Would you consider an extremely chaotic childhood "abuse" for a kid? *might be triggering* - Page 3

[Ldavis24]

Originally Posted by LynnS6 

I'm really glad you found someone you click with. I hope she can help you down the road to healing.

I just wanted to address the line in bold. Yes, parents who are depressed or anxious parent differently -- but those are parents whose issues are untreated. If you compare parents who are depressed/anxious and treated with parents who are not depressed/anxious, you see no meaningful differences in their behavior with their children. So, by treating your issues and not sweeping them under the carpet, you're going a long ways to helping your daughter have a happy, healthy childhood.

thank you. It makes sense there is a difference and makes me feel a little more warm and fuzzy.

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by Ldavis24 

I know you are a yoga instructor!!

There is so much I admire about you just from reading things you have posted Linda...

your kids are very lucky to have such an empathetic and wise mama

ahhh I wish I closer as well. I'd love to take a yoga lesson with you! and chat in person too hehe.

hey sweetie! I've been thinking about you. You said that you think my kids are lucky, but that you worry about how your struggles will impact your DD. I've struggled with clinical depression off and on for most of my life. I take my mental health very seriously, I still see a counselor once a month just to check in, and I spend time everyday checking in with myself (which is why I've spent so much time on a yoga mat!) 

One of the odd thing about having a rough childhood and trouble processing it as an adult is that it gives us fertile ground for personal growth. After all, fertilizer is made from sh*t! 
 

[Ldavis24]

Originally Posted by Linda on the move 

hey sweetie! I've been thinking about you. You said that you think my kids are lucky, but that you worry about how your struggles will impact your DD. I've struggled with clinical depression off and on for most of my life. I take my mental health very seriously, I still see a counselor once a month just to check in, and I spend time everyday checking in with myself (which is why I've spent so much time on a yoga mat!) 

One of the odd thing about having a rough childhood and trouble processing it as an adult is that it gives us fertile ground for personal growth. After all, fertilizer is made from sh*t! 
 

this made me laugh so hard DD came trotting over from playing in the water dish to stroke my arm and say "ok mama?"

I don't think your kids are lucky, I KNOW they are...I wish I was half as eloquent/thoughtful as you are in your posts (i'm thinking of some other threads we are both currently posting in)...I feel like you must be pretty good at just talking with your kids.. Ok if I am going to sing your praises all day I'll just start a whole new thread devoted to Linda!

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by Ldavis24 
I don't think your kids are lucky, I KNOW they are...I wish I was half as eloquent/thoughtful as you are in your posts

Thank you, but I'm most likely A LOT older than you. I'm 46. I've been working on this stuff for a long, long time.

I first got into therapy 23 years ago, exactly half a life time ago for me. I had a moment of clarity when I realized that there might be a link between the fact that I was a self destructive mess and the sexual abuse.

Since we can't get together and do yoga, here is a mudra for you:

Position your right hand so that the thumb is up, and then wrap the 4 fingers of your left hand around the thumb. Then rotate your hands so that the left thumb can meet the middle finger of your right hand. Bring your hands to your heart center. Keep your hands in this position, but relax them, and relax your shoulders and your arms. Close your eyes and image that your hands are a beautiful sea shell that you have found. It's wonderful and unique, and it's all yours. Then image that your thumb hidden away inside is a precious pearl, luminous and bright.

And then allow your hands to represent your body, and your thumb to represent your highest self, that part of your that is sacred and of the divine.

And then just rest there, knowing that both your body and soul are precious and beautiful.

Peace.