Is this crazy?

[InsideOut]

I think most people may think this is crazy, but I'm not so sure. The brief background is that X and I have a son (8 months), I've filed for sole custody (haven't been to court yet), DS and I have moved out, X has too many issues to count but is not a bad person.

The potentially crazy part is that I really want another baby with X. Within months of DS' birth I wished I were pregnant again and I still wish I were now. I've always wanted a big family. I really want DS to have a sibling close to his age by the same parents (X and I). I hope to one day meet a man and continue growing a family but am not convinced that I'll ever meet anyone "good enough" for me.

Tell me why this is a bad idea.

Tell me if you understand me.

Tell me if you've BTDT and how it played out.

X and I have had conversations about having another baby, and agreed to, even though we know we are not a match... but that was prior to me filing.

[bananabee]

Eeek. That does not sound like a good idea. I wouldn't...partly because you never know how things in court will play out. Also, if you're pregnant with his child, the divorce can't be final until the child is born (at least in my state).

You never know what will happen in life. I would take my chances on finding someone new who could really be a good partner and dad. Also, how would it look to a new partner if you had a child with your X after you'd left him? Might be hard for them to trust you.

I want another baby badly, too. Hopefully Mr. Sooo-Much-Better-Than-STBX is right around the corner.

[InsideOut]

LOL ok, your first word was enough of an answer. I guess if I really saw no problem with it I wouldn't have to ask other people's opinions. Thanks for replying. BTW, we were never married, we were common-law for almost 3 years. Together for 5.