I'm really glad you found someone you click with. I hope she can help you down the road to healing.
I just wanted to address the line in bold. Yes, parents who are depressed or anxious parent differently -- but those are parents whose issues are untreated. If you compare parents who are depressed/anxious and treated with parents who are not depressed/anxious, you see no meaningful differences in their behavior with their children. So, by treating your issues and not sweeping them under the carpet, you're going a long ways to helping your daughter have a happy, healthy childhood.
thank you. It makes sense there is a difference and makes me feel a little more warm and fuzzy.