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post #21 of 25
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Originally Posted by Gemini529 View Post

Your family might feel weird about seeing the stroller and car seat they just chipped in to buy you a few years ago back on your registry and waiting for them to buy it again. Especially if they were plnning on getting you a $12 outfit and a card.

Oh, sure, this makes total sense and I absolutely wouldn't expect large ticket items again.  Completely understandable.  But I also think that as pp's have said, some things wear out by the third kid (like our monitor that is dying) and other things you sell off as soon as you're done with them b/c you didn't expect to have any more kids (like the swing, which I intend to buy off CL's, which I've done twice now).  And I totally agree that it depends on your families.  I just personally think it's odd that we celebrate first children with parties and not subsequent ones, gifts or no gifts.  And I found it odd that my parents were so generous with our first (buying our cloth diaper stash and co-sleeper) but with our second, they didn't even ask if we needed anything.  I know for my own kids if/when they have kids, I would want to give them whatever we could (and they needed) each time.  But that's just my thinking.  I don't mean to debate.
 

 

post #22 of 25
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Ok...I don't want to get into a big debate over second showers.


I don't see debate...just friendly conversation.  Haven't seen a debate yet on this board.

post #23 of 25

I had only gone to showers for first time mommies, but now I am in a community where they have "diaper and wipes" showers for subsequent babies because it is fun to get together as women and celebrate the new life that is coming/has come into the world.  I have attended a couple showers for second babies when the new baby was of a new gender to join the family.

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I don't see debate...just friendly conversation.  Haven't seen a debate yet on this board.


I guess what I meant was that I didn't want to come off as being argumentative. I think it's a great idea to have some sort of celebration for every child. I like the idea of a diaper and wipes party. I just wouldn't want people to think I expected them to help me out with a new exersaucer and changing table. I would be appreciative of any gift someone wanted to give me for the new baby, new or used. Even if it was yet another blanket.or outfit I wouldn't choose on my own. When I use the stuff, it makes me think of the person who got it for me. My great aunt mailed me one of the most hideous outfits I had ever seen for my son. I thought i'd never use it because it was so strange looking. But I ended up using it all the time...it just fit really well and looked so comfy on him that I had him sleep in it. We always laugh at how adorably ugly it is and it always makes me think of how she must have spent hours shopping around for the perfect gift for our baby.
post #25 of 25

I certainly hope to have one! I had one for my first and second and I need clothes and diapers. Plus, whether #1 or #10, every baby deserves to have his/her life celebrated and every mom deserves to be 'showered' with love from their family. My second DD was actually AT her shower, lol.


 

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