Well, this is less about me and more about my nanny. Currently I work 4 days per week full-time (11 hours including my commute, 4 days per week). My nanny has just told me she is expecting twins in October. Actually, he 40th week is in mid-October. She is hoping to continue working but I have serious worries. I am a single-mom and going through a lot this year. Because I have only so much work flexibility, a dependable nanny is critical. Now, she is a dream - a real modern Mary Poppins. So, I desperately want to make things work for her. I had agreed previously that if she had a baby she would be welcome to bring the baby w/ her to work. But I am worried, and I am concerned that her expections (and likely mine) are unrealistic. I have two boys, they will be nearly 5 and age 8 when the twins are due. She has no other children and little to no experience w/ babies. For example, she seemed suprised when I talked w/ her about how little newborns sleep and how long that sleepless period lasts. She thought they "woke up" every two hours and that was it - that they went right back to sleep. My impression was that she was not aware of how exhausting the newborn stage is. I only have experience w/ singletons, so it is hard for me to know how it is with twins.
So - a few questions - and I would very much appreciate your thoughts/feedback about how to navigate this situation.
1. I have to leave for work at 7:00am possibly earlier (6:30) with some work changes that are due to take place NLT August. My feeling was that it would be impossible for her to make it to the house by that hour. Thoughts?
2. Can she realistically care for twins and two older children? Remember, I am paying her for childcare, so it isn't exactly the same as her being home with some kids of her own. I need to depend on her to take my kids to/from preschool and school, appointments, etc.
3. How likely is bedrest w/ a high risk twin pregnancy? It seems likely to me. I have to talk to her and encourage her to talk to her doctor about this more specifically. She is 40 and has fibroids and has had multiple miscarriages in the past. She has already had an epsiode of unexplained bleeding at 12 weeks (which stopped and all was ok, thank goodness).
4. If you were in a similar situation as a nanny and had twins, at what point (if ever) did you feel like returning to work on a 1230 - 530 schedule woudl have been realistic. (I can arrange alternate care for the kids for the morning, as one possible senario.)
Thanks for any thoughts. Any resources you have that I can pass to her, advise, encoruagement, etc.would be most welcome. I really want to make it work for all of us, but I am getting very very worried.