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post #81 of 214

Alright, done with finals, and finally have time to really post here.

 

We started a 1 time a day EC when ds was 3 or 4 months old, because I found myself just sitting in bed every morning waiting for him to poop so I could change his diaper, which I decided was silly.  A couple months after that I discovered he always pee after naps, so it became a 3 time a day EC.  Then when he was about 18 mos he started asking to go pottty sometimes!  I was shocked, and not really ready to go for the full time training.  I've been putting him in Gerber cotton training pants with an extra soaker layer, and wool longies over the top.  I like this combo, because it keeps things dry if he pees, but it's really easy to tell if he's wet (the wool pants feel really warm, but not wet) Also, ds can pull them down himself and sit on his little potty if he needs to.  I wish I could find training pants in 18 mo size, but nobody seems to carry the potty scotty ones.  He's really good these days about pottying when we're out and about.  For a couple of weeks he would ask every time we were out, but couldn't get comfortable on the big potties in stores and things.  Then one day it just clicked for him and now he pees no problem on any kind of toilet.  I've been putting him in diapers while we're out, because I'm afraid of him peeing on the floor at a store or something, but it's getting really cumbersome to take him potty and then somehow get his diaper back on him.  I bought this pattern yesterday, and I think I'm going to make up a couple of the waterproof version  for outings and night time.

 

Night time is another issue I can't  decide how to handle.  I'd really like to work on his sleep this summer, and  probably night wean as well.  We've had trouble in the past with him not being able fall back asleep easily after he wakes in the night.  I'm talking like 2 or 3 hours before he settles back down, so I'm wary of taking him potty at night for fear of waking him up too much.  He still pees a lot at night.  How is everyone handling night time?  Maybe if I  night wean him he won't have to pee so much at night? 

 

The only other trouble we're having is ds using potty as a delay tactic for when he doesn't want to go to bed yet, or when I'm leaving to go somewhere.  I hate to ignore his potty requests, but sometimes I know he just went.  He recently figured out that I take his potty requests more seriously if he starts grunting like he has to poop!  I'm really afraid of potty learning getting into the power struggle territory.  I just do not want to go there.  So I'm wondering how people handle their little ones crying wolf.  Currently, for bed time, I take him before we get jammies on, and then if he asks he gets one more trip, but after that it's all done potty. It seems to work alright.

post #82 of 214

I don't know if it is some seriously good vibes since I subscribed to this thread or what :)

 

DS has always had the freedom to run naked when we are home.  Misses here and there.  Been part time EC'in since birth. 

 

This past week has been fantastic!  On Monday, I was washing dishes while he was dancing and I looked up and he was on the potty!!!  Signing potty as well!  WHOOO HOOO!!!  I gave him a big high five and he continued dancing.  I was so darn excited that I didn't have to ask him to go.  I texted my husband telling him the news.  I got to see it himself on Tuesday.  SO funny what brings you joy as a parent! 

 

 

post #83 of 214

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Angelorum thanks for the link. I just recently bought the gerber training pants for him but I was looking for a site that had some kind of pattern for me to just make some for ds. We tried night time ec with ds and had the same problem. Since we cosleep we would turn the light off and go back to sleep. Ds tossed and turned  and eventually went to sleep. On the nights that he cried we just held him and explained to him since he wanted to play that everyone and everything including his toys went to sleep. Needless to say after a few nights of that I put night time pottying on hold for a while till i figure out a gentler way. I can't complain much tho since he's been doing awesome lately during the day.

 

 

 

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SO funny what brings you joy as a parent!

 

That's so true. We get so excited when ds pee's in the potty.

post #84 of 214

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Night time is another issue I can't  decide how to handle.  I'd really like to work on his sleep this summer, and  probably night wean as well.  We've had trouble in the past with him not being able fall back asleep easily after he wakes in the night.  I'm talking like 2 or 3 hours before he settles back down, so I'm wary of taking him potty at night for fear of waking him up too much.  He still pees a lot at night.  How is everyone handling night time?  Maybe if I  night wean him he won't have to pee so much at night? 


From what I read, night time dryness is purely developmental. DD night weaned a few months back and I haven't noticed a decrease in pee in her diaper in the mornings. The big thing for us is getting her diaper off before she pees in the morning because that one is a BIG one. 

post #85 of 214

Yeah, he pees a ton first thing in the morning, but that's usually on the potty.  Now that it's finally warmer here, I put him to bed without pants on, just his diaper, so it's easier for me to just stick a finger in the leg and tell if he's wet.  I think I'll just try and take note of when in the night he's peeing, and then maybe I'll experiment with sitting him on the potty.  I have noticed he's usually dry for the first few hours of the night, and pees at his first waking, 3 or 4 hours after bedtime.  Sometimes it seems like he doesn't wake up quite enough to pee, but then wakes again 20 minutes later because his bladder is full. 

 

I got "Diaper Free Before 3" from the library today.  Looks good so far, but I just started it.  Excited to get some good ideas and tips though.

post #86 of 214

DS uses the potty 99.9% of the time as long as he's naked.  Even at night, I leave him naked and he stays dry - BUT I do need to take him to the potty when he starts to squirm in the early morning hours (he is sort of half awake and not aware enough to remember about the potty on his own :P)

 

So, this past week I have started testing him with wearing pants or boxers.  It's not going well.  He has told me he had to go potty a couple times, but mostly he just pees (and even pooped this morning!) in his boxers.  I have to be constantly with him and reminding him.  When he's naked he goes on his own, even if I'm not with him.  But with boxers on he forgets unless I remind him.  I'm going to keep trying though.  Hopefully he will get it with more practice.

post #87 of 214



Hey there Angelorum

we used to have great difficulties with nightime for the same reasons - getting out of bed woke him up too much and he would get upset as well.  For several weeks now (in response to a diaper rash from staying in a wet diaper all night) we have been using a quart-sized yogurt container in bed, while nursing, with a headlamp on facing the wall to aim with.  I do this AFTER he has already peed in his diaper once, so I don't have to be 'on alert' all night long.  He has some nights when he doesn't want to use it, but he usually stays dry those nights until morning.  I have him sleeping on a wool puddle pad with a recieving blanket on it, so if I don't wake up enough and he goes, it usually doesn't mean wet sheets.  It is a good idea to have a jar with a cover nearby as well to decant into (we have had a few morning accidents where I spilled the cold pee - YUCK!).  He likes this so much more than getting out of bed, he often tells me he has to go when he wakes up at night ("pee!") and even reaches for the container in the morning to go, which is a pleasant surprise.  He is 17 mos, so similar age wise.

 

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Night time is another issue I can't  decide how to handle.  I'd really like to work on his sleep this summer, and  probably night wean as well.  We've had trouble in the past with him not being able fall back asleep easily after he wakes in the night.  I'm talking like 2 or 3 hours before he settles back down, so I'm wary of taking him potty at night for fear of waking him up too much.  He still pees a lot at night.  How is everyone handling night time?  Maybe if I  night wean him he won't have to pee so much at night? 

 

 

post #88 of 214

What about poo???? Does anyone else have a child that flat out refuses to try to poo on the potty? I'm not sure what to do. He's naked at home or in underpants and using the potty successfully (still a lot of accidents, but it's new) I'm just not sure what to do about bowel movements... He tries to hold it in...or if he's in underpants he will go in them. I don't want to force him to go on the potty but how can I convince him? He is almost 3! Thanks for any suggestions...

post #89 of 214

DD won't poop on the potty either.

 

Part of the problem is that she doesn't give any indication when she might need to poop.  I can't catch her and neither can her daycare teacher -- she says the other kids have about a ten minute wind-up to the big event.  And there's no consistent time of day, either.

 

Someone told me that they asked their kid if their tummy felt funny, to help them make the connection between that and the need to poop.  So far that hasn't worked for DD, though.

post #90 of 214

Well, I've been keeping ds in trainers pretty exclusively during the day and he's doing great!  I try and watch the clock and make sure I take him regularly, but yesterday he asked to go before I decided to take him almost every single time!  I've even gotten brave enough to take him out in his trainers, and he went potty out like a champ!  We're planning an hour trip in the car this afternoon, and then we'll be out for a few hours before heading back home.  I think I'll keep him in his trainers but put one of his diaper covers over the top.  Wish us luck! 

 

As for night time, I'm focusing this week on making his bed and nap times really consistent, because they haven't been these last couple of weeks, and after he's on a more predictable schedule, I'll try taking him potty at his first night waking, and see if he can get used to that routine. 

post #91 of 214

DD is doing awesome! We miss like 1 pee a day now and it's usually if I am on the phone or she is with DH. We have a lot of issues when we go out though. Some times she does great but she won't pee when we are out..So if she's in her undies she will hold it like 4 hrs...if she is in a dipe she will hold it the same usually but when it becomes a serious NEED to go she will in the dipe. I offer every hour when out but she won't go!

post #92 of 214
so freaking frustrated over here... I haven't read the whole thread because the posts about how AWESOME everyone is doing make me do this greensad.gif.. but awesome for you guys!


DS hardly pooped in a diaper from 6-18 months. He would cue us and we would potty him. He seemed to hate pooping in his diaper. then around 18 months he started not wanting us to potty him and seemed to prefer pooping in the diaper. We have had his potty chair in the bathroom since he was about 12 months, and he has gone through stages here and there of using it and then flat out refusing and then using it again. He is now just about 28 months.

If he is naked at home, he seems to be able to notice that he has to pee and be able to hold it for a little while, but the last three days have me super frustrated.

all three incidents were right before bed. four nights ago he was naked, we were brushing teeth (He uses his potty with the lid closed as a stool to reach the sink) and he started crossing his legs and doing the dance, so I asked him if he wanted to potty, he said yes and sat down, then got up and facing the potty grabbed the handles, lifted one leg and peed like a dog on the closed lid of his potty.

The next night it was the same thing, but he actually was sitting to pee, but his penis wasn't pointed down so he basically peed on the floor. This I counted as a victory though, because at least he was TRYING to pee in the potty!

Last night, despite frequent offers to potty, he peed on the living room floor. DH got mad and made him sit on the potty anyway.. I was like, he already peed, what is the point? I tried to explain that we didn't want to yell at him for missing because that just makes it worse.. but I think he was just frustrated..

Tonight we were outside in the garden, he started doing the crossed leg potty dance so we ran inside and I offered his potty, which he refused, then the big potty which he also refused. he said he just wanted to go outside so we went back outside but he said he didn't need to go anymore. I was bringing my plants inside so I just kept doing that and he ended up peeing on the floor again. He looked like he was going to poop so I asked him to go sit on his potty which he did, but nothing.

He seems more aware of his body when naked- in a diaper or even just pants, forget it. he will just pee or poop.

We have been talking about the potty for months and months. at every diaper change I ask him "Where do you make pee? Where do you make poop" and he says every single time "In the potty, not in the diaper!" we have even tried bribes.. he doesn't care about bribes. He just says he is not interested in whatever is being offered.

I *know* that kids will go when they are ready, and if he is peeing on the floor he isn't ready... and that pushing it is probably making it worse.. but it is still frustrating! I want him to be in undies by fall because most of the preschools we are looking at have no diaper policies and we are needing for him to be in a program at least a few mornings a week.
Edited by MadiMamacita - 5/19/11 at 7:55pm
post #93 of 214

MadiMamacita - I'm right here with you with my 27 month old.  He had gotten nearly perfect about the potty while naked, but will instantly soil any pants/diaper/underwear without a second thought.  And now he's started to have accidents on the floor again too.  I also really really want him done with diapers by September.  I'm just starting to try rewards - we'll see if it helps at all. 

post #94 of 214
I'm looking for some advice ...
My DD is almost 21 months. I didn't expect to begin potty learning for a long time, but about 2 weeks ago, she began showing interest. She knows some sign langage, and she signed "pee" and peed in the toilet several times. I was surprised but wanted to support her, so we got a potty seat and some training pants and have been trying to make a go of it.

But now that the novelty has worn off, she doesn't seem interested. When I offer to take her, or remind her to tell me when she needs to go, she just says no. And will often wet herself just a few minutes later. Or if I just carry her to the toilet, she wails "Noooooo" the whole way. She may or may not pee once we're there. She has pooped twice in the toilet, once spontaneously and once when I caught her and rushed to the toilet.

The last few days there's been maybe once or twice a day that she has prompted a catch herself. She does seem to be learning that pee makes her underwear wet, and will sometimes sign after the fact. I've been putting her in sposies (or sposies over training pants) for sleeping and traveling. She doesn't yet understand "if you do this, then you'll get this" so I haven't tried any rewards with her.

Is this good learning in progress? Or is this Mommy trying to force it too soon? Should we keep going, or go back to diapers until she seems more ready?
post #95 of 214

Maybe try introducing potty times at transition periods, so you're not interrupting her play.  Like right after meals, right after waking, etc.  Make it a normal  part of the routine and be really consistent with it, and she'll probably come to expect it and cooperate more readily. 

post #96 of 214

Hi-

 

We started potty training our daughter at 10 months. Until she was 12 months she would go every time we'd sit her on her potty, but now that she's 13 months she tries to stand up or cries whenever I try. It's almost like she prefers to go in her diaper now, sometimes right after I I tried to sit her on the potty. Is there such a thing as potty burn-out? Anyone else encounter this? What to do?? 

post #97 of 214

 

I didn't see this thread yesterday, when I started a new thread. Sheepish.gif But here is what I posted in that thread:

 

My DSS will be 3 in August. We have him full time, hasn't seen bio mom since last October. So potty training along with raising is on me and DH. Which is great. I am not discouraged by this at all. 

 

I haven't pushed potty training on him that much because I have many friends who assure me that most kids aren't completely potty trained until 3 yrs of age. But now I feel like I am behind. 

 

DSS is the only child in the home and loves the attention he gets from DH and I. We have babied him quite a bit. I admit this is a bit my fault but after miscarrying last year I poured my life into DSS. I love this kid so much. But now at 39 lbs and 39 1/2 inches tall, I am hit with the realization that he is not a baby. 

 

We have been talking about potty training. I bought pull ups three months ago, a potty seat when he was a year and a half just to get him used to the idea. He knows that big boys go in the potty, his best friend is a five year old. He tends to be a very independent kid on all other accounts and right on point in development.

 

How do I encourage him without pressuring him?

 

 

post #98 of 214
Thanks, Angelorum. So would I just keep her in diapers, and take her to pee at transition times?

Sorry I don't have any ideas for you, Eden'smom and csekywithlove. I'm interested in the advice you get, though smile.gif
post #99 of 214

It's probably a potty strike, I wouldn't force it
 

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Hi-

 

We started potty training our daughter at 10 months. Until she was 12 months she would go every time we'd sit her on her potty, but now that she's 13 months she tries to stand up or cries whenever I try. It's almost like she prefers to go in her diaper now, sometimes right after I I tried to sit her on the potty. Is there such a thing as potty burn-out? Anyone else encounter this? What to do?? 



 

post #100 of 214

Do you praise her if she goes in the potty? I always clap and say "good job" and then if she misses I say "That's ok we can try the potty next time" She gets upset if she misses but that's all her I never made it a struggle YK? Maybe you DD was excited about it and then she thought it was too much of a PIA? I know if DD is entranced in something I don't offer b/c she will get mad. I try to offer every hour though. She verbally says pee and poop but doesn't usually signal still she will normally just fuss. Any time I am doing something like talking on the phone she will have a miss and then essentially yell at me that I wasn't paying attention. So I try to make sure I have enough time focused on her and set her up with an activity if I need to make a call etc. If you feel your DD may not be ready there is no harm in waiting. I did EC from birth p/t but DD went on a LONG potty strike (like 9 months on and off) and it was fine. When she turned 18 m/o she showed me she was ready and now we are just about "trained". All kids will come to it on their own accord as long as it isn't a power struggle. IMO
 

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I'm looking for some advice ...
My DD is almost 21 months. I didn't expect to begin potty learning for a long time, but about 2 weeks ago, she began showing interest. She knows some sign langage, and she signed "pee" and peed in the toilet several times. I was surprised but wanted to support her, so we got a potty seat and some training pants and have been trying to make a go of it.

But now that the novelty has worn off, she doesn't seem interested. When I offer to take her, or remind her to tell me when she needs to go, she just says no. And will often wet herself just a few minutes later. Or if I just carry her to the toilet, she wails "Noooooo" the whole way. She may or may not pee once we're there. She has pooped twice in the toilet, once spontaneously and once when I caught her and rushed to the toilet.

The last few days there's been maybe once or twice a day that she has prompted a catch herself. She does seem to be learning that pee makes her underwear wet, and will sometimes sign after the fact. I've been putting her in sposies (or sposies over training pants) for sleeping and traveling. She doesn't yet understand "if you do this, then you'll get this" so I haven't tried any rewards with her.

Is this good learning in progress? Or is this Mommy trying to force it too soon? Should we keep going, or go back to diapers until she seems more ready?


 

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