My 8 yrs old girl cry for no reason, complain stomach pain.. very emotional

[xiaoping7264]

My girl 8 yrs old, little thing cry, talk to her cry.. look at her so depressed. Ask her if school any problem she said fine. What to do?

[SeekingSerenity]

My 5-year old girl does this a lot, but we have been through some emotional trauma. I have her seeing a play therapist who will try to work through her issues and help her with the symptoms. This might be an option to explore. Sometimes children do this because there is something wrong somewhere in their lives and they are expressing their inner pain and confusion with physical symptoms. If I were you, I would talk to her doctor to rule out an actual physical problem and then maybe look into play therapy, if you can. Good luck to you! (((HUGS)))

[meemee]

5 to 7 is the age for hormonal changes. so extreme behaviour is part of it. along with starting school it makes things worse. 

i would be there for her - listen to her, empathise, hold her and give her the space that she wants.

keep an eye on her. if she keeps on for a few months then go see someone. 

this period this turmoil shows up in many forms. increase in hitting, anger, frustration or depression and extreme sadness or even extreme excitement that they cant come down from. 

all she wants from you is to know you are there. she does not expect you to fix what she is upset over. 

[doubledutch]

i did this as a child.  it was depression.  i probably seemed like a happy child to most people.  however i cried a lot, mostly with my mom, and when asked what was wrong, i had no way to say it.  i also constantly complained of stomach pain.  i was treated for stomach ulcers, which i may have had due to stress/anxiety/depression, or maybe i was a misdiagnosis based on me always saying it hurt.  i don't honestly remember whether i truly had stomach pain or not.  i just wanted to stay home, stay in bed, and be with my mom (who had to go to work).  i was never diagnosed with depression either, but it seems very clear to me looking back, and knowing what depression feels like as an adult.

could you ask her teachers what they're seeing?  my children are only in preschool/daycare but their teachers are sometimes able to give me some insight into what's going on with them.

[Michelle Nicole]

i am going through the same type of issues with my 8 year old daughter, she constantly seems to whine and cry over little things.. has these outburst but she only seems to do them when she is at my home, not her fathers. she also constantly complains about her stomach which i think is a result in her depression/anxiety just like doubledutch explained..i have taken my daughter to the drs for her stomach complaints several times and they continue to tell me she has serious stool witholding and then they put her on this medicine miralax...it doesnt seem to do anything long term for her...i have changed her diet to see if that would help and still nothing... My daughter has gone through traumatic transitions starting at age 5,  having to start going to her fathers on the weekends after never doing this type of living situation before let alone not having a relationship with her father at all. i have taken her to counseling/therapy, she told me that she really didnt like going to therapy that its boring and we cant seem to get anything expressed by going..... i could definitely use some advice in this department just like everyone else...