Rosie1972- I'm the original poster. Yes, I had a RCS. It went perfectly fine. Well, it was major surgery, so that first day I was in bed, etc, but, really, the c-section is always the least of my problems! I've healed up nicely and quickly both times. The doctor said I looked excellent in there.
I waited until 40 weeks. I actually went into labor the day of the c-section. I had been trying to induce labor. Not necessarily to definitely have a VBAC- but to give it a chance and give baby some of the hormones that come from labor. And- kind of let him choose his birthday, make sure he was ready! So I was really pleased. The doctor checked me before surgery, but my cervix wasn't changing and, as always, the internal exams hurt me. He mentioned that my pelvis was very narrow. (Other doctor and midwifes have mentioned this in the past, too.) So, we decided to go for the surgery. It's just what gave us peace. I think it's a personal decision for the most part. There isn't always a right or wrong decision; in my case, it was a calculated risk. I had a history of potential small pelvis, stuck babies, so for me....a c-section made me worry about myself, but a VBAC made me worry more about the baby.
If I may ask, what was the reason for your first c-section? That can be a big deciding factor, if you are interested in VBAC. I do recommend VBAC for a lot of people. But it doesn't upset me in the least if someone chooses a c-section, especially a RCS, because neither decision is really that terrible.
My section felt great by days 4 and 5. If I touched it, it was still sensitive, but otherwise, no pain at all. I left the hospital at day 2- I can't stand to be in the hospital more than necessary! Those are the things I hate- when they start putting saline in my IV to clean it and start ripping tape off that feels literally glued on!
Surgery could definitely be more family oriented, though. I understand the concern with that. There is definitely a coldness about it. But not so much so that it really bothers me. I'm just always thankful. And everyone was very helpful; I felt the main people involved really did care and want to do what was best. The doctor even came over and put his hand on my head and prayed for me beforehand! Some people may not like that, and we didn't request it or anything, but we really appreciated it.
Since this will be your last child, I can also understand thinking about a RCS. We want to have one more, possibly two.
And I'm sure I've said it before in here, but I also just don't have an emotional connection to needing a vaginal birth. Having a c-section does not depress me at all ( breastfeeding does, though! I have lots of pain, mastitis, and low supply- possibly because of burns as a child that may have caused underlying damage). And I do tend to think of all the horrible things that people go through, that we haven't - like pregnant women in concentration camps giving birth and then having their babies drowned. I guess when I look around me and see a lot of people that seem to want to help, it just makes me more thankful. I guess that's extreme and not the only reason for a RCS of course, but it's just when I weigh my options and both of them are probably good...it's hard to make a decision, so I went with what felt right for me and the baby.
I hope you find the right answer for you!
(ps. My scar looks so much better this time! Like a little pencil line. I thought I would have an even bigger scar now, but it wasn't so. Also, what really helped me, too, was a recliner. I couldn't wait to get home to it! I slept in it. It helped because getting out of bed always feels like you are splitting in half otherwise! )