Baby Blessing Fiasco

[mra]

Hope you don't mind a little rant! I posted a while ago about baby blessing ideas. Now I want to cancel my trip home, except that I can't because I'm in my cousin's wedding. We are having the blessing because my grandmother is very religious and it is making her very happy. I love her with all my heart, so I'm honoring her by having a nondenominational (she's catholic) baby blessing when we fly home. Well, we involved my SIL to help plan it. Then she decided that we would have a joint blessing because she hadn't had one for our nephew. Ok, fine. It went from a small event at her house, to a catered event at her house, to a fancy place that's costing $30/head with an open bar where we pick up the tab. Good thing I don't plan on having many guests. So, I'm trying to plan from AZ - send out invites, budget, etc. My SIL has not been communicating with us about stuff. We call to discuss the blessing and prices, she doesn't have time. Email her, no reply. Snotty attitude over the phone. So yesterday I called the place myself and got the cost and my husband and I decided that we would just let my family (all close relatives) know that we are not paying for drinks and so the open bar is not for them. They really are not going to have a problem with this or think it is rude. They are my closest family and only about 10 people. Now, if I was inviting friends I would just suck it up and pay for their drinks. So I emailed my SIL to let her know our decision and she basically told me that now we look so uncoordinated and ridiculous because she had it under control - blah, blah, blah. Yeah, like the lady I spoke to gives a crap that I also called, especially since it is also our ceremony. The SIL also said she didn't want something "quick and dirty" so perhaps we should have a separate ceremony. Oh, she also said that it would be so rude for us to not pay for my family's drinks so she'd pay for them. We don't need a handout, we could pay, but are choosing not to and I think I know my family better than she does. She always has a way of making my husband and I feel like she thinks we are a bunch of poor idiots because she makes a ton of money. WOW! The thing is, I kept trying to get info from her. Then when I told her I was going to email the poetry and commitment for our LO to the reverend, she told me to run it by her first before emailing it. Like I may choose something that she doesn't approve of or something. So I have to check with her about everything, but she doesn't have to communicate with us? Umm, this ceremony is also for our daughter! The thing is, she is all high and mighty and likes to put on a show for everyone. We are family oriented over here and know that small and inexpensive can be just as special and meaningful. Would you just say forget it at this point and quick plan your own ceremony? I have about 3 weeks to plan.

[Katielady]

OMG. I would DEFINITELY remove myself from this situation and plan a separate ceremony. This has disaster written all over it. It's not what you want, she's being a diva about it, it's costing a fortune. Just make a clean break and do your own thing at another time.