I love all the activity on here!
Trinket90 - I was thinking you might be able to hit your salt craving and feel nutritious if you try out some tamari almonds and tamari sunflower seeds. We're sposed to eat lots of nuts and seeds, and tamari is salty and tasty. I really like the almonds mixed in with cottage cheese, which is also a little salty. I think the Brewer bp diet says to salt to taste, so don't feel bad.
emmaegbert - Yay! I wish we could see your bikini! I wish I had a bikini, but it seems like something I'd almost never use. Most of the swimming I do is kind of vigorous, and I like my swim clothes to stay ON when I'm swimming, plus I don't spend much time for lying in the sun since my skin type is an instant sunburn, I'm going to a body positive conference (NOLOSE!) with lots of pool lounging time in a couple weeks though and it would be the perfect time to break out a bikini (and about a gallon of sunblock).
Lifeguard - I am wondering, do those plunge bras work for you? My Cacique DD plunges still seem to fit, even though they fit fine before my breasts started on their great pregnant expansion. It seems like magic, or maybe the plunge is just flexible somehow.
Dragonflymom - goody on the controlled bp. That is such a big deal. About weight gain, I was reading the other day on WebMD how weight gain in pregnancy includes some 20-25 pounds of "nonfat stuff" just for the baby: 8 or so pounds of baby, 2-3 pounds of placenta, 2-3 pounds amniotic fluid, 2-3 pounds of boob, 4 pounds of blood supply, and 2-5 pounds of uterus, even leaving aside any additional fat stores (5-9 pounds) for delivery or breastfeeding. Even though I am pretty sure I don't need the last one of those, since I already have ample fat stores, that is 20-24 pounds of essential baby stuff. It can't ALL happen in the last trimester! To gain nothing all pregnancy would be the equivalent of losing weight during pregnancy, which I'm told is something we shouldn't set out to do, since converting fat causes ketones to be released into the bloodstream. Still I don't think it's anything to kick ourselves over, for those of us who have lost a little or aren't gaining any weight yet.
oh and Mama~Love, I'm sorry you are feeling unpleasantly stared at! Maybe it will help to remember that looks in public can mean a lot of things. We primates really can't help peeking at something unusual and interesting, like a belly that sticks out. I think it is easiest just to focus on what I am doing and who I am with and ignore any stares. This is mostly easy, because it isn't other people's business to discuss what your belly is doing, pregnant or not, and most people know it. If someone forgets and says something inappropriate, you can see it as a teaching moment or really let them have it. Most of the time nobody who is looking says anything, because they were not raised in a barn. Also, keep in the back of your mind that you really don't know what people are thinking--some of those looks can be admiring or lustful. It is hard to imagine that when you are feeling body dismorphic, but there are a lot of folks out there who get off on larger women or just plain find them beautiful, whether or not it is socially accepted to do so. I tend to check out larger women just to admire their style, and if they catch me doing it I always try to smile in a nice, not-creepy way.