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post #101 of 193
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Is yours just the hour test or is it the long one? Mine was annoying but not scary. Are you afraid you're going to "fail" it? I could see how that could freak you out. If you try to eat really well the 24 hours before that should help a lot. I wonder if your doctor will give you a choice of what to drink for it. My mom said when she had hers (for different reasons than pregnancy) they gave her a choice of flavors than the orange stuff they gave me. The midwife we consulted with said she usually just uses Pepsi. I WISH.

Yeah its the 1 hour one and Im terrified Im going to fail it/have GD.

 

Im trying to avoid a c-section at all costs and I have read that it can increase the likelyhood of needing one :(

 

 

post #102 of 193

dragonflymom - with gd your risk of a c-section does increase but knowing that & being prepared goes a long way towards prevention. Many of us have had gd & not had a c-section. The most important this is to know ahead of time how your care providers approach things. I had a fabulous ob & a terrible endo. The endo asked me every single time when my c-section was & my ob reassured every single time that he was the one to make the decision & he saw no reason to go that way. Having gd is no fun at all but it's not a sentence to a c-section.

post #103 of 193

Dragonfly - I agree, try to eat well prior to the test - even if you do fail the 1 Hour test, you still have the 3 hour test to get through, and even if THAT comes back positive for GD, mostly you will just have to watch your blood sugar and carb intake. (usually. there are always some cases where metformin or insulin might be needed).

 

Being overweight/obese in and of itself seems to increase the likelihood of c-section. Not because plus size women are incapable of birthing vaginally, but because of the providers we see seem to think it might be easier or necessary. Being plus size does seem to put one "at risk" for developing complications like GD, or hypertension, but it isn't a sure thing. I know plenty of super-skinny women to have both these things. In fact, all the women I've known - with one exception - that have had GD or pre-eclampsia - have been of an "average" weight.

 

FX you do fine! I get my results today . . . .

post #104 of 193

I just did my 1 hour glucola test.  Wretch.  I was able to walk for 20 minutes before the blood draw.  I hope I did okay.  

 

My fundus measured 34 weeks today at my 28 week appointment, so I'm going to have an ultrasound Friday to check the baby's size.  I think this is just a fat tummy problem.  Have you other plus-sized mamas had this issue?

post #105 of 193

My fundus has always measured right on track both with this pregnancy and my last (granted they only started measuring me at my last visit with this pregnancy). Could just be extra fluid.

 

I failed my 1 hr test and get to go back next week for the 3 hr one. ugh. I don't understand, as this baby is measuring on target/smallish, and I have gained way less weight than I did with my first pregnancy. 6 lbs so far. I don't remember what I weighed at 30 wks with DS, but I gained 25 lbs total. Starting weight was the same. I really, really don't think I have GD, but the testing is a hassle.

post #106 of 193
Yellowdart, I'm having a similar issue, but originally I was on track. At 18w4d, I measured 19w. Then, at 23w I was measuring 29! On Friday, at 27w4d, I measured 33! My midwife is "curious" what it will be next time...

Although no longer "plus size," my size 10 body is very dense at 184 pounds prepregnancy and I still have a LOT of loose skin and flab from my weight loss. I don't know if it makes a difference for measuring, but my baby bump is certainly abnormally shaped...
post #107 of 193
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My fundus measured 34 weeks today at my 28 week appointment, so I'm going to have an ultrasound Friday to check the baby's size.  I think this is just a fat tummy problem.  Have you other plus-sized mamas had this issue?



My Doctor (who is really wonderful) has always just taken my measurement at the beginning of pregnancy and made sure that the growth has been appropriate over time, not worrying too much about whether I'm "on track" by skinny belly guidelines.

 

She's the first doctor I have ever had who....acknowledged my weight problem without shaming about it, you know what I mean?  The vast majority of the doctors I have had have never spoken a peep about it, it was like a skinny woman walked into their office every time.  And then I have had a few who have been really, extremely blunt about it - as if I was stupid and didn't realize it was a problem.  This doctor acknowledges it (i.e. says she would like me not to gain any extra weight through pregnancy if possible, sent me for an extra, early GD test, always uses the larger cuff for accurate BP readings, etc) but it's done in a respectful way - she wants to take the best care of me that she can and that is reassuring  and never hurtful like it has been with other doctors.  And she has NEVER, ever, made me feel like I was doomed or couldn't have a healthy pregnancy.  I heart her.  So much.

post #108 of 193

That sounds great!  My providers haven't been jerks about my weight, really - they do use the big cuff, they told me to aim for little to no weight gain but to not worry about it too much - but it would be nice if I had some belly comparison from before pregnancy.  I definitely had plenty of belly fat before pregnancy, and it's still there, just in front of the baby.  I think that must be contributing to the big measurement.  

 

The baby was on target at the 12 weeks and 20 weeks ultrasounds, but this is my first fundal measurement.

 

My mom says I measured several weeks ahead as a third trimester fetus, so this could also just be a big baby.  
 

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My Doctor (who is really wonderful) has always just taken my measurement at the beginning of pregnancy and made sure that the growth has been appropriate over time, not worrying too much about whether I'm "on track" by skinny belly guidelines.

 

She's the first doctor I have ever had who....acknowledged my weight problem without shaming about it, you know what I mean?  The vast majority of the doctors I have had have never spoken a peep about it, it was like a skinny woman walked into their office every time.  And then I have had a few who have been really, extremely blunt about it - as if I was stupid and didn't realize it was a problem.  This doctor acknowledges it (i.e. says she would like me not to gain any extra weight through pregnancy if possible, sent me for an extra, early GD test, always uses the larger cuff for accurate BP readings, etc) but it's done in a respectful way - she wants to take the best care of me that she can and that is reassuring  and never hurtful like it has been with other doctors.  And she has NEVER, ever, made me feel like I was doomed or couldn't have a healthy pregnancy.  I heart her.  So much.



 

post #109 of 193

I have had pretty good luck with doctor's over the years with my weight. A few hurtful, angry moments but mostly it's been a non-issue, even though I often bring it up. My current ob didn't have ANY concern about my weight when we were doing fertility treatments yet another fertility specialist basically told me that was the whole problem (hmmmm, managed to conceive anyway). In fact at my appt yesterday he didn't even weigh me (his nurse was away & she usually does this).

post #110 of 193

The MW's I saw during my first pregnancy never really brought up my weight. As I wasn't gaining above and beyond what was recommended, or too quickly, I guess they saw no cause for concern. Now, when I passed the 1 hr GTC at 26ish weeks, one mentioned that maybe it should be repeated later in pregnancy (I wasn't measuring big, neither was DS) and I thought that might have been a big weight biased.

 

This go round, I have hardly gained any weight (6 lbs total and only 1 since 8 wks), and the OB's have said when I asked them that they are perfectly fine with it and not concerned at all. I think the max they would like to see me gain is 10-15 lbs. I gained 25 lbs with DS. (don't think that will happen this time, with only 10 weeks to go).

 

I haven't had any doctor ever be openly rude about my weight, not since I was a teenager and barely overweight. I had gone to the doctor about back pain - I have a little scoliosis and big boobs - then I think they were 36/38 DD - and I weighed 140-150 lbs - and the doc said the back pain wasn't from the scoliosis, my boobs "weren't big enough" to cause back problems. It had to be my weight. Ugh. We didn't go back to him, I think, even my mom thought that was ridiculous.

post #111 of 193

I have gained 20lbs so far...I was recommended by the nutritionist to gain btwn 11-20....oh poop!

going to take another belly shot and post it!

post #112 of 193

Here's my 28+2 days and 29+5 days belly shots. I feel like I got a lot bigger in those 9 days:

 

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post #113 of 193

it seems that you have gotten bigger....WOW! Go Baby....lol

post #114 of 193
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Hey moms.

 

I did my test this past Tuesday, the way it works with my office is that they do not call you unless something came back bad/negative/whatever...and so far no phone call (its Sunday night here)..Im going to call tomorrow just to be sure but Im keeping my fingers crossed.

 

I was told to fast from 9pm the previous night until after the test was done at 930 am...not fun, and the drink gave me an awful sugar headache but I did walk during the test.

 

Im also measuring right on target both with ultrasounds and physical measurements, Im lucky to have a really relaxed and plus sized OB who does not make me feel bad about the weight while still being up front about any issues. 

 

Its scary to think I only have 10 weeks and 3 days until this dude is due...I cannot wait to meet him!!

Is anyone else going through a serious nesting spurt? 

 

I went through, organized and folded/hung all the baby clothes today as well as started on a scrapbook...I am in the mood to decorate and get shit done lol!

 

Heres the scrapbook page I did :

 

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Complete with penis photo lol, we have TONS of photos of the little dudes junk because thats all he likes to show off and our ultrasound tech thinks its absolutely hilarious.

post #115 of 193

Hearts to everyone going through the GD testing woes! 

 

Dragonflymom I am nesting too, though I don't have much to nest with yet. Since it's my first baby, I am pretty bewildered about what I need to buy and what is just stuff that will get in my way. Today I bought a Gulliver crib off CL to use as a sidecar with my bed, last week I bought some onesies at the used baby store, and I'm trying to come with an idea of where we will put all the baby things that are sure to appear. I'm also putting together a baby registry since so many relatives have asked "what do you need" and all I can think is "I need some better ideas of what I need!"

 

One thing I'm really wondering about is baby wearing. I would like to get some wraps & slings, but am not sure which ones are best for a person with large boobs & belly. Any ideas? I am thinking of the Moby, but it doesn't look super easy to get into/out of quickly. I'd like some options that will keep me from having too much extra back pain over long wearing, and some options that go on and off more speedily for short-term wears. What has worked for the moms here?

post #116 of 193

a ring sling is great! adjustable so that people of different sizes can wear them and if you spread it widely across your back there is soo much support!

 

I have a size 7 didymos wrap and can still carry my 46lb 4 yearold in in while pregnant...lots of support

I carried him right up until the day i gave birth to my dd...he still asks to be carried and I only give in occasionally ;)

post #117 of 193

Depending on how plus size you are . . . I am wanting a baby k'tan - it's like a moby in that it is a stretchy wrap, but no tying really involved. I don't like dragging all the fabric for a Moby around. The K'tan goes up to a size 18/20.

 

Moby and wraps in general, are not that difficult to get in and out of, once you have the hang of it. For me, it is really more about how much extra stuff do I want to drag with or on me. With DS, If I knew we were going to be out and about alot, I just tied the Moby on before we lefte the house and popped him in and out as needed, and took it off as soon as we were done.

 

Nmouse: Truly necessary things on my list:

 

a place for baby to sleep (when not with you, when they are willing) - this can be a crib, a moses basket, a co-sleeper, a pack n play . . . any of the above.

 

Food: if you are nursing, you've got that. Things that help: nursing pads, nursing bras or camisoles, pillows, a comfy chair or spot to nurse in, a pump if you have to work, or will be away from the baby sometimes (and the associated bottles and stuff) - my best nursing top solution are Lane Bryant camisoles under any top that isn't too snug. I lift shirt up, pull cami and nursing bra down, and voila! it's also pretty discreet, and hides your tummy. I never did find a nursing camisole that I really liked.

 

Clothes: I love sleep sacs and gowns for night time. during the day, anything easy, especially if it has zippers instead of a bunch of snaps. (onesies only have 3-4, so aren't bad)

 

Diapers/Wipes

 

Gear: carseat - I love my Combi Cocorro- it's a convertible, and fits newborns really well. we do have an infant carrier sort of seat for one car, and they are handy for some situations (like restaurants and places with carts) but not a must. I have a stroller because sometimes it isn't as convienent to wear a baby, or they don't want to be worn (too hot), and it is a good place to put shopping bags, etc (seriously!)

 

I'm sure there is other stuff, but that's my starter list.

 

In other news: my 3 hr test is tomorrow: yay! (not!)

post #118 of 193

Babywearing:

I made my own ring sling b/c DH was too big for the others we had (at the time he was over 260lbs, and he's 6'2". Even when he weighs less his body is just too big for many baby carriers). I used a really easy online pattern here and just made sure there was a long "tail" which makes it very adjustable: http://www.sleepingbaby.net/jan/Baby/sling.html

Seriously it took me about 45 minutes to make and we've already used it for 2 kids. there are nice tummy-to-tummy carries with the ring sling for a newborn. Its very easy to use. The drawback is that it doesn't distribute the weight as well across your back.

Jan Andrea, who makes this website is not a small person, and she has modifications for making larger babywearing wraps/carriers. Also a pattern for making larger nursing pillows, instructions for modifying clothes for nursing and maternity.

 

DH is just barely able to wear an ergo. I find it very comfy but when I was bigger, it was a tight fit, I would recommend the waist extension belt which makes it much more adjustable. This time I want to make myself a mei tai. Can roll up very small in your bag, can wear front or back, can tie differently depending on age of baby and comfort to wearer, and I think it will be easier to wear comfortably under a winter coat (we are almost entirely pedestrian in NYC, no car, so I would like to wear my winter baby inside my coat with me! I have an idea how to make a front-carry modification for a winter coat but I think I am going to get my sister, who is a fashion designer- for reals! she works for a very high end company actually- to do it with me). And, you can definitely purchase or make a mei tai with longer straps. The thing about mei tai or soft-structured carriers (like Ergo) is that they can really sort of emphasize boobs and belly once you are wearing baby on your back. I don't  like that about them, but in the end, its SO comfortable that I went with it. Also, I happened to lose quite a bit of weight right around when #2 was really ready for a back carry, so that alleviated some of my insecurity about it too.

 

I liked my wraps but definitely try out for size first. Or, just get a longer one. There is more of a learning curve but its SO comfortable for the first few months and infinitely adjustable to your body. Sadly I gave mine away but am hopeful that one will make it back to me. If not by Oct 1 I will just suck it up and buy a new one.

post #119 of 193

Emma: have you or your DH tried a Boba? we changed to that from an Ergo once DS got too tall to be safely in a back carry in the Ergo. Both DH and I can wear the Boba comfortably with no extensions needed. FWIW: I'm 4'11 and currently 230-ish lbs and DH is 6'6" and 300 something (I know he wears between a 3XLT and a 4XLT but don't keep track of his lbs) - also I think the straps - both waist and shoulder - are a bit wider - at any rate, it seems to sit more comfortably for me.

 

Also, check thebabywearer FSOT or diaperswappers, they have wraps there all the time, you probably can get for a fraction of the cost.

 

ETA: most recent bump pic: 31 weeks!

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post #120 of 193
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Still have not heard back about my GTT, called Monday and was told the doctor had not yet signed off on it so she could not tell me the results...come on people, its been a week!!

 

Here is my 30 week belly!!

 

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I actually feel like I really look pregnant now, I dont know if its because I FINALLY found a maternity tank top that is long enough (Thank you Target!!) or what but I feel like I look slimmer and that my weight/belly has come more to the front and looks rounder...or I could be nuts lol.

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