Chatty Queers Unite! - Page 9

[Disco Infiltrator]

QOTD: Nothing hugely offensive beyond INSISTING on calling our donor, "the dad". Even when they know I'm queer, that I'm married to a woman, that our kids have two moms. More often I get people who are surprised that we know our donor and think it's really cool that our kids have the same donor. The world is so married to genetics.

[carmen358]

QOTD: We've never had anyone offer to be a donor. And also have not had anyone suggest we sleep with our donor. We did have one woman assume that I had sex with our donor to get pregnant. Very strange coming from a straight woman who has been through IVF herself. I really don't discuss the details with people and they don't ask...which I'm grateful for. Close friends know we used a KD and most people just know we used a donor but don't know the circumstances. The only people I go into detail with are people who have asked us for advice in ttc themselves.

[seraf]

CaNanny I'm sorry to hear about your accident. Does that mean you not only need a new car but also all new car seats?

Qotd: can't think of anyone inappropriate volunteering. I I have has lots of, "whydont you just pick some guy up in a bar?"

[Cananny]

Originally Posted by seraf 

CaNanny I'm sorry to hear about your accident. Does that mean you not only need a new car but also all new car seats?

Qotd: can't think of anyone inappropriate volunteering. I I have has lots of, "whydont you just pick some guy up in a bar?"

Yes all new seats 900$ for 3!

[qmama42]

Isa, I'm gonna be incredibly tacky for a minute: your coworker's bf is exactly who we are looking for! Too bad we are so far away...

[Coco99]

A year ago today was the first of two insems that ended up giving us our wonderful twins... I just had to share :)

Oh and for those of you expecting twins... know that the first two months are hard but that when they hit three months, it becomes WAYYYY easier !

Here they are at three and a half months old :)

Chloe

Charlie

[Disco Infiltrator]

Congrats Coco!

[carmen358]

Adorable, coco :) Love the gummy smiles!!

[lexbeach]

I love seeing your babies, Coco! They are delicious.

[ninefirefly]

Coco - those twins are totally nom-able. Just sayin'.

QOTD - No one asked to be our donor. Sadly. But my dad did suggest a 'one-night stand' with a guy from a bar. Klassy, that's how my family rolls.

New QOTD: Did anyone else's kid totally ignore the titles you wanted them to use for you and your DP?

We had wanted our LO to call me Mama and DP Mommy but she just calls us both Mommy. If the wrong one answers she says "no Mommy!" You'd think she would try to differentiate a little but she's just sticking to her guns on this. And we have overheard her talking to herself when she's playing and she says "Rowo two Mommies" to her dolls. Super cute.

[Disco Infiltrator]

Originally Posted by ninefirefly 

New QOTD: Did anyone else's kid totally ignore the titles you wanted them to use for you and your DP?

No.  But it took DS a while to get mommy AND mama.  We were both mama for a long time.  

[seraf]

AOTD:  I don't remember how Baba was picked, but we were Mama and Baba since DS could talk.  When their mama and I separated they tried calling us by our first names for a while, but we were living with my mom and sister afterward so any time the kids would make refrence to "Sara" someone would say, "Who?  Sara who?"  So I guess Baba was pretty strongly reinforced for a month or so while they were trying to change to my first name.  They started it up again when Sara and I started dating but with 2 Saras around I sure wasn't about to answer to that one.  Since the kids have 2 moms and 2 "step-moms" they get us mixed up all the time.  I answer to the names of their mama and her partner since they don't live here and I'm used to getting called by either one right after they come home from their house.  Much like I called my dad "mom" a whole lot the first couple of weeks of the summer.

Coco, those are some cutie babes.  Are the pics at different ages or does Charlie just look younger (or, you know, less cheeky and hairy)?

Disco, I am always quick to correct when people refer to "their dad."  Only time I use the word dad is when I'm sticking up for someone else.  Like, when people are gossiping about someone probably not even knowing who their babydaddy is.  I just smile and say, "I don't know who my son's dad, is that a problem?"  Then they all stutter and kick the floor.  LOL, I don't like gossip and few people will stand up to someone confidently announcing something like that.  Sometimes they say, "Well, your situation is different!"  Usually they recognize that they're blasting someone else's personal life and drop it, but occasionally I will have to remind them.

[justrose13]

Originally Posted by seraf 

AOTD:  I don't remember how Baba was picked, but we were Mama and Baba since DS could talk.  When their mama and I separated they tried calling us by our first names for a while, but we were living with my mom and sister afterward so any time the kids would make refrence to "Sara" someone would say, "Who?  Sara who?" .

off topic. I have a good friend who is Sara... she goes by SaraWho, or now just Who. (and now who doesn't seem like a word anymore)! lol!

everybody

[Coco99]

Coco, those are some cutie babes.  Are the pics at different ages or does Charlie just look younger (or, you know, less cheeky and hairy)?

Hehehe :) The pics were taken the same day ! Charlie is smaller (almost 2 pounds smaller) and has alot less hair and cheeks so yes, she looks younger. That and Chloe had on her super cool jeans jacket and that makes her look older too ! They are very much NOT identical those two !

[seraf]

Coco, the hair does make a huge difference.  My first had hair and always looked older than he was.  And the jean jacket totally does it, too.  Those are some cute cute babies.  Its amazing how different siblings develop.

Wehrli, there are entirely too many Saras in the world.  I think we all have a number of nicknames to stay sane.

[smilingsara]

Nicknames totally help keep us sane! I didn't go by my first name except for at home for all of middle and high school ecause there were just too many sara(h)s around. Now I'm either Sara or Brock (middle name). But I like it most when I get called Sara beara by the kids or my Sara!

[chiquitayy]

Oh, chatty queers, how I love you! Since I'm holding off on the TTC I didn't really have a place for a while, but I missed you all! I won't even try to answer all of the previous QOTD, but I'm planning to keep up from here on out. Life has been crazy busy, but in a mostly good way. About to move into a fabulous new house, planning to start my master's in the fall, and just having a lovely time overall.

[starling&diesel]

Coco ... How does your house not implode from serious cuteness overload!  Those kiddos are so yummy! 

On the subject of the name Sarah.  I love the name Sarah.  I named my Cabbage Patch doll Sarah Marie.  I still wish I could name a girl child Sarah.  I think it's a lovely name!  DP's best friend is Sarah though, so no go on the naming front. 

QOTD:  We are Mama and Baba at our house.  Lately, dd is calling me 'Mommy' and dp 'Dada' on occasion.  Not sure where that's coming from.  We try not to answer to those monikers.  It seems like it would just complicate matters more.   DD is quite interested in daddies and papas and dadas right now.  I imagine it's likely a phase.

[Coco99]

LOL Starling, my house is about to explode yes but nor from cuteness, from baby stuff ! We have so much.... but we used it all too lol.

Seraf, it is amazing to watch how they develop, it is alot of the same on slightly different schedules but also with differences. Charlie, our little baby A, is very loud, expressive and vocal, she is also very curious, always looking everywhere around her. She is also our thumb sucker :). Chloe, our big baby B, is more laid back and likes to nap. She is the one who is most precise with her hand movements and who usually figures things out first. She loves her paci :) It is just so interesting to see them each express their individuality more and more.

As for names... we think we will both go by "maman"... but when we refer to each other, we will add our names or else that would mix up the girls !

Coco

xx

[MrsPP]

Hey Chatty Queers! I'm popping over with a very selfish QOTD ...As some of you know I am currently pursuing my Master's in Community Counseling. Right now I'm in a Career Counseling class and I have to present a workshop to my classmates about a specific group of people and their career paths. I am supposed to educate my peers about said group and talk to them about how to counsel more effectively. I decided, naturally, to focus on lesbians! But more specifically lesbian subgroups..butch, femme, lipstick, chapstick, crunchy, artsy, sporty...etc. I'm basically trying to debunk stereotypes and prove through my workshop that not all lesbians are construction workers or PE teachers and that career counselors need to keep that in mind.

So here is my question: What lesbian subgroup would you consider yourself? And what do you do for a living? If you feel like you are in more than one (I'm an artsy, chapstick lesbian!) then pick more than one! Thank you