrong)

[AttunedMama]

Hugs....I don't know what you do for work, but is it possible that he might tag along with his books, at least now and then?

[zebra15]

UGH, I met the 'new' sitter today and while shes great with the 'drop in' schedule that I need (Im a substitute teacher) shes not so great with much else that I need.  She wants to be paid in cash (huge red flag for me) which means I can't take a tax deduction.  She told me flat out she doesn't have a bank account. I'm just not going there with another sitter. I claim my daycare expenses - that is not negotiable and I pay by check so I have a record of everything.

DS seemed to like her but I can't have him start somewhere then change it again in a week when I find someone else, but I can NOT go back to the person I have been using for THREE YEARS. The bullying issues from HER OWN KIDS are unbearable for DS, the bullying issues from the daycare kids who come after school are inexcuseable. The unsupervised time upstairs where all this happens is just not ok.  The bullying and taunting has gotten worse over the past couple months and I just can not send DS back there.

Plus there were some other issues in the past 3 weeks that rubbed me the wrong way.

so now im in a total bind. I can not leave DS home alone all day, he's 10, a couple hrs yes, all day NO.  I can't use a regular day care center because he is 10 and they dont have full time care for school age kids during the school year.  I cant take him with me because I work in a school..

Some times being a single parent just *#^(%  ya know?? 

I can't not take jobs this week,  The school year is coming to an end soon (about 5 good weeks of subbing left and I need all the $$ i can make).

I just want to cry.