To have this baby or not? - Page 2

[SeekingSerenity]

(((hugs))) I have no advice, but wanted to wish you strength and love and luck. You have a hard choice to make, and in the end you are the only one who can decide. Listen to your heart, and be true to yourself. I truly wish you the best, regardless of your choice. No one deserves to be abused, and you have plenty enough to deal with right now.

[bradensmommy17]

Wow, this made me emotional just reading this. I do have to agree that being a single mother in the position you would be in would not be easy at all. I am a single mother, and it's hard to stomach the fact that one day I will have to explain to my son that his own Dad abandoned him. On top of being a single mother, I am a young mom. That makes it even harder. Keep  in mind though that if you do decide to keep this child, you will not struggle with trying to provide for baby. There are so many resources out there to help you, it's unbelievable. People look down on others who recieve help from the government. But the way I llok at things is.. Would you rather have a healthy child and be looked down upon? Or have an unhealthy child, run the risk of having the child awarded to the state because you didn't use the proper resources provided to you because of your pride and words of others? I think NOT!

Either way, remember your options. Yes, adoption and abortion are open at this point. But honestly, ( and this is just an outsiders opinion ) I think it would hurt you more to choose abortion considering the circumstances in your life right now. Raising a child is hard, but living with the kind of decision to abort your child for the rest of your life would be harder.

You are a strong woman, I can see this by reading your words. Have faith in yourself to make the right decision, no matter what it may be.

Keep in contact with me if you want. Keep your head up, and dry the tears.

Wish you all the comfort and security in the world.

[glorysmom]

My heart goes out to you.  I am so sorry things are so hard for you right now.  Just know that this too will pass and it won't always be so hard.  Having been through both abortion and single parenting I just want to say that neither road is an easy one.   I think you already know your answer.  You will be supported in it.  LISTEN TO YOUR HEART!  Peace be with you.

[K1329]

What a difficult position to be in. I'm so sorry youre going through this.
My thought is... prior to finding yourself pg, do/did you picture yourself a parent at some point? Ive always known I was meant to have children , yet, my sister has always known she didn't want to parent. If you picture yourself a parent, the circumstances might not be ideal, but, my thought is to try to embrace it. I have a friend who aborted a baby in her 20's & now, later in life, cannot conceive due to health issues - i guess we never know what the future holds. Plus, recognize that with pregnancy hormones in play, your decision making capabilities are reduced - it might take longer than you expect to come to a decision.
Best of luck, whatever you decide.