A friend of mine circumcised her baby boy today.
I was visiting when the nurse came by for his "circumcision check" and I almost threw up. They "checked" him and he screamed, they explained all the things the new parents have to do, and it was all I could do not to sob or scream. Instead, I just held my toddler tight and tried not to look or hear. It was already done; there was nothing my words could do but offend at this point.
I had sent her some information when she found out she was having a boy. She's seen me change my little one, and knew that there are no special instructions for an intact boy. I did not follow up; while she's a friend she is not a close one. I wonder if I didn't do enough. I wonder if there's something I could have done differently, if I should have had DH talk to her husband (they're not friends), if I should have really pushed her... I don't know. I feel terrible. My words and writing have stopped literally hundreds of parents from circumcising.... but not my own friend.
How do you handle it when you fail? How do you let go?
Edited by erin23kate - 4/11/11 at 9:01am