Vent about feeling alone with housework - Page 2

[les_oiseau]

I got on here to vent about the same thing!  I am feeling so tired lately, just worn out so that I actually laid down on the couch during dds nap and read a book! (haven't done that in about a year!) And am in the kitchen making dinner and notice my 4yo just throwing pieces of a puzzle all over the place! Urggghhh

I can really relate to a PPer about just relaxing and living with messy, but constantly keeping up so that it doesn't become chaos. That's where we normally fit, but it is so frustrating to be the only one doing it. OP you are so right, our husband's do work all day, but it's not like we don't! The kids are our double full time plus unpaid overtime job! --not like they are really a chore :(  but it is darn near impossible to keep up with the house, laundry, dishes, meals, bills, yard, etc, plus be a healthy and happy momma, along with the work that goes into teaching, playing with and correcting our kids all day!

I know if my husband and I switched places he would be really shocked at what it takes to "just stay home with the kids"!

[Gucci&Granola]

Originally Posted by les_oiseau 

OP you are so right, our husband's do work all day, but it's not like we don't! The kids are our double full time plus unpaid overtime job! --not like they are really a chore :(  but it is darn near impossible to keep up with the house, laundry, dishes, meals, bills, yard, etc, plus be a healthy and happy momma, along with the work that goes into teaching, playing with and correcting our kids all day!

I know if my husband and I switched places he would be really shocked at what it takes to "just stay home with the kids"!

Exactly.  My husband and I both work all day.  When he gets home we split the childcare/remaining housework.  I am not a slave and have no interest in martyring myself.  If he ever said something along the lines of "just stay home with the kids" we'd be headed straight to marriage counseling.
 

[newmamalizzy]

"He will if I specifically ask him to do diapers or fold laundry. But I don't want to be the boss on it All the time. Can't he take leadership too and see something needs doing and do it?"

THIS THIS THIS!!!!  It makes me feel like I am the person responsible for our family, while he is someone who helps me.  But I really don't WANT to be "the one" responsible.  I want to share responsibility with another adult.  Being the one with the job sounds so easy.  Being responsible for absolutely everything is what's truly hard, in my opinion. 

[Beauchamp]

What's been eating me lately is that DH says he will help out and do things and yet he delays so long that I have to jump in and, say, wash a pile of dishes he promised to wash because there is no room on the counter to prepare any other food for another meal. Or, he wipes the floor around DD's chair and wants a LOT of thanks and attention for it. Or will not get DD's oatmeal ready because apparently *I* am the only one who knows how much milk to stir in. Sigh.

I wrote out a very clear list of things I needed/wanted to get done before I reached 36 weeks PG, and he's done maybe two things. So I have started doing them myself and he is getting upset at me for doing them. Hello...37 weeks yesterday...tick tock, tick tock!

And I ask him to do something specific like clean the shower...and I find him on a chair in the office...cleaning the ceiling fan.