I had a nice reply thanking everyone and sharing more thoughts, but then my Internet connection died and I lost the post. Sigh. So consider yourself appreciated, since I don't think I have the brain to go back and try to redo it :)
DD went to the holistic dentist today, and got the worst cavity filled. Unfortunately the rot may have gone down to the root. He thinks it might be ok but there's a chance. Kicking myself that I didn't deal with this months ago.
She had novocaine and she did really good. DH and I were both in the exam room with her the whole time, and DH even held her hands. (Since I don't see that well, some of the traditional "mommy" jobs fall to him).
The dentist didn't seem to feel that all the cavities needed to be filled, at least not now. Unfortunately I'm not clear on how many more he intends to do, but it sounds like 3 or 4 more.
We asked his opinion on flouride, and he said that while he prefers to avoid chemicals and toxins, that "the science is in" on flouride and that topical applications have been shown to provide a benefit. He's against flouride rinses and "vitamins" as well as flouridated water, but he recommends flouride toothpaste. I don't know any more about it than I did yesterday but I do trust his opinion and I know he's not just spouting the accepted opinion but had actually done the research. So DH and I are going to switch to a flouride toothpaste for all of us. Not that we expect miracles or anything. DH and I grew up on flouride toothpaste and we still had tons of cavities anyway.
So that's pretty much it. We're still grain- and sugar-free but I am thinking since the bacteria are already there, we're looking at a future with a lot of dentist visits.
Oh, and thank you to everyone for not kicking me while I was down. I told exactly 3 people IRL about the cavities, the responses were:
- "Don't you brush her teeth?"
- "You DO brush her teeth, don't you?"
- "And that's why you should use flouride."
So I'm batting 0 for 3 in the "supportive people IRL" camp. I'm not even going to tell my mother.