Oh wow...I feel like such an ALIEN.
I don't think I even knew that real women even did that. I mean...I knew it was the "vogue" thing...and I knew it was something some people opted to do...like super models and college students who still think they need to follow fashion...but I don't think I really took it seriously. At all.
I do NOT mean to be offensive....I am just....surprised. So please...understand that I am NOT judging. And so, I have my own questions to all of you...because you ALL seem to do it.
See, the only person I know who has seemed concerned about this is my 15 year old neighbor. She once asked me to go with her to get waxed. I thought she meant her LEGS. So, I said "Sure sweetie...but...It's gonna hurt."
When that little woman at the spa asked her to pull her panties down, I was just like "Uh...wait a minute....WHAAAAAT?" and then, I thought...oh...she must be concerned about the tiny hairs near the panty line.
I watched in complete horror as this young neighbor of mine CRIED real tears as her entire
genital area was ripped clean of all her womanly hair and she left finger nail marks on my wrist from the pain. When it was all done, I was in shock, she was sobbing and she looked like a 12 year old to me. I felt like I'd just watched a horror movie. I took that poor girl straight to the health food store, got her some witch hazel and gentle calendula cream for the burn marks left behind and the swollen weeping skin that was left in the name of beauty. I told her mother it was like witnessing a voluntary rape. I'm not exaggerating. I was traumatized.
a month later my little neighbor asked if I'd go with her again as she'd found my presence so nurturing. I hugged her, looked her in the eye, and said "Sweetie...no way. I would never do that to myself...and I won't be the one to take you to get it done."
Then, I asked my guy if he wished I would stylize MY genitalia....He laughed and said "Sweetie...NO WAY!"
We then, my husband and I, worked on a research paper that directly correlated the massive increase in pedophilia with the up-rise in hair removal...As in: why does fashion demand that womanly hair is unsavory, ugly and....unessential? Why do we promote the look of a 12 year old pre-teen in grown women? Who wants their grown woman to look like a pre-teen? Why do women put up with it? Why do we promote it? And why...oh WHY...do we do things to our bodies that actually HURT in the name of "beauty" or the preference of finding hairless bodies sexy...hairless bodies that look like pre-pubescent girls instead of the sexy hair that defines an adult woman?
I had to check myself out in the mirror in the middle of writing this. I see hair. Plenty of it. I never worry about it, and it never worries about me. I wear a swim suit. I often wear board shorts. I honestly can say that I find the little red dots left behind from ingrown hairs a lot more unsavory to look at at the swim park than a few stray pubic hairs. I do shave my legs, and my armpits if I think about it. I often don't think about it. I'm not a hippie, I'm just liberal and earthy. I do bathe every day. I don't smell or feel itchy. My husband finds me appealing. He likes my hair. He likes that I'm me, and that if we go camping, I'm low maintenance. I don't feel like a yeti. I remember a hair dresser trying to make me look prettier...she plucked my eyebrows to show me how "good I could look". Oh god...I felt so WEIRD and it HURT!!! . She told me my husband would never notice...oh how wrong she was. He took one look at me and said in a puzzled way "Why do you look like a mannequin?" I could not WAIT for my eyebrows to look normal again.
We often laugh about how much money we save because I'm not into the whole beauty thing. My biggest expense is conditioner and tinted lip gloss. I am totally not into pain. I won't wear high heels. ever. I'm offended by posters that indicate that I should opt to have my ass and hips reduced surgically by plastic surgeons instead of wearing looser jeans.
That being said......I'm not judging....so please don't take it that way. I'm just fascinated. TRULY. I just didn't know that so many earthy natural mamas did this. As a longtime writer of psychology issues and a people watcher, I'm just...totally fascinated. When did this become normal? I feel like I just stepped into a different time warp.
I'll just end with...Good for you for ASKING! I learn something new every day!