and by extension, stop the co sleeping arrangement we currently have.
DH and I have had a discussion about needing our personal time back at night and we both feel as though having the LO in the bed with us has really augmented our sex life to a level we arent comfortable with. I dont want this to turn into a discussion about whether or not to have sex in the same room as a baby, or people telling me to move to the couch, or whatever. Bottom line is: DH works 14 hours a day. Sex on the couch or the bathroom floor is okay every once in a while, which is why we are only having sex every once in a while. Regardless, we need our bed back for other stuff too, massages and just cuddling without having to say "be still, be still, she is about to wake up." DD is a light sleeper and we live in a small apartment, so we've been interrupted even when we take it to the couch in the other room.
So, we have a side porch right next to the living room. We had our bedroom out there when we were childless (during warm months). We dont have air conditioning, so it is SO much nicer to sleep outside. We will have airconditioning in the living room, which is where I plan to have her sleep. Im wondering about three things:
1. She's currently in a montessori floor bed in our room (which she stays in until about 1 am). Should I move that bed into the living room even though we will actually be in different rooms? Im worried about her crawling around and getting into stuff. If she wakes up happy, she doesnt cry, so I wouldnt hear her.
2. When she sleeps in a different room from me, she always sleeps longer and more soundly. How long is normal to go at her age (12 months) without nursing. One night when we slept on the couch, she slept for 10 hours and went a total of 13 hours without nursing. That is the longest she has ever gone. She didnt seem starving when she woke up, but is it healthy to go that long?
3. Should I nightwean before we move her out of the bed, or should I nightwean without changing the sleeping arrangment and then once she is sleeping through the night, then move our bedroom?