I'm going to try to be less loquacious this time! :)
Becca, I hope you're feeling better tomorrow! I pulled a muscle in my belly not to long ago and it was just excruciating. :( Today I got the full experience of the nesting energy coming in a wave like you described! We did so much and I was so enthusiastic, but like PunkElmo, I didn't feel like I was nesting so much as I was catching up in preparation to nest! I hope I have some energy left tomorrow - I realized today how much I'd missed it! :)
Also, as much as I'd like a wax... I think, honestly I've never had one, I just like the idea ... My dh will giving me a trim too. I had him do it both times before. I would use a mirror and try it myself, but seriously, I can barely reach around this belly! It's ridiculous. Even if I can see it, it's just too dangerous for me to try to reach down there with anything capable of cutting anything! Though I won't be having him shave things - that's just h3!! to me. He will literally be trimming it down to size with scissors and or his mustache trimmer.
Birthing balls = AWESOME. I loved mine during both of my last two pgs, and I don't know where it is now - maybe in storage, maybe lost forever. I'm going to ask my mw if I can borrow one of hers tomorrow, I think she has 2-3, and just two birthing suites, so she might spare one since I'll essentially be taking it to her house. I hope I hope I hope.
SallyNichole - I couldn't think of anything that for a gift either... but one mama I talked to was planning on some sort of light spa treatments in prep for her birth, just to feel pretty basically as she went into it all - would that appeal? Just so she can relax and spoil herself a bit, maybe a mani/pedi or something with idea that she's preparing herself for her big day?
I have a winter and summer baby - and I was taken aback at the number of socks I still have too! Never thought about it before, but it was an unusual ratio of tiny cute socks to clothes! :)
Mrs. Bone - holy cow, what a mess! I'm impressed you've been able to relax and even get a nap in with so much going on around you! Thank God for homeowner's ins!
Dh and I seem to have worked out our issues. I think he might actually have forgotten I was pg - because otherwise, I think I'd have to smack him when he got home. So I'm just going to tell myself that and let him off the hook since he came to his senses. HE was the problem, not my MIL. He was bent that I was saying my family (which is to say my mother and possibly my aunt) could see the baby immediately and his mother had to wait. He decided to focus on feeling slighted vs. recognizing reality when it's laid out before him. I will say in his defense that he has been stressing out about everything across the board with our lives right now, and in retrospect I shouldn't have been surprised, and I probably should have put more thought into how I worded things. Nonetheless. His defense was essentially that he forgot we were planning on having the baby in a birth center, and that we would be back home within hours of the birth, vs. days later, and furthermore that he had failed to consider the logistics of his mother / family trying to visit me in what is essentially my bedroom, since we're currently in a studio apartment. He agrees that it would considerably less than ideal, and would basically require me to going out with the baby so people could see us both, which is not acceptable. He had ALSO forgot that when I say I don't want to be on display when I may be a "hormonal, emotional, sketchy, bloody mess" that I am talking about the 2.5-6 weeks (based on my experience with my first two) post partum when I may be bleeding and shall I say "fragile". He forgot that bleeding went on past that one day of giving birth. He also says it hadn't occurred to him that I may want some extra help around beyond the week or so he will be able to be with us. He thought I'd be more self-sufficient or something, in light of my desire to give birth nearly unassisted. Uh... huh huh... NO. So... again in his defense, he wasn't around more than a week post partum with either of our other children, so he didn't see what did or didn't happen the next week. And while he came home a week later, he didn't get that my mom had been there helping me while he was gone somehow.
It's like he's a man or something. But that having been said, he is also just about the only man I've heard of that doesn't have the sense to get the heck out of the way and let the woman giving birth run the show at this stage. Bless his heart, he thinks he has a say in things because it's his baby too. And yes, that's terribly condescending of me, but seriously... if he would just back off a little, it would go a LONG long way towards my being less protective of what I feel I genuinely need, and more open to what he would like to see. Especially since I very much take his desires into account, and he's been through two births that should've shown him that. I think a lot of it was just what my mom thought.. he was basically having a panic/control attack and had to try to assert himself across phone lines from TX to SC.
Either way, what matters the most is that he pulled his head back out of wherever, and has told his mom that it would be best if she gave us a few weeks (actually he told me he told her "months" which only annoyed me more - I'm not trying to be thoughtless and mean, I'm trying to be realistic when I ask for a couple of extra weeks to readjust to life before she comes, but he didn't tell her months.. he was just being a brat) extra to get our acts together. He has no problem with my mom coming out whenever I want her to be here. And having talked with MIL since he told her that, I can tell you that at least while she's sober, she's completely understanding and supportive, and gets that the apartment is ridiculously tiny, and that a couple of extra weeks is no problem at all for her. She was all kinds of commiserating about husbands not getting it (my FIL is a dear man, I think the only thing he doesn't get is HER, lol) and how much women need their moms after having a baby. Which, whatever, some do, some don't, some sadly can't.
Then I told him that when he's home, we need to sit down and talk very explicitly about how he envisions this birth happening, because I don't want any more surprises due to him "forgetting" that I'm pushing a child out of my body, or what have you. Happily, he agreed! Hopefully 7 weeks will be enough time to resolve any other differences that arise.
Also, since he realized how absurd this apartment really is (he's here maybe two nights a week - I don't think he'd fully recognized just how silly it really is for us until I started talking about his mom being in here) we've started looking for another place to live with more enthusiasm. Which *would* help me to welcome his mother sooner and with less friction. I really liked one we saw today, but they're still cleaning it up, and there's a lot of interest in it. We'll see! Because moving would be just fantastic about now, wouldn't it?
This baby has flipped - judging from hiccups as well as clearly intense movement - from head down to head up to head down again probably twice in the past 48 hours. I know I have 7 weeks left, but it COULD be just four... I'm wondering if "he" will ever just chill out and wait to be born!
I don't think this was any shorter. But my next post should be!!