Originally Posted by Linda on the move
I also don't think there is any way of knowing which men are more likely to have a problem with porn -- church going or non-church going. I have some pretty big issues with church and sexuality, because I was raised in church and molested by a deacon, so the idea that some how church going men are holier than than those of us who never darken the door of a church doesn't set well with me. Comments that some how because a man goes to church, he is less likely to do anything seem very, very naive to me.
I totally agree. As the daughter of a minister, Ive seen a lot of sexual issues happen within the church. Including a deacon molesting my little sister, our church camp counsler asking us to take our shirts off as part of a game where you tested your faith, and our youth minister being fired for looking at porn on the computer. Honestly, I dont think there is any way to tell how many of which type of men look at porn, but I will second your statement that when people have issues with sex (mainly because they have to hide it) they are more likely to do stupid things. (ie. Ill betcha my youth minister couldnt look at porn at home because he was afraid his wife would catch him, so he did it at work : stupid) I know this is not really relavant to the OP's asking for support, but I just needed to say that ITA agree with the statement bolded above.
As another aside, there is a saying amongst several of my girlfriends that refers mainly to men who are all in the 35 and under age group:
There are three kinds of men:
Men who look at porn
Men who dont look and imagine every woman they see naked
Men who lie and say they dont do either
ETA: I want to say that the above is a joke amongst friends about our husbands (none of whom identify as queer, all oh whom identify as male). Obviously, Im not attempting to assume that every man like women or vice versa.