I just had a baby! Yay! He is six weeks old, and doing well. He has plenty of wet diapers, yellow poops, and he has lots of happy quiet alert time throughout the day (and some screaming!). So I *know* that he is getting enough to eat, but I am still weirded out a bit. I've contacted local La Leche League leaders, but no one has called me back so far, so I'm hoping some of your voices of experience will chime in on this question. :)
Once he hit the two week mark, he quit doing long (10-20 minute) nursing sessions, and now he is all over the place. He does a lot of 3 or 5 minute nursing sessions every hour, which is fine with me. The problem is that he sometimes will go for as long as 6 hours without eating. When I offer my breast, he screams and will not latch. He also has a few sessions per day where he will fuss so much at the breast that I wonder if he is getting anything at all. During these feeds he will latch on, suck once or twice and then pull off screaming. He sometimes coughs or gags like he's drowning in milk too, but I don't think I have a super crazy let down. It never sprays when he pulls off, just 'pours' sometimes. Sometimes he pulls off and screams even when there's no milk coming out yet. It's been like this for four weeks now, so I am pretty much ruling out a growth spurt as the cause.
He only ever eats on one breast per feeding, and it's usually just for around 5 minutes. It makes me nervous because everything I read says 10 to 20 minutes is more normal.
Does this sound like reflux or heavy letdown? Or is it just that he's fussy and that he'll grow out of it at some point? I've had friends tell me to put him on a 'soft schedule' where I only offer every two hours. They think that maybe he's frustrated that he's not got any 'structure' and that an every two hour mealtime will make it so that he's actually interested in eating by the time it rolls around. I am not so hot on that idea myself, but what does anyone think? I think his frequent snacky meals are either to do with some kind of discomfort he's having at the breast, or just a preference for frequent meals that he has. I'm more worried about his screaming during meals.
I have a feeling that this is all pretty run-of-the-mill stuff, but I am stressed out about it, and worried that I'm doing something (or not doing something) that is making feeding time more stressful for my baby too.
Any words of advice are much appreciated!