Seriously. My sil started dating this guy, he proposed, they put a deposit down on a house. A couple weeks ago my dh gets a phone call to go to the sex offenders data base for our county and do a search on the guys name. We do and he comes up. Not just his name, but his picture with it, so there is no mistake or someone else with the same name. It's him. My dh calls her and asks if she knew what he was in jail for back in 2002. She doesn't. (how are you marrying someone not knowing this?) He tells her. She doesn't sound upset at all. Later that same night, she moved her stuff into the house. They are now living together. She has three boys, two of them still under 18. The website was specific about the charge, "aggravated sexual assault of an 8 year old". He told her that it's something his exwife made up....and she believes him? He was convicted.
I guess I don't really have a question, dh already told her if she ever brings him to our home again, it won't end well for him, other relatives have said the same. There is a big family reunion coming up and she was invited, but JUST her and her boys. She hasn't responded. She has obviously decided to choose him over her entire family. The scary part is, that seems to me to be cutting the boys off from their support system.
I guess my biggest concern is for her kids and for telling everyone. I mean, my sil LOVES kids and seems to always have someones child with her for the day or the weekend. I am really upset and worried about this. He did not register in their new town, he is still listed at his old address. He has been to one of dd's baseball games, I know that has to be against his parole. I don't know their new address to even be able to tell anyone. The boys father knows, he was told, but I don't know that he is in a position to try and get custody of them. They aren't little kids, they are teens, but still.
Seriously, what would you do? Should I be trying to get custody of those kids? Should I be trying to find out their address to put a call into the police?