one mom stopped hanging with us because we aren't christian. and i do not "keep my kids on a short leash." this wasn't that terrible because the kids weren't all that close. but my son was still hurt and confused.
then another mom, who i was fairly close with, suddenly decides to totally change her life around and abruptly stops coming to our weekly gathering and other regular playdates. i have dealt with how i feel, but my kids were pretty crushed. i did the best i could to try and help them with their friends suddenly disappearing from their lives, but it was messy for a while.
my son still talks about 2 other homeschooling families we used to see. one family the parents split up and the mom moved away, and another family just suddenly sent their kids to school. (and cut off their HS friends)
i am concerned about protecting my kids. since i am usually friends with the parents i do feel like sometimes my kids get caught in the crossfire if the adult relationships go sour. it also seems like so many parents have trouble putting their kid's needs before their egos. i wasn't part of it, (thank goodness) but there was this tight little group of 8 families who met every week for a whole year and the whole thing blew up really messily and some of these poor kids were jerked away from their little friends with nary a thought for their well being. i try to be really careful who i get close with, but sometimes you just can't see it coming, kwim? we moved to the city so we could have a bigger "pool" of people to choose from when it came to homeschool socializing, but it still seems there are a lot of parents who need to do a lot of growing.
anyway, i wonder how do others help their kids have fulfilling and fun social lives when it seems like there are a lot of emotional landmines out there.