What? Someone advises against blowing your nose and wearing underwear? ummmmmmm
As for husbands as "coaches"... I think it was in birthing from within where they kind of make fun of the husband/coach idea... like you are in a marathon or a soccer game or something and you need someone urging you on from the sidelines... NOT. That is one of the things I ended up liking about that book- it suggested that the role of birth partner is to protect the laboring mom so that she can do her work. That felt much more relevant to my experience- I mostly needed to be left alone to do my thing (both births so far were fast and v intense, with big babies- 8lb6 active labor about 6 hours, and then my 9lb-er in under 3 hrs. In another situation I might have needed more, but in those births, I pretty much had to just go for the ride). I would go nuts being "coached"!