Potty Learning Tribe! - Page 3

[Chamomile Girl]

Originally Posted by pranava 

The learning I had to do was one thing I didn't count on in this adventure.  I still don't know what to do about standing in line.  A couple of times now DS has said he needed to go while standing in line at the store.  I've had to learn how to stand in a public restroom to block DS from touching all the yucky things, how to pack a diaper bag for multiple pee accidents, how to sit at the very back of a public toilet myself and hold DS in front of me to pee(fold up travel potty seats are NOT working for us - holding him up while standing in front of him just resulted in me getting peed on!), and I'm sure I'm not done learning

Try putting him on the seat backwards while you hold him up. It has the added bonus that he can see his pee hit the water!

[farmheart]

If it's not too late I'd love to jump in on the village here!

little "potty" intro..

Let me start by saying I love/hate relationship with TODDLERHOOD. Love my kids with all my heart but blow a lot of "horse lips" during our rough phases ( you know what I mean)

my DD was completly out of diapers in one weekend (it just connected with her) at 19 months....uhhh I was spoiled!!! haha

my DS who is now 18 mo has been EC'ing part time since 4 months and I am just so done with diapers. He has a beautifully strong personality ( you know when he is up he is UP and vice versa) anyway he has always hated diaper changes with a passion so I just that is it no more diapers two months ago. some days are awesome some are miss after miss... my most frstrating thing is the pooping... I am not seeing any cues.. he jst goes and standing p while playing... I just breathe and tell myself everyday is a day closer to pooping in the potty!!

[pranava]

Originally Posted by Chamomile Girl 



Try putting him on the seat backwards while you hold him up. It has the added bonus that he can see his pee hit the water!

I've heard people suggest this before, and in a way it makes sense to have a boy start out backward because that is the way they will end up when they learn to pee standing up.  But, do you have to take their pants all the way off for this?  I'm trying to imagine the logistics. 

I don't have the slightest idea of how to teach him to pee standing up.  There's no male in his life right now to show him the ropes.  I think I will tackle that later!  Like when he's 3 or 4

[Everrgreen]

pranava - pants would definitely need to be off to face them backwards.  I'm also solo parenting a boy and have no intention of introducing the idea of peeing standing up to him.  That can come later.

DS is continuing to be a pro at pottying as long as he has no pants on :/  When I put pants on him he has little leaks and immediately says that he needs to pee on the potty. 

[bignerpie]

I'd like to join! My son turned 2 in February, and I'm due in September. I'd love to have my son out of diapers before the new baby arrives, but I'm not sure it's going to happen. I got him a little potty, but he thinks it's a toy box!

He is now starting to tell me when he poops, so I think he's getting close. He is not much of a talker yet, so we are still in that difficult stage where he can't express what he wants, and I have a hard time figuring it out. I started to teach him some baby signs when he was younger, but I was never consistent about it. Maybe I will try teaching him the potty sign now.

[farmheart]

pants don't neccessarily have to come off but I think it helps. you could always put the pants around the ankles hold the ankles up higher than the bottom and if need be point his member down. I know that sounds complicated but it really isn't. My DS is at the point where he will only go if everything is off his legs/ and bottom. We have tried pulling the underwear off just one leg but he won't have that. might work for you though!

[les_oiseau]

yay!! I can chime in, my 2yo dd has decided it is time to start going on the potty! :)  It started with her sleeping in a big girl bed a couple nights ago and now she has decided it's time to grow up. She's taking her diapers off and going on the potty, and deciding at random times she needs to brush her teeth :)  When my ds potty trained he pretty much just went without a diaper (we spent a lot of time outside that spring and summer), so I have never dealt with training pants before. Can you mamas suggest anything?  I def prefer clothe but cannot really afford to spend much. I need to hurry too! I can tell she's not going to be tolerating diapers much longer

[aynekal]

Raising my hand!!! DSS just turned 3 April 12! YAY, we are expecting DS in June and I would LOVE to have DSS potty learned by then!!! BUT it has been such a nightmare, I dont know WHERE to begin, lol.  We have tried cheerios in the potty and he won't go because its dirty!  We have tried having him "watch" daddy go potty, but he says "Daddy needs privacy!" We have tried the naked method, but he just casually sits down in his chair with his snacks and takes monster dumps!!!! Literally the whole house smells for days!!! (Sorry for the TMI).  We have tried the celebratory, "I used the potty like a big boy dance" and it works, until the next time he decides "hes not ready to be a big boy now".  Oh, and he doesn't sleep in a pull up overnight, because he "doesn't want to potty on Lighting McQueen!!" He literally holds it through the night because he doesn't want to wet his bed, lol how sweet!!

Although, I LOL at this kid sometimes, I do wish I could identify the potty learning "roadblocks" so I can help him through this, but I honestly think he is pulling the wool over our eyes!! DH and I have NO idea what to do with this kiddo :)

[BRmama]

Hi, can I join too? I'm right in the middle of potty training my 26 month old, and we're ecing our five month old.  

So far he's going in the potty by himself, haven't had a miss yet (knock on wood) but it took about a month of persistance and working with him to get him to go. Now he goes standing up which I never taught him to do. I figured when he is ready to do it standing up he would. He puts his smart potty between his legs and goes which now makes it harder for our next goal. I'm trying to teach him to put his pants down when he needs to go. At home he is naked and just goes when he needs to go. Also he wont use his other potty (bblp) which stays in the car when we are running errands etc. I haven't tackled a public toilet yet only because he is afraid of our big toilet at home. Oh yeah and poops are a whole different story. I catch them but I want him to just use the potty when he needs to poop. He's non verbal because we're bilingual. Well he's just now slowly repeating words back to me but other than that it's mumble.  So that makes it extra hard when I need him to tell me when he needs to poop so I can put him on his potty. 

I guess so far what worked for us was breaking the whole thing into little tasks. Like at first we put the potty in the living room, and checked out a bunch of  cartoon dvd's from the library of kids going potty. Also ecing our five month old made my two year old saw all the attention that the five month old was getting he also wanted to be part of it so he just started going. 

Then since he is bottomless the next part is to work on him putting his underwear/training pants down when he needs to go. That's going to be hard because he  doesn't mind being wet. When he masters that then I'll move the potty to our bathroom and we'll work on that, etc.

I guess this can be overwhelming but it was the only way it worked for my son so he wouldn't get overwhelmed plus lots of praises and consistencies. 

Thanks for making this thread, it's great!

[mckittre]

My 26 month old is quite good at taking himself to the potty for pee and poop - but only when naked at home.  He goes without saying a thing when he has diapers on, and we tried underwear for a day or two a few weeks ago, but it didn't work at all, he just treated them like a diaper.  He has never once told us when he has to go (he's incredibly verbal, so that's not the issue), and he can't manage pants by himself (though he can take underwear off, slowly).  I really want him done by the end of the summer, but I just don't know what a good next step is for us.  How to get to where he can ask us for help and go somewhere else than in our house?  I'm a little worried that by continuing this "naked bottom at home" plan for longer we're just reinforcing the idea that it's OK to go when he's wearing pants, and the potty is only when you're naked. 

[farmheart]

Originally Posted by les_oiseau 

yay!! I can chime in, my 2yo dd has decided it is time to start going on the potty! :)  It started with her sleeping in a big girl bed a couple nights ago and now she has decided it's time to grow up. She's taking her diapers off and going on the potty, and deciding at random times she needs to brush her teeth :)  When my ds potty trained he pretty much just went without a diaper (we spent a lot of time outside that spring and summer), so I have never dealt with training pants before. Can you mamas suggest anything?  I def prefer clothe but cannot really afford to spend much. I need to hurry too! I can tell she's not going to be tolerating diapers much longer

does she need to have anything on her? usually if they don't want to wear diapers I take that as a sign to not put any on them.... even though we use diapers while learning sometimes. I really wish it could just be none at all because it makes the most sense if you think about.... we don't wet ourselves! haha

[cmftblynumb]

Originally Posted by mckittre 

My 26 month old is quite good at taking himself to the potty for pee and poop - but only when naked at home.  He goes without saying a thing when he has diapers on, and we tried underwear for a day or two a few weeks ago, but it didn't work at all, he just treated them like a diaper.  

we're in the same boat, kind of:  i started putting underwear on DD since this morning and she just sits on the potty with it.  perhaps i'll try for a week and see if there's any change.  to teach her how to take her undies off i put her underwear on a doll that she plays with and from time to time i went to DD and said i think your dolly needs to go pee-pee and showed her how to take the undies off the doll etc.  she did this once and then showed no interest.  i will try (really hard!!) to do this for a week.

to the mamas of kids who arent yet verbally communicating that they need to use the potty, what do you put on your child if you have to be out with them for a long time and cant take your potty along?  (i had a bunch of errands to run this morning and must confess that i took the easy way out and relied on diapers.)

[lactatinggirl]

DD made it in the potty at home for the first time today! She did it the first time at my in-law's and then once at my parents' house and I was beginning to feel like it was me, but she did it! Yay! 

[farmheart]

I have taken my son out in underwear to run errands and just offered at the bathroom at the grocery store... and if he didn't go offer at the next stop etc. etc. most of the time he is too busy to have an accident (if that makes sense) and he wants to hold it until going home. He isn't verbal btw

[BRmama]

DD made it in the potty at home for the first time today! She did it the first time at my in-law's and then once at my parents' house and I was beginning to feel like it was me, but she did it! Yay! 

That's great! Did she go on a little potty at your in laws? I'm asking because I have an extra potty that I'm considering leaving at my in laws since when we go there I take the easy way out and put him in diapers . I know I need to stop that, I guess my next phase is getting him to go in public. 

to the mamas of kids who arent yet verbally communicating that they need to use the potty, what do you put on your child if you have to be out with them for a long time and cant take your potty along?

I'm thinking about putting some kind of training pants on him but not sure which one yet. I have to admit, as I mentioned above I too a lot of times take the easy way out when I'm running errands but my next step is to stop doing that. If we're out and about for a long time and my son needs to go even when he's in diapers he'll start crying or make the "shhh" sound which is what I was doing with him and do with his brother when I caught their pee's, then I would have to stop and change him in my car. Not sure what I'm going to do yet, probably what  farmheart suggested (thanks for the suggestion btw) but offer the potty that I keep in my car instead, since we're still getting over the fear of big toilets. 

[lactatinggirl]

So funny potty training story: At my in-laws' today DD peed in her pants, so I took them off. I'm sitting there telling the in-laws that she's making progress, but it didn't click like I thought it would when she started actually making it. Of course, I turn around and she just did a HUGE poop in the potty! I swear she just likes to prove me wrong. :-P

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Originally Posted by BRmama 

That's great! Did she go on a little potty at your in laws? I'm asking because I have an extra potty that I'm considering leaving at my in laws since when we go there I take the easy way out and put him in diapers . I know I need to stop that, I guess my next phase is getting him to go in public. 

Yeah, we have a little potty. We just take it everywhere with us. She uses it at home too. There have been some times when she's told me that she needs to potty, but then sees the big toilet and starts to scream "no potty!!!" so I don't make her, then she pees in her pants directly after. Just decided that it's easier to take it with us and keep things consistent. After she starts making it in the potty all the time I'll "wean" her off the little potty. 

[mamabear15]

Please help! My mom is pressuring me to potty train my 27 month DD who she babysits part-time while I'm at work. DD is very ashamed of pooping and hides or says "sorry Mama" when she poops. She know when she is about to pee but doesn't give me any warning. We have a little potty at both houses. She is very afraid of both little and big potty. My mom wants to put her in underware and let her learn that way. But DD is very sensitive and I'm afraid that having accidents will only upset her more. She is my first and I have no idea how to potty train a sensitive girl. Is she just not ready or should I give it a try? Any advice on how to approach this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

[lactatinggirl]

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Originally Posted by mamabear15 

Please help! My mom is pressuring me to potty train my 27 month DD who she babysits part-time while I'm at work. DD is very ashamed of pooping and hides or says "sorry Mama" when she poops. She know when she is about to pee but doesn't give me any warning. We have a little potty at both houses. She is very afraid of both little and big potty. My mom wants to put her in underware and let her learn that way. But DD is very sensitive and I'm afraid that having accidents will only upset her more. She is my first and I have no idea how to potty train a sensitive girl. Is she just not ready or should I give it a try? Any advice on how to approach this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

My DD is kind of similar. She always apologizes when she potties and she used to go hide (and get really mad at you if you found her!) when she was pooping. I don't think it's being ashamed though. I'd say that she's just learning that people like privacy when they're going potty. 

What's worked with DD is keeping the potty in the same room as her so she can go over to it. When she has accidents and she's apologizing over and over I just tell her "It's alright Peanut, just try to tell Mama next time you need to potty and we'll get you to your little potty." If DD tells me no when I suggest the potty, I don't push her. I try to respect her boundaries in that way. I just remind her every so often and every time she's gone on the potty it's been on her own accord. 

I don't see any harm in trying, but make sure that your mother knows that it doesn't always work the first time. If it's pretty obvious that your DD isn't ready after a few days-week, then she needs to realize that and wait a month or two before trying again. Also, tell your mom that it works better for a lot of kids if they have bare bums. It means that accidents are more epic, but they're more likely to make it to the potty rather than just using their undies as a diaper-replacement. 

[mamabear15]

Thank you lactatinggirl for your suggestions. Very much appreciated! We will try the bare bums way and see how things go.

[BRmama]

We will try the bare bums way and see how things go.

We're also bare bums around here. My son at first was hiding as well and sometimes would bring us and show us what he did. He still hasn't had a poop in the potty yet, I also think it's more privacy related than anything. Just follow your heart when it comes to pottying your lo. Set some ground rules and boundaries with your mom (that's what I had to do with mine and everyone else that thought my son was too young to be potty trained). Too bad that they're not my house in the morning as soon as ds wakes up crying because he peed on the sheets and I have to wash them and on top of that he's still tired . (It's gotten better though since we've ec'ed. Don't give up you're doing great! 

Lactatinggirl, that's too funny about your daughter, I thought only my ds did that (proved me wrong on things lol)