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Anyone else feel like baby is NEVER going to come?

post #1 of 36
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I really feel like this baby is never going to come.  I'm 38w5d so I shouldn't really be complaining yet since I'm not even overdue but I can't help it.  Probably because I went to 41w6d with DS and had a failed induction turned unnecesarean and then had PROM followed by labor not starting with DD who wasn't born until 44 hours later.  So I've never gone into labor on my own.  This is my 3rd baby but I'm like a first time mom at this stage.  I feel like I'm going to go to 42w and have to be induced.  It's hard not feeling depressed at this point.  Anyone else feel the same way?

post #2 of 36

ME! The last couple weeks are the hardest. It's funny because when the baby is finally born, I always think ohh man, there is so much I should have been doing in those last two weeks instead of anxiously pacing around. Like taking more naps and enjoying a shower that lasts more than 5 minutes.

post #3 of 36

This is my 9th, I was due on Saturday.  All my others were late, my earliest was 13 days past my due date.  I feel like I have been pregnant forever.  I want to say all these encouraging things to you, but honestly?  this part sucks.  The end is awful.  I'd say the only good part about the end is that whenever you call someone they nearly have a heart attack thinking "this is it".  lol  I am so mean. 

post #4 of 36

I feel ya this is my second and I'm 37w4d still feeling like hes never going to come. I went a week overdo with my first and he was 9lbs6oz and we had a difficult labor so I'm getting anxious with this one. I keep getting menstrual like cramping thats lasts a few hours and then peters out. They'll be here before we know it I'm sure always seems like the last few weeks take the longest though!

post #5 of 36

Yes! I'll be 39 weeks tomorrow. DS was born at 37+1 and I was so focused on the whole "second babies come earlier" thing that I've been in ready mode for three weeks now. When I walk around, I can get fairly strong contractions going, but they always stop when I get home and relax. I actually thought I was in labor for a couple of hours once, but it stopped too (I think it was just bad gas TBH). Beyond that, I haven't had any false labor "scares" or anything like that, so I'm just waiting. I tried black cohosh, but it didn't do anything. I'm thinking about getting out the breast pump tonight and seeing if that helps anything.

post #6 of 36

Hey ladies!!  I know the waiting is so hard (easy for me to say being on the other side of it!) but I'm thinking of all of you.  I was really expecting to still be pregnant on this date.  I can't believe I had him early and tbh my second was the longest gestation and by far the easiest labor of the 3.  Wishing you all wonderful peaceful labors and SOON!  I'm waiting to see all of those beautiful baby pics!

post #7 of 36
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 I'm thinking about getting out the breast pump tonight and seeing if that helps anything.



Be careful.  I was pumping once a day from 38+ with DD since I have Insufficient Glandular Tissue and a low supply and it caused PROM and then a long, hard labor.  If you start getting strong contractions I would stop.  I'm avoiding any type of nipple stimuation this time to be extra careful.  Although if I go to 42 I would probably try to induce naturally before anything else.

post #8 of 36

I tried the pump a bit - I did three rounds of 5 minutes on, 5 minutes off, then stopped. I just didn't like the way it felt and it squigged me out. It feels totally different when you're pumping and getting something than when you're pumping and nothing's coming out. It didn't really do anything. The contractions I always feel when I stand up from going to the bathroom (I guess the semi-squat position gets things going?) felt stronger, but that was about it.

 

Speaking of going to the bathroom, the past two nights, I have been up every. single. hour. I'm sick of having to pee all the time! I'd think it meant the baby's dropped, but s/he doesn't feel any different, so who knows. I am 39 weeks today and DS will be gone all weekend, so I'm hoping I have the kiddo today or tomorrow, or else not until next week.

post #9 of 36

Tired of waiting here too.  We've been so busy with our move, now that we're sort of settled down, the last couple of weeks are dragging by.  I'm so, so uncomfortable, and ready for this part to be over.  I'm about 39 weeks, due one day middle of next week.  I don't feel like she will wait that long to come, but that could just be wishful thinking on my part.  I had a lot of contractions yesterday after my doctor visit, and got all anxious and excited, but they stopped last night and today I am just tired and sore.  

post #10 of 36

I'll be 41 weeks tomorrow. I had a stress test/ultrasound yesterday. The baby kept kicking the monitor off my stomach! She is very active, strong and looks like a little chubber. She is down low in my pelvis, so we couldn't really see her face on the ultrasound. I was worried about the size of her head, because babies in my family tend to have giant heads and take some work to push out, but her head is normal sized.

 

Everything looks great, but my obgyn will not let me go past 42 weeks (hospital birth + insurance + living in a backwards state + "advanced maternal age"). If I don't have the baby by middle of next week, she is going to have me medically induced. I want to avoid a medical induction and am doing everything I can to try to get my body to go into labor on its own. I have an acupuncture appointment tomorrow and plan to just keep moving around as much as I can, hoping it will encourage the baby to come out on her own.

 

I'm pretty uncomfortable and by the end of each day, I feel emotionally raw. I'm normally pretty even keeled, but the constant "where's that baby! go get induced!" from everyone is taking its toll.

 

To add to this, my mom is creating unnecessary drama...she really wants to be at the birth and kept telling me that she was with my sister when she had her oldest daughter. I was talking with my sister yesterday and mentioned this. My sister said, "uh, no, mom was NOT with me when I gave birth. She was in the waiting room." My mom has also gotten the idea in her head that I have to "decide on whether to get a c section" ASAP and has been calling other family members and getting them all worried. I think that my mom means well, but she loves drama and is willing to spin some wild stories in order to get something she wants (attention, sympathy, access to me while I am giving birth).

 

I'm currently just trying to cocoon myself with happy and relaxing thoughts!

 

 

 

 

 

post #11 of 36

38w2d here, so I know I have a ways to go most likely, but it's frustrating to feel NOTHING that I might call a lead up. Braxton Hicks, but even those are completely painless and I'm not always sure that's what they are (as opposed to just the baby moving). I wish I had some physical sign that labor might be on its way somewhat soon, but nada.

post #12 of 36

I understand everyone's plight!  I was in labor for 16+ hrs last night...midwives were here until 5 am.  Had castor oil and a huge body clean out.  Bloody show but I got stuck @ 3 cm.  So, I totally understand.  Today I have many contractions that are definitely stronger than yesterday so wondering...but who knows?  I was told to rest as much as humanly possible because that could've been what made everything stop...being tired. 

post #13 of 36

Guppiegirl- to buy yourself a few extra days you could always pull the "I'm sick and can't make it in for my induction today" thing. Or "My babysitter just backed out and I have no one to watch the kids so I have to reschedule" thing. Or both to reschedule twice. lol. No Dr will drop you for a "legit" reason like that and you can just be really apologetic. It would buy you a few extra days which might just be what you need. Good luck with your mom too. My mom is EXACTLY the same way!! Except when it comes to labor/babies. She isn't happy we're having another baby and does NOT want to be a part of it. lol. whatever. But every other area in life she's the same way. Drama drama drama. And making sure everyone knows that she's the best grandmother in the whole world. Lots of hugs and kisses for the kids when people are around and when it's just us she's always too busy for us to come over, etc. It's disgusting. Sorry you have one of those too. Good thing we'll be better mothers to OUR children, right? :-)

post #14 of 36
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I understand everyone's plight!  I was in labor for 16+ hrs last night...midwives were here until 5 am.  Had castor oil and a huge body clean out.  Bloody show but I got stuck @ 3 cm.  So, I totally understand.  Today I have many contractions that are definitely stronger than yesterday so wondering...but who knows?  I was told to rest as much as humanly possible because that could've been what made everything stop...being tired. 


Any chance you live in Central NJ and are using Pam & Louise?  My MW was at a labor EXACTLY like that last night for someone with your due date...

post #15 of 36

yup that was me!  Still no baby.  I have given up that this kid is ever coming out.  that's funny that you're seeing Pam and Louise as well!  When's your due date?

post #16 of 36
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yup that was me!  Still no baby.  I have given up that this kid is ever coming out.  that's funny that you're seeing Pam and Louise as well!  When's your due date?

 

Haha, small world  :)  I thought your labor sounded too familiar.  I'm next after you.  I'm due the 20th.  I let Pam check me yesterday because I've been trying to reach my cervix with no luck and it's driving me crazy.  No dilation but I'm 50% effaced and 'very soft' so atleast something is starting to happen.  Planning on enlisting DH's 'help' this weekend and hoping the full moon coming up will kick things into gear.

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Haha, small world  :)  I thought your labor sounded too familiar.  I'm next after you.  I'm due the 20th.  I let Pam check me yesterday because I've been trying to reach my cervix with no luck and it's driving me crazy.  No dilation but I'm 50% effaced and 'very soft' so atleast something is starting to happen.  Planning on enlisting DH's 'help' this weekend and hoping the full moon coming up will kick things into gear.

I think I'm becoming famous for the longest labors ever!!!  I am totally hoping that the full moon has an effect.  My first was born 2 days before full moon.  Well, I'm currently 3 cm and like 80% effaced - as least as of a day ago.  Still contracting, which as I told my family means nothing.  Don't think I'll know when I'm having a baby at this point in the game.  :-)  Where in central NJ are you located!?  Maybe we'll have twins!!! LOL

 

post #18 of 36

I totally feel like baby is never going to come BUT on the other hand, I'm only 38w2d so it is ridiculous to even think that. I went into labor with DD at 39weeks even, and have been feeling really nesty, baby is engaged, I'm effacing, dilating, bloody show, braxtonhicks/contractions are getting stronger when they do come, so something is happening at least. I just really don't want to go to 42 weeks! I know that sounds awful, but I'm feeling so so huge this time around and barely sleeping and peeing ALL the time. When I roll over in bed at night, my hips are cracking and grinding and my belly sloshes (sorry, best way to describe it!) I'm now more ready to have the baby out than in, if you know what I mean! Plus, going into labor this weekend would be so convenient - we have some events that I don't really want to go to lol


 

 

 

post #19 of 36

I am going to be 41 weeks tomorrow.  I have never gone more than 8 days after my due date, so I kind of expected to have something going on by now--definitely by Sunday!  No signs at all yet, just feeling more and more uncomfortable.

post #20 of 36

I'm 41 weeks today. I had an acupuncture treatment this afternoon and have started losing pieces of my mucous plug since then. If I haven't gone into labor over the weekend, I'm getting another treatment done on Monday. I am feeling excited and hopeful.

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