Too Much Togetherness (or, oh, my aching back!)

[insidevoice]

I don't mind cosleeping, in fact, I usually like it.  Or I did.

I have two toddlers who are usually in my bed at night.  During the day, they nap on their own in their own sleeping spaces, but at night, they really want to be in my bed.  This was fine for a while, but now they are absolutely glued to me at night.  I can't roll. I can't move. They have to be squished against me or on top of me. 

This morning I woke up from a nightmare about a train derailing and having people and debris on top of me to discover that it was how my mind was interpreting being so squashed. 

I try to move them gently- especially when they are asleep, but they wake instantly and either cry or grumble or generally fuss until they get back to squishing me. 

Please help.  I need some sleep, and less pain. 

[MamaofLiam]

I wish I had some advice to give, but I'm in the same boat! I actually came browsing this section looking for some help myself. My neck hurts so bad! We cosleep in a queen (DH, myself and DS 13 mos). Yeah... not comfortable but we can't afford a king right now. Ergo, in laws bought us a crib which we sidecar now. We just started this a couple weeks ago, and it starts out okay but by 1 or 2 he's back in our bed and lately, right on top of me. If I turn away he cries, if I move he cries. He wants to have his hand on my boob all night tweaking it every so often and its just not working for me. I have sleep problems without a baby, and this is just making it so so much worse. So almost the same situation, but it sounds like you might have it a bit worse than me. I'm sorry it sounds no bueno. I empathize! 

Bump!

[elluin]

I've found that my daughter (12 months) likes to be snuggled against me when she's cool, but she likes her own space when she's toasty warm. She sleeps in cotton, but adding a layer seems to help if I need a little extra space.

Just recently she started rolling into the side-carred crib after nursing! Previously it was more of a space buffer / railing so we could at least use every inch of our queen bed... but on her own she started rolling onto it and sprawling out! This coincided with spring weather, so maybe it was also due to temperature.

Good luck getting a little space in your family beds!

[insidevoice]

I don't think it's heat related with mine- our  bedroom tends to be the warmest room in the house.  It's a good 15-20 degrees warmer than the living room where the thermostat is, and our thermostat is usually set at 60 - 65 degrees, so the bedroom is stifling. It's a good thought though.

I am really hoping to find a solution.  I'm toying with the idea of those soft foam rails, but I suspect they would use those to pin me in place and tandem squish me to keep me where they want me. :P  

[Turquesa]

I'm not here to help, just to commiserate.  My back it KILLING ME for the same reason!!

[insidevoice]

It's 9 pm, and I'm about to pull out the living room sofa bed to sleep there until one of the little ones wakes.  Oddly, uncomfy hideabed is preferable to the squish.