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Aww man, I just can't do anything but complain!  Sorry!  At least if I do it here, my DH and other people I'm around don't have to hear it!  Overall, I'm really blessed and happy.  I appreciate all the support here, and CAN'T WAIT to start hearing some birth stories!  Let's go people!


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I also can't believe we don't have any birth stories yet! I went in for an OMM (osteopathic medical manipulation) appointment on Monday (first time every - was really cool and felt great). She said my sacrum was a little locked on the right side, and did something really cool to my diaphram - I feel quite balanced now. She said her "body sense" said I wasn't quite ready and still had a little time. So I scheduled a pregnancy massage for tomorrow morning (gift certificate from one of my awesome staff) and plan on scheduling a pedicure for Friday. I'm also buying flowers for myself every week for my desk at work. I'm feeling QUITE decadent - this is very unlike me - but I love it.  Quite a difference between being pregnant in my twenties with DD1 living on $700/month - I feel like such the mature sophisticate now ROTFLMAO.gif

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I'm having kind of a meh day and I just went and stalked the Baby pics thread in the April DDC and feel much better orngtongue.gif

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my perinatologist wants to induce at 39 weeks, which is monday, if i dont go on my own. no surprise there that he is being conservative. baby is measuring small and amniotic fluid is a little low. with my crazy OB history i can understand him wanting to be conservative. still not happy about it! i really hope i go on my own. T -6 days and counting!

 

the upside to that is the pregnancy will finally be over! i've been at home since 18 weeks and these past few months have taken lots out of me. from the "ow my achin hips!" to the preeclampsia scares and viral illnesses (hubby just gifted me with yet another viral illness. im coughing up phlegm and peeing while i do it LOL! ) my ability to do much/get around is severely limited. i am tired of feeling handicapped and want to be able bodied again!

 

good news: husband is finishing pharmacy school and after much searching for a job (i was home filling out application after application online for him. i sent out well over 50) we found one! it will pay much more than we expected, and we will be moving to a little ski town in new mexico which is really exciting. a new adventure.

 

news that makes me nervous: hubby wants to go to a vipassana retreat when baby is just a couple of weeks old, inbetween the time of his last rotation and his week+ that he has to spend in erie, pa for his school graduation stuff. the retreat is 10 days long. so he will be gone almost three weeks, leaving me with a newborn, our seven year old and my mother in law (who is less helpful than one might imagine).

 

i told him im not happy about it for me, but that i *know* this retreat will really help him and he did just complete a HUGE thing going to pharmacy school and is about to embark on his new career. i want to be supportive, but im scared! any mommas who can tell me stories of mommas who can do all of this alone?

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 I'm feeling QUITE decadent - this is very unlike me - but I love it.  Quite a difference between being pregnant in my twenties with DD1 living on $700/month - I feel like such the mature sophisticate now ROTFLMAO.gif


Heehee! If I could, I would, so be decadent for the rest of us!! :) Buy yourself some awesome chocolate this week with your flowers. I've been decadent mentally - and I did get myself a milkshake today and denied my children, but that felt more mean than decadent. duck.gif Even worse, I did that planning to get a small ice cream thing for dd and a dairy free option for ds at the store - and totally forgot. Maybe tomorrow?

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I'm having kind of a meh day and I just went and stalked the Baby pics thread in the April DDC and feel much better orngtongue.gif

 

Oooh... excellent notion!

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my perinatologist wants to induce at 39 weeks, which is monday,

 

i want to be supportive, but im scared! any mommas who can tell me stories of mommas who can do all of this alone?

Scary with the induction, but you sound like you're looking at it in a positive light!! I hope you go on your own, and if that doesn't happen, I really hope everything goes very smoothly for you!!
 

You know, minus the mother in law, I'd feel good about doing that alone, but I don't know the whole story. Dh will probably only be home for one week - give or take a day - after my LO decides to roll in, and the kids and I will likely be on our own for a week or two, depending on when I tell my mom to go ahead and get a ticket. The only thing I'm worried about during that time is having enough food prepared for the kids and I to eat - because cooking and grocery shopping are NOT going to be on my to do list. But I homeschool, so I don't have to do the morning run-around with getting anyone up and ready, or pick up anyone later. I freely admit that we will be doing a LOT of movie watching that week, but our lessons are set up right now to be in super low-key mode that the kids can do without a lot of help from me and in a couple of hours or so a day. Plus my kids are just a bit older - they can do some basic food preparation and they have each other to play with too which helps fend off grouchiness.

 

Is your MIL particularly ... difficult? Or just not much help?

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Scary with the induction, but you sound like you're looking at it in a positive light!! I hope you go on your own, and if that doesn't happen, I really hope everything goes very smoothly for you!!
 

You know, minus the mother in law, I'd feel good about doing that alone, but I don't know the whole story. Dh will probably only be home for one week - give or take a day - after my LO decides to roll in, and the kids and I will likely be on our own for a week or two, depending on when I tell my mom to go ahead and get a ticket. The only thing I'm worried about during that time is having enough food prepared for the kids and I to eat - because cooking and grocery shopping are NOT going to be on my to do list. But I homeschool, so I don't have to do the morning run-around with getting anyone up and ready, or pick up anyone later. I freely admit that we will be doing a LOT of movie watching that week, but our lessons are set up right now to be in super low-key mode that the kids can do without a lot of help from me and in a couple of hours or so a day. Plus my kids are just a bit older - they can do some basic food preparation and they have each other to play with too which helps fend off grouchiness.

 

Is your MIL particularly ... difficult? Or just not much help?


Thanks! What does your husband do that he has to take off so soon after birth? Is he military?

 

I should start planning things that I can do to help my 7 year old get through this without resenting baby too much. Netflicks and Redbox will be good friends I suspect! Ensuring good food, as well as making sure all the bills are paid so I don't have to worry about that sort of thing. Making sure the house is organized (asking hubby to assist/complete this process while I deal with my one week old and body recovery).

 

My mother in law is highly critical and puts me on edge. We have been living with her since last July, and I say nothing in order to keep the peace. She tut tuts all decsiions, she is never truly happy for us, despite the obvious desire to connect with us, she can't seem to let herself go enough to actually connect. She begged and begged for us to come stay with her while DH completed his degree this final year as she missed our DS so much, but hasn't had more than a handful of outings with him.

 

Example of criticisms that occur: When DH found out he was getting this job, MIL did the appropriate YAY's and Hurrah's for about a minute and said what a relief and then not two minutes later laid into me about how DH need to improve his handwriting so no mistakes are made and kept on about it for longer than she was ever happy about him getting a job. First I am not DH and I am not going pass on her criticism of his handwriting bc my MIL feels that I should. Second she has already brought this up with him numerous times over the past month. Why vbring it up again as soon as he accomplishes something? She has always been after him to DO SOMETHING with his life. Finally, he applies, is admitted and completes pharmacy school and then gets a job as a pharmacist in a beautiful ski town (she loves to ski and is planning on visiting) and she has to get on him about handwirting within minutes of finding out this great news.

 

She is like this all. the. time.

 

And she has no idea! In her version of life, she is the very supportive and giving mother. She has "let us" stay with her this year. We pay all of the bills, and were also perfectly happy to stay in Erie the final year, but she said, "Oh, I lost my job please come down and stay with me. I miss my grandson and it would help to have to share the bills."

 

So here I am in her house, about to be alone with her and a newborn and my DS. I know that everything she may do for me or the newborn or DS will be writ in blood. And if I fend her off then I am ungrateful, but if I accept, what pound of flesh will she extract later?

 

eep.

 

 

post #66 of 105

oh boy... final stretch for a lot of us...

sounds like there's something in the air - it's not just that we're hugely pregnant and irritated - we're truly dealing with some real characters!

 

I'm dealing with mildly elevated BP (10 point change in diastolic BP) and my midwife FREAKING about pre-e... it's like her personality changed and she's not the woman we hired, she and DP are REALLY at odds and he's a non-negotiable part of my birth - she didn't even want to come to my house for the second visit last week (to re-check BP, do a urine protein pee stick, etc) - I had to go to her (and she does home visits the ENTIRE pregnancy, not just after 36 weeks) - the whole thing has been pretty stressful, and all after she ordered me to stop stressing (made me take 3 days off of work, which was actually MORE stressful than working)  I was given the option of being sent to a high-risk OB where they would almost-surely induce me (hospitals and their interventions are very scary to me - feels like one of the worst things that could happen), or sign a risk waiver and get the tests done at a lab w/my midwife - I had the hepatic function and uric acid done Friday, submitted my 24-hr urine sample Sat., and haven't really heard from the midwife. (Which, in this case, no news is probably good news - after the lectures she gave me on how dangerous my condition could be, it would be just plain irresponsible and unprofessional of her NOT to call me if she got labs back that indicated pre-e or anything risky... but I know, I know, I should probably call her during the day.)

So I'm not sure what to do - I'm nosing around for options - and awaiting those test results... I DID get my GBS results though - negative - YAY!

 

I still feel wonderful, energetic and spry - random strangers have told me how healthy I look!  I actually got the DIRTIEST look from a pregnant lady I passed on the street... we're probably both around the same due date, except I was walking briskly and energetically (gotta keep in shape for labor!), and she was grabbing her belly and leaning on a friend for support... poor woman looked miserable greensad.gif

 

I had my last girl scout meeting (in which the 4th &5th grade Junior Troop made onesies and bibs and gifted them to me - totally sweet!) and my notshower, which was mostly family and a handful of friends - I really didn't want to get out of the house and go, but it WAS nice that everyone got together and had a celebration for me and DP - got a few good pieces of loot that were actually on the registry too! (moby wrap, skip-hop pronto changing stations, wet bag, plus some blankets, medical supplies, a book, wee little socks, and a couple of toys that weren't on the registry)

I got several lectures from my BIL's mother (very stereotypical NY Jewish Mother!) about "well, you're going to NEED a stroller, what about when the kid is 18 months? they'll be HEAVY! what about when s/he's 3 and wants to take a nap!?" and "you're going to need more clothes, lots of sweaters, May and June are COLD, that baby needs to stay WARM!" and "oh, trust me, you'll want a crib" and "you CAN'T give a baby a bath in the SINK!"  I know she means well, but... eyesroll.gif

 

In other news, I'm anxiously awaiting contractions!  I haven't had any yet... that I know of (I suppose they're one of those things you *know* when you're actually having one?) - I'm pretty sure this kiddo's not coming out until May 3rd or so, even though I'm officially full term as of last Thursday!  I asked the midwife to do a cervix check - she said my cervix is REALLY soft (thank you EPO!), but still high, back and completely closed.

post #67 of 105

punkelmo, you could go to a pharmacy, if you're curious, and buy some reagent strips.

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Wow, it's the whole gamut of good news and annoyances...!!

 

geekgolightly, congrats on your upcoming move!  It sounds like it will be really positive to get some space from your MIL :)  I don't have any experience in parenting on my own  but it sounds like your plan of having DH get the house, bills, food in order before he goes is a good one...you and kiddos can then just focus on being together and getting proper rest and food.  Would MIL take to a list from DH for things she can cook/do?  Maybe some gentle guidance would bring out that "I really want to help" spirit she demonstrated when she asked you guys to live with her this year.

 

*hug* for jr'smom.  I am so sorry for your loss, and that it is feeling fresh again now with baby's imminent arrival.

 

Both of you touched on something I am feeling lately (and feeling surprised about)...the whole idea of rolling with the punches a bit re: c-section/induction and just getting to baby.  My kiddo is head down now, which is great, but as expected at my 38 week appointment we saw some upward creep in my BP.  It's still nothing the midwife is that concerned about but I always worry I will hit that ceiling of concern, kwim?  But this time around I'm kinda like "well, what will be wil be" and not worrying about it so much.  I just want to meet this baby and not be preggo anymore.  It's very odd for me to be so willing to let go of the ideal - maybe deep dowqn I know that everything will be fine?  I dunno.

 

punkelmo, I'm sorry your midwife is freaking out.  It's interesting to see different levels of tolerance - both my numbers have jumped about 10 points but my midwife isn't concerned about it.  I was 131/82 (or 132/81, can't remember) on Monday.  It's normal for me to jump from 120s/70s to 130s/80s in late pregnancy, and it's never been associated with spilling protein or excessive swelling (I swell from 20 weeks onward, so my ankles will look like they do now no matter how good my BP is, LOL!).

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Geekgolightly- good luck!

 

Jr's mom- hug2.gif I don't always get along with my mom, but couldn't imagine being without her. Praying you find comfort!

 

Punkelmo- that would have me irked. Hoping you get good answers!

 

AFM- I keep having rough evenings. Around 5-6pm, I start feeling really "birthy". BH contractions, funny cervical feelings, and I get distracted from whatever I'm doing. Last night I had a breakdown while playing a game with DH (Magic: The Gathering--yeah we're nerds). I couldn't figure out what it was I was wanting to do and just broke down. It was 10:30, kids were finishing up a movie and he said, "Go to bed." I didn't want to, but he sent me to bed and told me to listen to my hypnobabies tracks. I always wake up feeling better, but this is the third time it's happened at night this week. It's really getting old. I'll be 37 weeks tomorrow... I have another 3-4 weeks of this! irked.gif

 

I can't get my hopes up that I'm getting birth-ready, because I went 41 weeks with my first, had a c-section at 37.5 weeks with my second... I could be another month... OK I need to stop before I start crying. I've got too much to do to be depressed today. My sister and I are getting a bunch of cleaning done today!

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geekgolightly- Your MIL sounds like mine. ugh.  I am excited by the prospects of our first May DDC baby!  Hope you go into labor on your own!

 

 

I can not belelive how close we are all getting!!!!

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yup, we did one of those at the MW's house last Friday... she was happy that it said minor minor trace of protein (as opposed to massive amounts of protein), but since it wasn't ZERO, we went for the 24-hr pee in a jug test (which was OH so fun... hi, I'm here for brunch, don't mind this giant orange jug of PEE that I have to keep in your fridge and use every time I need to go to the bathroom!) lol!
 

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punkelmo, you could go to a pharmacy, if you're curious, and buy some reagent strips.



 

post #72 of 105

Geekgolightly - here is a link to a not so bad induction story... http://lplusjequals.com/2010/12/

Induction can mean many things, so research research research and come up with a game plan to start with as low an intervention as you can - who knows!  Hoping things go well for you mama.

 

I'm feeling ready ready ready... encouraging and breathing into any cramps I get.  I picked up some birth snacks yesterday and had my work shower.  I haven't unpacked the cuteness.  I actually have a friend coming to visit and distract this weekend which is great.  I could use a little bit more time to putter around with work stuff but I'm not really under the gun anymore.  Most big things are done.

 

I don't want to be this big anymore!  Holy moly!

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Well, one of my good friends' water broke this morning. She's due May 6th, but isn't registered on here. 

 

I'm excited for her and praying for her and baby, but have to admit, I'm a little jealous! :) Just so sick of pregnancy. This will be her first child.

 

Hubby tells me this morning that I should go into labor because he wants a vacation. lol.gif

I'm like sorry, I can't make her do anything she doesn't want to. We just have to wait. 

 

 

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Reelgeek- I work downtown so I get much less crazy, but there is a homeless guy on the corner near my building (that's his "job" and he is there every day) who is constantly full of advice on how to make sure my baby doesn't turn out like him. Which is sweet, I guess, but kind of disturbing. I have also gotten random ones of panhandlers telling me the sex or fortune of the baby and then demanding payment even though I'm not participating in the conversation with them. Such a colorful city. Do you take BART or Muni? I starting driving to work this week cause a woman basically hip checked me on BART to get to a seat before I could sit down and I just couldn't deal with the rudeness anymore. 


I work downtown too, but I live in the Mission, so I get lots of crazy there. :)

 

I take BART and I'm constantly surprised at how rude people are, and how rarely does anyone offer me or the other pregnant ladies I see a seat. I was telling my husband that I think I have gravitational pull now for how often people just walk straight into me. It's like they're hypnotized by my belly. Yesterday a totally decked out Giants fan yelled, "GO GIANTS! NICE BELLY!" at me as I walked back to the office from lunch though, so that was at least funny.

 

I'm Canadian, here on a greencard and have a militant politeness that I expect others to adhere to. I've told people to get out of their seats to give them to the elderly and to people holding babies before on the train/bus. Soon I'm just going to have to advocate for myself. "Oh don't mind me, I'm just 9 months pregnant..."  ;)

 

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geekgolightly:  You're sooooo close!  Are you doing any natural induction methods to try to push things along?  Very exciting!!!

 

punkelmo:  I can only imagine lugging around a jug of urine... hahahaha!!!  Hoping no news is GOOD news!

 

becca:  I've been having a hard time, too!  But I'm the opposite - I get so weepy/overwhelmed at the thought of this baby coming and not having everything ready here.  When I get BH and have moments of being really uncomfortable at night I just keep thinking that I NEED more time...  DS came at 38.5 weeks, so I keep thinking I only have 4 more weeks and I start to panic.  This move has really been emotional for me!

 

Last night DH brought me home some buffalo chicken pizza - sooooo yummy!  But I had a feeling it would be a bad idea to eat so close to bedtime, and sure enough I got heartburn for the first time.  I struggled with it all through the night and it was still lingering this morning.  Hoping it was just the pizza and not something that's going to stick around for the next few weeks.  Unpacking is coming along and hopefully I'll get it all finished this weekend before Easter.  My mom is planning on coming into town on Friday to help me hang up all my paintings and finish up.  I can't wait!

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I work downtown too, but I live in the Mission, so I get lots of crazy there. :)

 

I take BART and I'm constantly surprised at how rude people are, and how rarely does anyone offer me or the other pregnant ladies I see a seat. I was telling my husband that I think I have gravitational pull now for how often people just walk straight into me. It's like they're hypnotized by my belly. Yesterday a totally decked out Giants fan yelled, "GO GIANTS! NICE BELLY!" at me as I walked back to the office from lunch though, so that was at least funny.

 

I'm Canadian, here on a greencard and have a militant politeness that I expect others to adhere to. I've told people to get out of their seats to give them to the elderly and to people holding babies before on the train/bus. Soon I'm just going to have to advocate for myself. "Oh don't mind me, I'm just 9 months pregnant..."  ;)

 


I live in Alameda, which is a really quiet chill place to live, so get very little nuttiness near home base. I have to say that I don't really care for sports but I really like the Giants fans for the most part. The parade started around the corner from my office, which was really sweet. 

 

I took BART last night and had a woman barrel by me and take up two seats with her stuff (the seats I was obviously waddling towards) and then turn and glare at me. I am so over it. I have a week and a half left of coming to work and I am just going to drive every day even if it means parking twice on Tuesdays. I stay late in the city Tues to take a class near Market & 4th which is a crappy area to park, but my patience with rude people on transit is just GONE. 

 

I'm from Hi, so I also grew up around really polite people. Everybody is mellow and nice to each other and polite to strangers. Even living in California for 16 years hasn't made my urge to be polite go away, but man it can be a struggle sometimes. hehe.

 

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You ladies are making me miss home.  I grew up in the bay area (peninsula/silicon valley), but spent a lot of time in the city, especially my last few years of High School and when I go back to visit!

 

I guess I don't have a gauge as a pregnant lady trying to get around SF, but... in general, if you think SF/bay area peeps are crazy and rude, do NOT come to NYC... omg.  I can't tell you how many times I've stood up for a 45min subway ride or been pushed out of the way by a healthy looking male in his 20's or some girl who's wearing too-tall heels and can't stand up properly or an obese person who takes up 3 seats (when they generally COULD only take up 2, just sayin') - I've even had people STARE at my belly the whole time they're sitting down and I'm standing up, or make comments about pregnancy and not offer their seat.

 

I'm really fortunate to feel healthy and energetic during my pregnancy, and I'd totally ask for a seat if I needed one, but I often wonder wtf these people's parents taught them!?  

I'll admit that I refuse to offer my seat to people with gigantic strollers (pretty much anything larger than an umbrella stroller is obnoxious and potentially dangerous on the subway, and ALL strollers are supposed to be folded and carried on the train per MTA rules), but old people, pregnant ladies, people with kids that fit in their lap, etc... they get my seat, it's just the right thing to do! *sigh*

 

okay, done ranting, sorry!

 

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I took BART last night and had a woman barrel by me and take up two seats with her stuff (the seats I was obviously waddling towards) and then turn and glare at me. I am so over it. ...my patience with rude people on transit is just GONE. 

I'm from Hi, so I also grew up around really polite people. Everybody is mellow and nice to each other and polite to strangers. Even living in California for 16 years hasn't made my urge to be polite go away, but man it can be a struggle sometimes. hehe.

 



 

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Wow, I envy you ladies with small babies!  :)  Mine are big.  #1 DD was 4 weeks early 7lbs 4oz, #2 DS @40wks 9lbs, #3 DD @39wks 8lbs 2oz.  This baby is huge.  My midwife is AWESOME at guesstimating weight.  Right now she's guessing we're already to 6.5 pounds & I'm 35weeks.  But I'm only measuring 32wks.  This little one does not have much room in there!!

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got my lab results back - I don't have pre-e. (can I say "DUH!" or does that seem too cynical?  I knew it all along, didn't need to pay $100+ in lab fees, but oh well, it makes the midwives/docs happy.)

My midwife wants to take my BP again, see where it is, she's still not sure she feels comfortable with the BP, and she's still asking me to come to HER place for my appointment (when ALL of her visits are normally done in the clients' home - and I'm at 38 weeks tomorrow).

it also concerns me that I had the hepatic function test and uric acid done on Fri, and submitted the 24hr urine test on Sat., and I hadn't heard from the midwife since Sat., so I finally sucked it up and called her and left a message asking if she'd gotten my lab results, and, gee, wow, strange coincidence, she got them 5min before I called. headscratch.gif

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My friend had her baby. Yey! :D LOL

 

So, now there's someone due in May that had a baby. Even if not on the DDC. :)

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