My sister is got angry with me and called CPS - Page 2

[laohaire]

Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy 

None of that really matters, though, because if she really did think there was a problem, then the appropriate thing to do would have been to TALK
 TO HER about it. Not to run around makig bogus calls to CPS, wastig their time and creating drama. Most of the people who post here about CPS absoutely agonize about it, and have already tried to help numerous times in numerous ways, before taking that route, because they know the damage that can be done from even a  closed case.

She SHOULD be cutting people out of her life who are threatening to come between her and her kids. If this was a friend who was going around badmouthing her to her other friends, people would tell her to choose her children over this person who clearly has no respect for her as a parent. This is really no different. If she doesn't get the result she wants fropm this call, then she will continue to call and make more trouble. It's not a misuderstanding, and it won't stop....Fool me once, shame on you, but I'll be damned if you fool ME twice.

Damn straight.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by nextcommercial 

The posters who discuss calling CPS agonize over it.  It's the people giving advice that think nothing of saying "Call CPS".   I've seen posts where someone just THINKS something is off, but can't quite explain why, and she'll get "Call CPS"   answers about half the time.  Or a poster will say "I see the neighbor kids outside alone about three times a week" and people's answer is "Call CPS".  

If I came on here and said "I think my sister is a drug addict, and she's not caring for the kids properly".  (even if it's not true, it's what I THINK is true)  I will get several "Call CPS" comments, and several "Have you tried to talk to her?" comments.  "I of course talked about her to my mom, and to my other sister and they see the problems too, but they don't want to rock the boat".  So, eventually, I can be talked into calling CPS for the safety of those kids.  

And, yes, it's a complete overreaction, but if I for some reason can't think for myself, I could be talked into "doing the right thing".  Especially if I were on the dramatic side, or very young.  

So, my point is, if the sister were telling us HER story instead, we'd all think the kids were in danger. 

If someone lies about a situation and then gets advice based on the lie that isn't actually what should happen in their real situation it is the fault of the liar not the fault of the people who gave advice.

The truthful way for the sister to present the situation would be "my sister has a prescription for pain medication. I think she's using it too much and it's hurting her ability to watch her kids properly. Should I call CPS?"

Also, some people can talk to their neighbors directly and others can't. How people end up needing to handle things with strangers has no bearing on how people should deal with their own families.