Should I say I planned it or oops?

[dayiscoming2006]

So, I'm really a bit torn whether I should be completely honest and say I we planned to have our baby at home with just my husband, me and the kiddos or whether I should say wow, I must have waited too long and the baby came out and seemed healthy so we just stayed home.

I'm really starting to lean toward going the honest route.

I was thinking to take baby to our family practitioner probably a day or 2 after she is born. He's been pretty cool with us. He doesn't make any fuss about our choice to not vaccinate and even says he gets our reasoning though he personally has chosen to vaccinate his own kids. So, I feel he might be as easy-going as we can find. We've already mentioned him being the baby's doctor and he said that would be fine.

Also, I'm Rh-. I am not sensitized at this point, but was curious if it's common for family practice docs to have Rhogam?

So, when dealing with the doctor and the vital statistics people, should I just be honest and say we planned a birth with baby at home with just her family or what would you recommend?

Any personal experiences would be excellent. Thanks!!!

[Tumble Bumbles]

Edited for privacy concerns.

Edited by Tumble Bumbles - 4/9/11 at 2:00pm

[Caitlin0919]

We'll probably be honest with family about UC, but I think we'll probably just tell the OB and the pedi that it was an oops. We're in a smaller community and I can't imagine finding someone who would be open or accepting of UC here. Plus, people here seem to be a bit more nosy and I just don't want to have to deal with police or CPS or any other crazy thing that someone might try to pull if they knew.

[dayiscoming2006]

Thanks for your thoughts ladies and thanks for the info.

Anyone else have any input? 

[Mamatoabunch]

W/ the dr I would just say it was a HB. I would never in that situation say UC. As to vital statistics it will matter, I would say a HB w/o a midwife or dr present.

[ElizabethE]

Our kids' pediatrician was aware at the time of the appointment that it was unassisted. I didn't tell him that it was planned, and he didn't ask. He even did FMLA paperwork for us so my husband could stay home with me, since my midwives were no longer in service to me to vouch for a birth.

One disadvantage I could see to claiming an "oops" is that they may try to overcompensate with concern, maybe offer all the typical tests and checks and even more that a typical newborn to docs or midwives would be subject to. You know, just to be safe. Ours was totally cool. I think he understands who we are though.