Should I attempt a 2nd hb after 1st one went terribly?

[kr mom]

I realize only I can decide this, but I was hoping to get some feedback from mommies who've maybe been where I am today. And that is with a healthy & happy 10 month old who's labor & delivery was awful. Surprisingly, it was the mostly the homebirth part that was traumatic. The hospital and all it brought with it was a blessing and saved us both. I am so torn on whether or not to attempt a hb again for our next baby. I was wondering what questions I should ask myself that might help point me in the right direction. There are positive things that both home & hospital bring to a birth experience. And I am just so split 50-50 on which route to go. Anyone been there? If so what helped you decide? What was your 2nd experience like? ANY words of advice would be much appreciated. 

[weliveintheforest]

I think it might help to just wait and see how you are feeling after some more time passes.

I transfered to the hospital with my first, but I didn't feel the home part was the problem, so it wasn't hard for me to decide to try again. What did need to change was my care provider. No two pregnancies and birth are the same.  I don't know what happened with your birth, but if it's something that can be changed, you could plan a homebirth.  

I'm not sure what it's like in your area, but is it possible to choose a midwife who can do home or hospital?  That way you could wait and see how you feel about the birth, your midwife, and any other factors that matter to you.

[Jaimee]

What was traumatic about the home portion of your last birth?  I think that's what you need to examine.  Can that be mitigated with a different mw?  Or with different supplies, people present, labor preparation, etc.?  Were there any negatives to the hospital?  What things still draw you to hb and away from the hospital?

[lunarlady]

I don't have an answer for you. I, too, had a rather traumatic HB turned transfer. I also found the hospital to be surprisingly nurturing, healing, and helpful. So I also wonder what I will do if we are blessed with another child. For the moment I've shelved that issue since I am not expecting and DH is pretty firm about not having more kids.