I take my children to well child check-ups for two reasons. First, I believe that doctors can pick up on things that parents can’t. Second, I selectively vaccinate my children, which requires a visit to the doctor. (Even our county health department doesn’t do “walk-ins”; you have do to the new patient paperwork, ordering charts and records, setting appointments. Etc.)
But I have to say that I’m really starting to envy the non-vaxers who never go to well-child check-ups. They don’t have to deal with the whole rigmarole of long waits and patronizing questions (“You do play with your baby, right?,” “Do you know that the crib is the only safe place for sleeping?”) And the absolute worst are the Bad Mommy Lectures re: alternative vax choices.
I took DS in this week and got him only two of the CDC-recommended vaccines. The nurse responded to this vax request with a lot of huffing, sighing, and eye-rolling. The doctor actually didn’t hassle me at all. (Woo-hoo!!) Then I asked about how to get out of the state registry. Nobody there was sure. I left elated that I had escaped the notorious Bad Mommy Lecture! But….that’s not the end of the story.
When I got home, there was a message on my machine from a nurse to call about how to get my name off the registry. I called back, got the info, and thanked her. Then the Bad Mommy Lecture started. My children were being noisy, so I only caught portions of it--------“horrible diseases,” “children in danger,” “doom and gloom”…. I cut her off by saying, “Well, these are complex decisions for every parent to make. Gotta go!”
So reflecting on this experience, here is my question: Aren’t they lucky I’m there at all?
I could just make like the non-vaxers by NOT vaccinating for any of the diseases and NOT getting regular preventative health care for my children. Is that what providers would like to see??? Because lemme tell you, this selective vaxing thing is proving to be a royal PITA! If they want to see ANY vaxing done, shouldn't they roll out the red carpet, welcome me to the clinic, and accommodate my wishes? They should remain humbly aware that I don't have to be there...
Also, this doctor came highly recommended by my non-vaxxing friends. But then, they only go in for non-vax related stuff and not well child checks. Also, they probably didn’t encounter the same staff. Do any of you delayed/selective vaxers face harassment and Bad Mommy Lectures for your choices?