Originally Posted by gummibears
Thanks for posting this, jr's mom. I've been wondering the same. As of November this year it's been 9 long years since I've labored ....
Same here, but with both of my first, there was no real sign. I had more BH stuff with dd, but they always went away if I hydrated and laid down for a bit. If my mom hadn't been there flipping out with dd, I would've stayed home that first night, and slept MUCH better, even though I was having some fairly regular contractions. But since she was there flipping out, we went to the hospital that night and I was 4cm+ so they kept me. I should've just gone back home, but who knew? I was not where I'm at today mentally. But when I could no longer sleep through the contractions the next morning, I believed it.
With ds, I was hopping mad (that smiley cracks me up) because I didn't go into labor essentially the second dh got home from his last run before his week off, ds's EDD. Then the next morning, contractions woke me up, and I knew immediately that they were "the real thing".
But I had no bloody show, no "cleansing", no rabid need to clean or cook, not even really any BH stuff in the couple days prior that I remember, but I may have just been used to them. With ds I spent the last half the pg feeling like I wanted to "bear down" but don't remember any real BH with him. My water didn't break with either baby until seconds before they crowned either... so?? For me it was just the relentlessness and intensity of the contractions that tipped me off.
Originally Posted by SallyNichole
I keep getting mentally down because I haven't had hardly any BH but then I just remind myself that some women just skip that part and get right to the "good" stuff.
Exactly! I wore myself out walking and walking and doing all the stuff you hear and I hoped would bring on labor, but ... I don't think it made any difference. I don't think it hurt anything, either, but I don't think I'll be trying quite so hard this time. Making myself MORE tired than I already am isn't going to make anything easier for anyone.
Edited to clarify my typos.