I'm not sure that this belongs on this forum, but the issues are so similar, so here goes!
I am on a parenting listserve, and one of the moms posted asking for advice. Her 10-mo son has just been diagnosed with "very mild hypospadias." Her doc is advising her to get surgery (of course), although function is not affected. He (the doc) admits it is a cosmetic procedure, but 95% of parents choose the sx b/c of cosmetic reasons and to get a proper arc to the urine stream(!). This isn't one where she can leave the decision for him to make later; she says they only do the sx up to 18 months of age. She is planning on getting a second opinion.
Here is the response I plan on posting. Anything I'm missing? I'd just hate this little guy to have to go through surgery for nothing.
I’m sorry this is something you’re dealing with. Parenting is difficult enough without these roadblocks. I don’t have personal experience with this issue, but would like to offer my personal opinion. The hypospadias is very mild. It took ten months for anyone to notice it. Function is not affected. Any surgical procedure comes with risks, even routine procedures. I just feel like, if it’s not broke, don’t fix it. You would be putting your son at unnecessary risk. As far as cosmetic issues later, I seriously doubt that other boys will be scrutinizing his urethra placement in the locker room, and it sounds like close inspection would be necessary to detect this! As an adult, any woman who took issue would probably be too shallow for him to want to keep around, anyway. I guess it just seems like essentially cosmetic surgery is a risk not worth taking. Just my two cents.
Thanks for your help!