Originally Posted by geekgolightly
Thanks! What does your husband do that he has to take off so soon after birth? Is he military?
My mother in law is highly critical and puts me on edge.
And she has no idea! In her version of life, she is the very supportive and giving mother. She has "let us" stay with her this year. We pay all of the bills, and were also perfectly happy to stay in Erie the final year, but she said, "Oh, I lost my job please come down and stay with me. I miss my grandson and it would help to have to share the bills."
So here I am in her house, about to be alone with her and a newborn and my DS. I know that everything she may do for me or the newborn or DS will be writ in blood. And if I fend her off then I am ungrateful, but if I accept, what pound of flesh will she extract later?
Dh is a truck driver - he's gone all week all the time! Lol.. but he is usually home two nights a week right now, so he'll be here for a week or so, then a 5-7 day stretch without him, though he may make the first trip or two 2-4 days if he can. He loves to cook, so I know he'll be leaving us with prepared meals if we eat everything I make before he goes, and then stocking things up when he come back. But still. I may feel awesome and have enough energy and get enough rest to be fine without back-up, but ... I don't want to have to count on that, I want to sit on my butt with a baby in my arms and figure out breastfeeding again and eat and chill and not think about much, you know? But I don't want my mom and dh there at the same time, partly because we'll likely still be in a really small place, and partly because I want her here after he can't be anymore - sort of spread out my support a bit.
I don't want my MIL here AT ALL, as I outlined a chat thread or two ago, but it sounds like you have even more to deal with than I do in that regard! She does have her opinions, but she has learned that sharing the negative ones gets her NOwhere, so that's something. I can barely stand the idea of her being here, no matter how reasonable she's being, because just like you said, her presence = stressed out edginess, and she rarely recognizes that's she's the cause of whatever issue. She really believes she's just trying to make everyone happy, or at least she believes she's acting that way, but not so much. Which of course we don't need post partum! I really feel for you having to deal with that and in her house, as an added bonus. Stay strong! I think my MIL actually listens to me more than she listens to my dh, but that's going way out there and suggesting she both listens AND acts on what she heard, which is frequently not what we said. Such a game you have to play! And keep us updated on the induction stuff!
Jr's Mom - Idk how I missed your comment about the anniversary of losing your mom coming up. I am so sorry.
Punk Elmo - I was always under the impression that women that actually have pre-e felt kind of beat down? Maybe not, but you just sound so full of energy and health! I can't imagine hitting the panic button over a change in BP with nothing else going on! So happy that you don't have that to deal with anymore!
Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006
My friend had her baby. Yey! :D LOL
So, now there's someone due in May that had a baby. Even if not on the DDC. :)
Surely that will act as some kind of catalyst?? :)
Originally Posted by seafox
Originally Posted by MrsBone
wow, 72 hours!? I thought my 43 hour labor was long! The first 20 or so weren't too horrible for me, but the last 23 were intense. I was so tired by the end!
we are *really* hoping this time goes much faster!!! even twice as fast is still a damn long labor, annoyingly
I really REALLY can't imagine. Both my labors were about 7.25 hours. Sure I made it through that without any kind of pain meds or anything, it was like a busy afternoon and then it was over! I don't know how anyone makes it through more than maybe one day of regular labor - with a tub! - and with back labor like I had with dd... I think 7.5 hours would've done me in completely!
AFM - I think I'm still recovering from that stupid food poisoning? I cannot deal with the absurd level of exhaustion lately. When I take a shower, I pretty much have to take it, sit down for ten minutes or so, so I don't fall down, then get more or less ready to go out, take another break, and then eat and take a nap before I can even consider walking out the door. Whatever I want to accomplish, I now realize I will only accomplish half of that on any given day. Oh, and today I felt what so many of you have been dealing with regarding pelvic pain. OUCH. I'm going to try to take a walk tomorrow... I'm thinking that all this extreme tiredness leading to my spending way too much time sitting or sleeping may be causing that, so if I can get even a little activity, plus some more direct sunshine, surely that will be good for me even if the pain doesn't change much!
The baby did at least spin from being posterior, but that lasted a half day, and right now he's transverse if my belly and his hiccups are any indication. I'm just relieved he wasn't settling in yet.
And every time I say "he" like it's a given I'm carrying a boy, I wonder just how silly I'll feel if I'm wrong!