need weaning guidance

[natty529]

the night before last we started Dr. Jay Gordon's night weaning plan.

The first night after 11 i nursed him for a couple of minutes and then he put up a fight for just over an hour, then DH came in and he slept until 2 with DH. i nursed him a little a that time and he slept until around 7.

Last night,  ds woke just after 11, i nursed for a couple minutes then he fought and cried  for about 20 minutes, dh came in and he did the same, dh couldn't handle it so, it was my turn again, i got him almost to sleep 3 times, but just as he was falling asleep he would freak out again. :( finally at about 1 am he fell asleep between me and DH  and nursed again when the sun was up- so it was at least 6:30 maybe later.

I am not particularly surprised that it has been taking so long to settle ds, though I does not seem gentle at all to have him cry and scream and flail for hours on end :( I try and try to cuddle, hold, talk to him etc. but he resists

I know every child is different and every mother is different, but would you have allowed this ordeal to go on for 2 hours? i feel a bad that i allowed him to go through that, but i am SO ready to wean, particularly from night nursing.  He is nearly three and we have had a very good run! I really wanted to CLW, but i am going insane and i JUST CAN"T take it anymore!

any input would be helpful

thanks