daughters last name

[elissa06]

I have a daughter who will be 5 in a few days.  She has my last name bc while i was pregnant he would always call me ugly names and say the baby wasnt his.  i had her i tempted to put his name as her last but then thought about all the things he said so i put her as my last name.  the next day i filled out the birth certificate i put her name and listed my name and then they told me that i had to list his name so i did.  when he showed up that afternoon i told him to look it over he did and singned the certificate knowing what her name was.  Soon after he recived a domestic charge and i was awarded sole desision making responsility and he got supervised visits only.  he does pay child support bc they take it out of his check and belive me if they didnt do that i wouldnt get anything.  he was ordered to pay 50% of medical bills that comes out of my pocket he dont do that he says its not his problem. now sence jan of this year he gets unsupervised visits but i still have sole custody.  ive already had to get dhs involved bc he wasnt giving her miralax that is orderd by the dr and asthma inhalor which is orderd by the dr.  she got sick and had to take her to the e.r when i asked him about it he said yeah im not giving it to her and walked off.  sence he has had her she has been pooping peeing and baby talk i told him that she has a problem and he laughed at me so i ended up getting her in theropy and i also have a session i asked him if he would be involved in this and he said no if she has a problem its bc of you.  he thinks parenting is all about play time and no responsibility as far as medical bills and medicine he does nothing at all except pay support now im not complaining im glad he pays but i know he wouldnt if it want taken out every month.  well now in just a few days we are going back to court he wants the judge to change her last name to his.  Now the name isnt going to make me love her any less but he has not been there for her at all the last basically 5 years he has been in and out of her life last year he had 110 avalible visits and showed for 44 of them thats what his track record has been all her life and now he wants to change her name to his.  what do you think the chances of that happening would be i really dont want that to happen she knows her last name.

[ZoeyZoo]

I've never been through this myself but there was another thread on this recently on SP. If I remember right they said judges were most likely to leave it or hyphenate it when the parents didn't agree.