Birds do it... Bees do it... even Ladies in their Forties do it.... 40+++ Spring TTC - Page 10

[Kristin0105]

Congratulations Gumblossom 

Keep the BFP's coming ladies. 

The all caps make me giggle someone said earlier it was like a telegraph and it is  TESTING STOP BFP STOP WILL CELEBRATE NOW STOP

Glad to hear the goddess is working her magic and it sounds like the bracelet tradition has continued. How wonderful. If anyone wants to share their experience with the goddess and what came along with her that would be fun. I will be planting my seeds this week. Looking forward to seeing them growing. Busy week for me but I will be checking in in the morning. Good day to all.

[contactmaya]

KRISTEN, YES, IT S LIKE A TELEGRAPH. IM GLAD THESE SILLY CAPS ARE MAKING PEOPLE GIGGLE RATHER THAN GROWL.

MY STORY ABOUT THE TOKEN-MY BOYS AMOST TEARED THE PACKAGE OPEN BECAUSE IT LOOKED LIKE A PRESENT. I TRIED TO SAVE IT SO PUT IT AWAY. NEXT MORNING  MY 3YO FOUND THE LITTLE 'DOLL' AND PUT IT ROUND HIS NECK.  NEXT MINUTE, TOKEN IS GONE. I ASK HIM-WHAT DID YOU DO WITH IT? HE SAYS, STOP ASKING MOMMY,  STOP ASKING! NEXT DAY I ASKED AGAIN, AND HE WAS EQUALLY RELUCTANT TO SAY ANYTHING.

NEXT MORNING, BFP!!!!

STILL LOOKING FOR TOKEN.....

THANKS FOR THE CONGRATULATIONS FROM OTHER PPS.

LITMAMA, I MUST CHECK OUT THAT LINK. THANKYOU. WHAT HAPPENED WAS I DOWNLOADED A TRANLITERATION DEVICE.  BUT IT DIDNT WORK SO I DELETED IT. UNFORTUNATELY, IT LEFT BEHIND A LOWER CASE IN HEBREW. IT COULD HAVE BEEN HINDI.

KARALINA, THANKYOU FOR THE BEUATIFUL CARD. AND ARE THE RECIPES FROM YOU OR FROM EVERYONE DOWN THE LINE?  THEY ARE WONDERFUL RECIPES THAT I CANNOT WAIT TO TRY. I CANT WAIT TO LISTEN TO THE MUSIC EITHER.  

I TESTED AGAIN THIS MORNING-WAS SCARED TO ACTUALLY- AND THE LINE IS DARKER.  THATS SOMETHING HUH?

WONDERING IF PROGESTERONE LEVELS ARE LOW ( I DONT KNOW YET IF THEY ARE, BUT SUPPLEMENTING JUST THE SAME) BUT HCG LEVELS ARE OK, DOES THAT INDICATE AN OTHERWISE HEALTHY PREGNANCY?

BRING ON THE  BFP'S!!!!

[beachlover]

CONGRATULATIONS Contactmaya and gumblossom. I'm so happy for your both!! WIshing a healthy peaceful 9 months will be yours.

[WaturMama]

OH YES, CONTACTMAYA, DARKER LINE=GOOD!! I too am CHARMED BY THE ALL CAPS. Though they aren't always the easiest to read, I have started to have a very soft spot in my heart for them.

Stealthee, your words about the baby that finds its way to us brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much. So sorry about AF, but enjoying Guinniess in Dublin does sound like an awesome silver lining.

Litmama, I'm feeling better from my cold already, I hope you are too. Thank you so much for the dear words.

I am feeling strong, but all those times I read how you all see that I think I ought to admit that I am also the woman who was sobbing on the phone to her mom about a week and a half ago, and sobbing last week on the exam table of the nurse I'd met 10 minutes before. I think letting that emotion go is actually part of being strong, but I didn't used to think of it that way. All this has me thinking of in a sentimental, wonderful, maybe a little goofy way of Helen Reddy's song, "I am Woman," which makes me think of all of you, so I wanted to share this version with you. There's way too much glitz behind her for my taste, but I love the looks on her face and her proud story at the beginning: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUBnxqEVKlk. Enjoy, dear women.

[StargirlHB]

Hi. Here for my weekly check-in! Yeah, I’m still lurking around here…getting to know you guys – being a stalker!! 

Waturmama – I’m sooo very sorry.  **Hugs**

Contact MAYA and Gumblossom – Hooray, and I’m sending you warm fuzzies!

Shelley – I’m right there with you. Gaaah.

AFM - well last week when AF didn’t show and I had another BFN, I called my gyno and talked to him a little – asked him if I should get on the provera to git ‘er done.  He said no, that he wants to give my body a break.  Basically, he thinks that the spotting I had the day before AF was due through the next day was AF! What the??? OK, so I  haven’t seen a positive OPK yet, but if I go by what he’s telling me I’m now only on CD 16 instead of CD 42.  Good grief!  I’m going to wait until next AF to go back and do the testing for the RE meanie. 

I’m not kidding that RE really messed up my head. I spent the whole weekend after the appt (Mothers day, whoo) practically mourning my fertility, then I decided to just try to stay positive. I’ve been easing up on the caffeine and walking everyday...  So hard. SO hard.  Right now I’m drinking some Fertilitea that a good friend got me. It’s not bad. Anyone had any results using it?

[Karalina]

Watur mama- thanks for the I am Woman---

I think one of the reasons you are able to be so grounded right now is precisely beacuse you allowed yourself to release your emotions as they came- my mc was at Xmas with all the festivities and the pressure to re lively and "go on" for my other children and for visiting family--- I really didn't grieve until about feb when I really hit bottom- but it had to be done--- I think it is very wise to allow your feelings to be so that they can move through you- and you can move on the the other side-

Contact Maya--- the resipes are from everyone the goddess has passed from--- This is perfect timeing-- the blue goddess I sent you is made by a local artist here in my town--- I received her at the blessing way for my last child 4 years ago from my midwife--- so perfect!!!  the goddess will turn up.

Litmama- was it you who said the goddess hit me in the face bc I don't need her??? love it!!!!!

AFM----- about CD 7--- DH and i are getting along well and able to really yalk about baby issues-- and how I can't quite separate out the lovemaking from the babymaking- and how I think as Litmama? pointed out- i may feel differently about that issue if i feel my family is complete-  I just have to go for it- every single time I decide I'm done--- not gonna TTC-- i immediately regret it and flip sides---- i want another baby- period-- after that i agree to do whatever my DH wants- which will be vasectomy but a still active sex life- fine- just one more baby-----  i am so inspired with all the POSITIVE tests!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! maybe I can add to it this month------ please!!!!!!

GUMBLOSSOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so thrilled for you!!!!!! we have the most similar stories and I am very hopeful!!!!  You came to mind over talks with DH this weekend-- i said " I just know that if we had a little baby- you would be so happy and love the child so much" and he said I was right-----  he's just about to be done but i think i can sneak one more in if nature will just cooperate!

Litmama -- i nver take off my tuttle bracelet- love it so much-----

LOVE to all of you!!

[saoirse2007]

Yeah BFP's...it seems that it is a fertile time for us ol' gals :)

I will be watching and looking for more BFP's ...especially from waturmama ;)

afm I am 17 weeks and I was hungry today for the first time in 17 weeks...lol

I also started working part time during the day today-It feels good!!

I saw the midwife today....hb was around 140s-150's she said- no movement yet though

Got to go and get th kiddos gear ready for tomorrow-We have to drop dh off at work by 7am...ugh

[SpiralChrissy]

Congrats Maya and Gumblossom!!! I am so thrilled for both of you. CONGRATS!  It's so encouraging to see women get pregnant on this thread. I swear you made my evening!

Things are o.k. at my house. They've settled after the birthday disaster and we're heading out for a date later tonight. We talked last week and DH said that I keep waiting for him to agree to have another child and that's never going to happen, that he won't make some sort of solid agreement about it. What he said, though, is that he just wants to focus on us, on being happy together. He said that if we put more energy there, then maybe something WILL happen...without all the talking and deciding about it. I should have known my DH just doesn't want to talk about it anymore!  With our first child, we never agreed to have a child, it just happened. And I think that's where I need to get back to now. DH clearly knows what I want and he does love me. I also told him that I'd read some about ttc a girl and somethings to do from Dr. Shettles. DH would be much more open to a girl. He told me that I should let him know when I'm on the days with a higher probability of conceiving a girl. So I'm supposed to text him on those days.  It's silly, but it's a good sign. I will be texting furiously on those days, let me tell you! So, I'll be putting my energy into being more connected with DH, increasing intimacy, relaxing and using the law of attraction. It seems like a fairly good way to go, at least for now. I'm happy that the door is still open, even if it's only a crack!

Waturmama - sending you love and light day by day. I wish you healing energy and support. 

[Stevi]

SpiralChrissy...   Your DHs view is actually pretty good. Sounds like he is very open to another child, he just doesn't want it to be a chore. He seems to want to be a loving family and welcome whomever comes from that love. That is really a sweet guy you have there! (And then to add in the teaser about informing him of the best times for a girl? Love it!)

AAM...   Trying to find a donor for today/tonight. It isn't looking good, and my OPKs went positive this morning.

[SpiralChrissy]

Stevi- Thank you so much for writing that. It's been so long since I've thought of my DH in that way, honestly.  I've been so busy seeing him has this barrier to what I want, that I haven't realized that I was creating the struggle with him...and that underneath all that is this guy who loves me and is trying to be open to our family's growth. Your words melted my heart a bit and I thank you for them. I'll have to get reading them over and over to reinforce them!!  Thank you!

[Stevi]

Originally Posted by SpiralChrissy 

Stevi- Thank you so much for writing that. It's been so long since I've thought of my DH in that way, honestly.  I've been so busy seeing him has this barrier to what I want, that I haven't realized that I was creating the struggle with him...and that underneath all that is this guy who loves me and is trying to be open to our family's growth. Your words melted my heart a bit and I thank you for them. I'll have to get reading them over and over to reinforce them!!  Thank you!

[purplefish]

Waturmama I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

Congratulations gumblossom and contactmaya.

I was quite shocked to get a bfp last week. I'm somewhere between and 4 or 7 weeks depending on whether I use probable ovulation dates or take LMP date as 2 weeks before when I got BFP. I had been testing and got a negative about 10 days earlier.

For some reason I feel drawn to a late December EDD but that would seem unlikely.

Wishing that I had some symptoms, well metal mouth would be good :)

But otherwise pleased to see a strong line on the HPT.

[TenzinsMama]

Congratulations, Purplefish!  It's exciting to keep seeing the positives out there!

[Kristin0105]

 Purplefish if I could have your age and choice of edd I'll update the list.

[WaturMama]

Wow, purplefish!!! Congratulations!!  And extra yay to the strong line!!!

So many bfps here lately!

How are you gumblossom and CONTACTMAYA?

[purplefish]

Thanks for the congratulations. I'm 41 and will go for 7th January due date for now.

[purplefish]

I had also stopped drinking green tea and was eating lots of chocolate.

[Stevi]

Purplefish...   CONGRATULATIONS!!!

[LitMama]

Congratulations, Purplefish!!! Wahooooo!!!!!

Oh my, I am LOVING all the BFPs! Yowza! You women are unstoppable (and strong, and invincible, in the words of Helen Reddy -- thank you, WaturMama, that was pretty awesome).

Purplefish, I just love that you had also slacked off on the green tea and were enjoying your chocolate :-) I think Contactmaya had said she was also relaxing a bit in the dietary department when she conceived. Right on!

AFM, I'm 6dpo and feeling pretty darn good, despite having had my @#$% kicked by a cold that I feared was headed toward sinusitis (though I warded that off). We had a house full of out-of-town friends the weekend (I almost wrote, "the weekend that I conceived".... hmmmm....), errr, the weekend that I ovulated. In fact, all of my friends knew I was ovulating, which made for some fun, silly, conspiratorial conversations about finding a way to keep the kids busy while DH and I snuck away somewhere. We did manage, and in fact FF has given us a "High" probability of conception for the first time in months (I always seem to miss one day in that magical 3-day window, not this time).

My latest news is I'm thinking of seeing a fertility nutritionist / herbalist. My TCM practice is great for acupuncture and Chinese herbs, but they won't advise me on Western herbs, non-herbal supplements, diet, or lifestyle. It's a sliding-scale low-fee place (all I can afford right now if I want to go weekly), and I think they just need to have boundaries to make their business model work. I have been fantasizing about having one person, or one practice, that could guide me holistically on all of these things. I have been worried, in particular, about the growing cocktail of supplements I'm taking, and wondering whether some of them don't mix or cancel one another out, that sort of thing. I spoke with a woman at Pulling Down the Moon in Chicago, and it seems they offer such a consulting service. Has anybody tried anything like this? I created a new thread about this under "Trying to Conceive" but haven't heard from anyone yet. I know I can get all this info in books, but somehow that isn't cutting it for me... I feel like I need a live human being to talk to.

I also created a survey about supplements to see what other mamas are taking, and am planning to share my results when I get more responses (12 so far). If anyone cares to take it, it's right here!  http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/7ZMBQC6

In other supplement-related news... I stopped taking DHEA. I think you said you had stopped, too, Kristin, but that you missed the way it made you feel. I'm worried about missing that, too, because I do feel it gave me energy and brightened my mood. But, even after lowering my dosage a couple of times, the acne has continued unabated, and I just feel that is an indication of imbalance. If it's turning into testosterone, it's certainly not helping me, right? I am woman, hear me roar, I need estrogen! My DH pointed out that the last chemical pg we had was right before I started DHEA. At the very least, I'm looking forward to having clear skin once again.

Maya? Gumblossom? How's it going?

[WaturMama]

Litmama, yay for high probability!! Sounds promising. Here comes some wishes for promises turning into reality... I love the story with your friends. I'm glad to hear your DHEA experiences because I'm considering it, but am wary of messing around with hormones, and I certainly have a tendency toward acne. The TCM person I see does advise me on all those things. She is so wonderful. I've gone from seeing her 2-3x/month to 1x/month or a little more when it seems especially needed (like when I got pg!!) because of money, but she is so great about talking to me on the phone. I do have a long history with her now. I could ask her if she knows someone closer to where you are, if that is of interest, but if the path you are pursuing and the weekly acupuncture feels right, I say go with that.