1. circ- Do what you think is right :) I would get the vit K shot if I were going to circ.
2. eye goop- It sounds like you're in kind of a bind on this one. It makes my blood boil that it is LAW that you allow a med given to your baby. I'm a nurse, and I hold my patients' right to refuse ANYTHING as sacred. When government has more power over a decision wrt our babies than parents, I see red. Def see if you can delay the goop, and when you get your baby back in your arms I would wipe it right out, mostly out of spite ;)
3. food- Sneak it. Will they allow clear liquids? When I gave birth to DS in the hospital (beautiful natural birth in a hospital! It is possible!), I was allowed clears and I sneaked food. I didn't really feel very hungry, per se, but I wanted to eat a little something every couple of hours to ward off fatigue. The big reason for no solids is in the event of an emergency C-section, it is safest for your belly to be empty if you have to go under general anesthesia and get intubated. The chances of you needing to get intubated are so super tiny, so really just sneak some snacks.
4. Monitoring.- I think someone mentioned intermittant monitoring. That's what we did with DS; I was on the monitor for 15 min out of every hour and it really wasn't too bad. Def ask about how much you'll be able to move around. I can't imagine trying to have a natural birth if I had to lay in the bed the whole time :/
Good luck! Hospital policy can be annoying, but you can have a terrific birth :)