Originally Posted by SallyNichole
I've had to let go of some stuff on my To-Do list. It bothers me but not as much as I was stressing about getting it all done.
I've had to do this and make peace with it as well... unfortunately I still have so many non-negotiable items on there, the stress is starting to creep back in...
Originally Posted by PunkElmo
Getting close indeed!
I don't *think* I've had any contractions (I had SUPER bad cramps for almost 20 years, so I've been told I might not even notice I'm in labor because it won't hurt as much as the menstrual cramps - um... lol? ), but I've definitely had a few days where I've had this "this is getting closer and closer and could really happen at any time" feeling.
Getting my maternity photos done this weekend (bikini/leg wax today - SO excited to have that hair gone - I can't even really see it, but I can FEEL it!)
With DD I had back labor, very different than I thought labor would feel, and wow, did it ever suck. But with DS, it was exactly like mild cramps - the kind I wouldn't even take painkillers for, so I bet you'll do awesome! It was wonderful to just soak in the warm water in the tub - so SO different than back labor and not having a tub!
About a year and a half ago, I had THE WORST period of my life, and it was *infinitely* worse than labor at any stage - nothing I was doing was working to help it, and one of the most ... comforting? parts of labor was the knowledge that I was working towards something amazing with my body, and with that period I had no such knowledge. With the infertility issues, it was insult to injury.
Oooh! I would love a wax - I need to do something! There's nothing worse than pp bleeding and too much hair involved!
Originally Posted by ldeliberato
SallyNichole - I'm right there with you on the carseat! I actually had a dream the other night that I went into labor and freaked out because we had no diapers, no car seat, and I only underwear I had for postpartum were thongs! Awesome. I woke up the next day ready to get stuff done!
However, sadly I'm just not as excited about it as I once was. We found out yesterday that my Grandpa's cancer has returned. He was all clear in the fall, but the latest test shows its back and spread possibly to his bones and spine. We won't know more until next week, but it is sad to take in. It makes me really want this little one to get here soon! I'd like my Grandpa to be able to meet his 7th great grandchild. I keep looking at my belly telling him he is welcome anytime. The painting and cleaning will all get done eventually. I don't even care at this point if its not done before he comes if that means he is here earlier.
Sorry to be a bit of a downer today. It's just what keeps going through my mind.
Your thong dream made me laugh! That would not be any fun at all! And I am so sorry to hear about your grandpa! I hope he's comfortable and getting all that he needs, and I hope your little one is here as soon as reasonable so you can share him with your grandpa! Hugs!
Originally Posted by elonwy
My husband has to go to a conference in Sydney three weeks after my due date and my cousin will be coming out to visit and help. Which is great, she and I are really close and though she doesn't have a ton of experience with new babies, I know she will chip in around the house and be a joy to be around. However, she is talking about bringing her younger sister, who I have not spent more than 3 hours with since I was about 14 years old. There's nothing wrong with her exactly, I just have no idea what she's going to be like. I feel like part of me is being a little selfish or weird about it, but then again, I don't want the drama. I dunno.
I, too, would talk with her about this - post partum, especially with your first, is NOT when you want to figure out if you're comfortable with someone. She may be wonderful, but it's not fair to you. You'll be adjusting to so much, and if you're breastfeeding, it's so much better to get to where you're comfortable with that before feeling like you need to do it around acquaintances - at least that was my experience.
Originally Posted by L&K'smommie
I feel this way all ready and I'm only 34 weeks...so I could still have 2 months left...hopefully this baby will follow its siblings and come by 40 weeks.
AFM: Can I just sleep and do nothing for a few days. I just have no energy, but I look around my house and see so much that needs to be done(mostly cleaning and organizing). Ugh! I feel like I'm nesting but without the productivity of it since I get so tired and sore so quickly.
I'm 33 weeks!! And I feel like I'm so far "behind" so many of you, but just SO ready to go. My first two were born the day after their EDDs, so I'm hoping this one follows suit.
Two days ago, I woke up, ate, made a grocery list, took a shower.... and went right back to bed for two hours. I thought I was going to fall over just getting dried off and getting my clothes on! I did have a hard time sleeping the night before, but good grief.
Originally Posted by jr'smom
I've been having uncomfortable contractions for a few days now. I can't remember if they started getting so strong so soon with my other children. Dare I hope that I could go into labor early this time? Doubtful!
I had a day last week with so many B-Hs... I was basically refusing to pay attention to see if they were regular, but they were definitely getting stronger throughout the day, despite my spending the day doing nothing but hydrating, eating, and alternately sitting & lying on my left side. But they were so intense I couldn't just go one with my day. They HAVE thankfully calmed down - I mean, I'm ready to be done, but I am NOT ready to have a 32 weeker! :) - but now pretty much any movement I make, getting up, sitting down, going to the bathroom, walking, anytime I'm not lying down in bed, and am moving, I'm having another one. I decided to just act like they're nothing and keep going with my days - but same here... I just don't think I had them this early or strong with the first two! So I too am kind of hoping maybe I'll break out with a 37 week baby this time? Only four more weeks if that's the case! ... and yeah. Right. Doubtful. :)
Originally Posted by becca_howell
So, did I tell you girls I finally e-mailed my mom? I told her I was tired of being called fat and wide. She apologized and hasn't said anything negative since. Quite thankful for that!
I had a miserable night, and I know it is related to the fact that my sister (26) who is a drug addict in a treatment facility is being moved to a facility in Lancaster, PA next week. We are in northeast FL. That's gonna be over a 14 hour drive. She'll be there for two years, and I seriously doubt we'll ever be able to go see her. It's going to be hard being so far away, but I'm looking forward to a little peace in the family. She's always got drama going on, and this may make things a little calmer.
Oh, and I started a new sewing project. I took advice from my doula and made my cloth pads longer, wider, and the tabs wider and longer. Now, i need to make some more! So, I bought some flannel and I'll be getting to work this week.
Becca, that's awesome that you told your mother how you feel! I hope she continues to respect you!
I'm so sorry you're having so much stress over your little sister. My little brother - who's 28 - also went through struggling with addiction a few years ago. His recovery was almost as painful as his addiction, as far as witnessing it. I hope she finds success up in PA, but it's hard when they're so far away. I hope the distance will be good for her, in terms of maybe escaping old habits!
And I hope you have some better nights! I have so wished I had a place for my sewing machine.. I'd really like to make some things, including some pads for myself!
Originally Posted by LeighPF
Right now I am taking a break from the second to last round of packing.
Monday, we buy the house. We have to bring Monkey to the closing so we will be hauling a lot of stickers. Afternoon try to put up baby gates on the stairs, which will be interesting as we have never had gates before.
Tuesday. I am 37 weeks. We move the Piano. My husband does not want to watch them haul it out since he feels bad that it is so heavy (it is a grand) so he will take Monkey to preschool for the first time. Once in the house we have to figure out exactly where to put it.
Wednesday. Monkey goes to back up daycare downtown with husband (this is my favourite of his job perks) and the packers come to do the kitchen and whatever else I have decided not to do. I have no idea what do do in the afternoon.
Thursday. Monkey in daycare again, movers move all our stuff.
Friday. Monkey in daycare. Midwife with out him for the second time this pregnancy. I have a friend coming in the afternoon to help me set up the kitchen since I am terrified of climbing up on a stool to get into the high cabinets.
Baby is still heads down but curled up to the side, which means I feel great when he/she is not trying to stick her feet out of the side of my belly. GBS negative. No contractions which I am sure I will worry about in a few weeks. We got the extra car seat into our Pastor's car, since she will drive us home from the hospital. I wrote up Monkey's care instructions but still need to pack his bag and put the final touches on my hospital bags.
Your move sounds WAY more involved than mine was!! I hope it all comes together so you can relax for a bit before your LO arrives!
AFM- Forgive me - I'm going to throw a fit, in a bit of a WWYD situation:
Dh and I had a MAJOR throwdown about our moms, and who is and is not coming after the baby is born. He had agreed to everything I said about having my mom here, and when, - she'll likely get here a week or so after the baby is born and stay for a couple of weeks - but then I wanted my aunt to come down from VA (she wanted to come down, too) to hang out with the kids and I and Mom. Dh will most likely be back on the road within a week of the baby arriving, so I don't even know why he's having a fit, but he flipped out and said he doesn't want ANYone here to the first month of the baby's life. Part of me is ok with that, and part of me is NOT. I mean... we just moved here. I don't have a support system. It would be me, the two kids - who do help a LOT, but still - and the baby. And that's it. For 3-5 days at a time, depending on any given trip dh is sent on.
He says he just wants us to have that time together... but we wouldn't, he wouldn't even be there. I think he's mad that I told him I don't want his mother there until after mine leaves. I'm not just a pita daughter in law - she's an alcoholic. A very controlled, regimented alcoholic, but nonetheless. Her schedule is KEY to her being a tolerable person, and she'd be coming from CA to SC, meaning her schedule will be trashed while she's here. Add to this my frame of mind post partum. (I thought I was going to strangle her over Christmas... really, and honestly I usually do get along with her fairly well when she's got her schedule intact, and I'm not a hormonal mess) Plus her faux sense of what she thinks is propriety - she can't handle things like breastfeeding. Or boobs. Or blood. Or genitals. Or placentas. Or poop. And I happily leave her out of all of that, but we don't plan on moving pre-baby, and we live in a studio apartment. Seriously. So there won't be a place to hide if she's here at our place. So she'll want us, on HER schedule, to meet her here or there so she can see the baby if she's here in town. Uh... maybe. If I freaking feel like it. Add that she didn't come to see my son until he was TWO YEARS OLD.
Add to THAT... the woman has been talking about moving to FL since we moved to SC. Which is fine. A nice safe distance, if you will. But she's been talking about coming out here this month or in May, and then renting a car and driving down to FL. But then she wouldn't see the baby. MY dumb@$$ didn't jump on that wagon when I had the chance and really encourage her to come out early because somewhere in my own head I thought she was silly to do this without seeing the baby. BUT, DUH... that would've solved all of my problems regarding her... and then we'd go see them in FL when I was darn good and ready. I really don't even know if she wants to see the baby, because if there's anything my MIL cannot stand, its not being the center of attention. One of the reasons she was so ridiculous at Christmas was because with my being pregnant, I was getting WAY too much attention from any and everyone we met. I really think she doesn't want to see the baby, she just wants to go to FL before the "real" heat gets going. Which.. whatever. Fair enough.
Either way, dh is still bent about it all, and saying I'm "mean" for not wanting her here to begin with. In no other area of our lives does he ever allow her to have any kind of say-so - and it's a good thing - but he's apparently mad that I came right out and honestly said, "No, I don't want her here until after my mom leaves." She and my mom get along "fine", but talk maybe once a year at most, and have only seen each other a time or two, but my MIL is really jealous of my mom - in that my mom is the sort of quintessential grandma in her actions and behaviors and such. Due to my MIL's choices in life, obviously she cannot be the standard grandmother. No way can the kids go places with her alone - though we do occasionally let them go with her and her husband, who does not drink at all and is a great guy, very much a grandpa to the kids. No way can they spend the night without us, though, because any given night can turn into a brawl. She'll get mad if my kids talk about my mom or Colorado at her house. So I was thinking it would definitely be better for her to come after my mom left. She would be the only grandma in town, I would have breastfeeding re-established a bit, we'd all be kind of down off the baby-high and almost settled into a routine-ish kind of thing... HOW is this not obvious to him??
I just don't understand why he's suddenly in some kind of denial about who is mother is - he's never like this UNLESS I'm having a baby. It was an issue with my dd too - showed up the day after she was born (they only lived 5 hours away at the time) and then couldn't understand why I didn't do what SHE thought was a good idea which was going out to eat all the time they were there (the woman almost never cooks or eats at home, not that I blame her!) - when my dd and I were really struggling with breastfeeding. And dh is totally supportive of breastfeeding now, but he wasn't then, and was a nightmare because I wanted to stay home and try to work things out with my daughter when his mother wanted to "celebrate". Then she didn't come out at all after my ds was born, and I don't know why. I made it clear that she was welcome directly to her within a month of his birth. I wonder if it wasn't because I was breastfeeding ds, and she didn't come out til after he was weaned? I've even called my mom and told her not to buy a ticket out yet, because as much as I want her here, I don't want her here in the middle of some BS with my dh and I, or if my MIL shows up unexpectedly... I don't know. I'd rather no one was here than tons of stress and drama.
So I actually haven't told dh I told Mom to wait on the ticket - I don't want to give him the satisfaction. (:-O Can't help myself.) And after trying to play to his issues with the last two kids, I told him flat out that I was the one having the baby, and I was going to allow whom I wanted, when I wanted, and I really didn't care if his mother did or didn't show up, whether or not she was allowed in or we saw her would be entirely up to me. He wouldn't be around to help out, and I wanted someone here I could trust and relax around. If I could have him, I'd prefer him, but we can't afford for him to take more than a week off of work, and who knows how I'll be post partum? Who knows how anyone will be, you know? All that being said, what I DON'T want is to spend the last couple of months of this pg fighting about something that just doesn't even make sense to me. I want us to reach some kind of agreement. I told him to go ahead and tell his mom that if she wants to come out early, EARLY May or even April, that's fine. She can do what she wants and then go to FL, but it may be too late for her to make those plans. Idk.
I am SO SORRY for going on forever, but if any of you read all of this and have any ANY perspective or advice, I would deeply appreciate it. Am I out of line? Is he out of line? Is there anything you would say or do that I haven't said or done? My mom is this uber-nurturing type, she has her RN, and she and I have over the past couple of years really finally made peace with each other's differences and deal with it all respectfully. I was looking forward to having her here now that she and I communicate so well. I was under the impression that DH and I were also at a new and happy level of understanding and communication - maybe I just said the wrong thing the wrong way. Idk. His mom adores my children, and when supervised so I can relax, they do usually have a great time together, but she's essentially a very self-centered alcoholic who will be in a situation WAY outside of her comfort zone. This feels like a very bad idea to me, and I have to protect myself and my kids from that when I know I'll be emotional, exhausted, and short-tempered. I feel like my dh has lost his ever loving MIND.