The stupid/rude/obnoxious things people can say because you are pregnant thread - Page 2

[ryleeee]

i swear if anyone asks me how my cervix is i just might punch them in theirs...

[mama_mich]

Um WTF!!!I would be sooo pissed.  This is really gross.  What did you do/say?
 

Originally Posted by penstamon 

And DH: "I can't wait for you to not be pregnant so you can be all hot again"

[ryleeee]

if my DH said that to me i would punch him in HIS cervix! :P
no but really, i would be furious. i guess i'm really lucky that my husband loves my body the most when i'm pregnant.

someone informed me the other day that i had begun to waddle. yep. thanks for that one, lady.
and this dude who is like 45 and not married with no kids told me i should eat more because my baby is probably only 3 lbs and "you REALLY don't want a 3 lb baby" ... uh...do you have experience with 3 lb babies or something, randy? =___=

other than that...i get stared down a LOT. if people that i don't know or don't like come up and want to touch my belly or say something like "is she moving?!" i just lie, and say no, she's sleeping, and cross my arms over my belly. hahahahahaha.

[JollyPop]

Three times this month I've been asked " How far along are you?" When I proudly answer, they just stared for a minute then went back to their business. THAT is way more annoying than the " are you ready", " you carry like me ", You should eat more because that baby looks too small" comments. Why did you ask???

One week I wore a stretchy tee shirt and was told I didn't look nearly as far along as I said I was. The next week I had on a pretty maternity shirt and was told I had gotten huuuuuge. Duh, the shirt makes me look like I'm carrying triplets, but its the only nice shirt that fits over my chest these days. Sheesh!

 But I've had a lot of nice comments too. A lady in a parking lot told me I was the cutest pregnant lady she had ever seen. :)

And a lot of people have told me how much I glowed. And as miserable as I felt physically, those compliments were balm to my soul for sure!

[mama_mich]

Returning to school today after the weekend today this is what I heard all day.

"You're still pregnant !/?" You could say this a million different ways and I heard them all today.

or the nicest one.  "Oh my gosh I didn't think you could get any bigger!" 

It wasn't long ago I had a sneezing attack in my art history lecture where the spit fire of a professors stopped in the middle of what she was saying and said "not too hard now" like I would sneeze the baby out.  I was just happy I didn't pee myself!

I don't mind people touching my belly.  In fact I like it.  It's so weird to me that there is a human in me and I want people who don't know or haven't experienced it to get a glimpse!!

[PunkElmo]

"Twins, right?"

"no, I'm just due next week, you don't usually see ladies this late in pregnancy out and about."

"oh. boy or girl?"

"We don't know, it's going to be a surprise"

"wow, that's crazy! how are you supposed to buy clothes and stuff?"

"we don't mind dressing a girl in blue or a boy in purple... we're not big fans of pink for either, but most of the clothes we have so far are earth tones, neutrals, and bold colors"

"oh."

thankfully at that point my elevator ride was over...

I sat on my stoop for awhile yesterday... my neighbors were telling me I'd "go" in 2 days or less (even though I'm not due until next Thurs), and yadda yadda, were telling me all about the hospital (didn't have the heart/guts to tell them I'm not GOING to the hospital - HAH!), telling me about their neighbor's brother's former roommate whose cats didn't like the baby.... yeah. oy.  Can't we come up with something else to talk about, like the weather or something?

[Tdunahoo]

My last pregnancy when I was 8.5 mths pregnant my MIL said to me "you're wide pregnant. Not that cute basketball pregnant like a lot of women" 

I don't think my belly is that big, its big for me but I'm all torso so I have more of a long belly, the new midwife I'm seeing what measuring me at my first apt with her and feeling around and said "well, do you think he's going to be a big baby?" I just laughed and said "my ODS was 7lbs10oz so I don't think I grow them too big" I was annoyed though. I hate doctors commenting on baby size. 

What I REALLY hate is "oh do you know what you're having" "yup another boy" "oh thats too bad, I'm sure you really wanted a girl. Will you be trying for another then?" 

[ryleeee]

Originally Posted by Tdunahoo 

What I REALLY hate is "oh do you know what you're having" "yup another boy" "oh thats too bad, I'm sure you really wanted a girl. Will you be trying for another then?" 

seriously! THIS IS SO RUDE! especially if it is said in front of your children! ughhh i hate when people assume that you want one of each or that girls are better than boys! people always squeal with excitement when they hear we are having a girl and say "oh you must be SO happy!" but it always offends me (even though i am SO happy) ... i always inform them that actually we were fine either way and would have LOVED to have another boy. depending on how rude they are about it and if my son is around, i will even venture as far as to say that i find boys easier and more comfortable and am a little scared at the prospect of having a girl (so true). 

[Partaria]

Can't we come up with something else to talk about, like the weather or something?

Totally identify with that. I have people at work who come up to me and ask when I'm due. I answer them, then they just stand there, in a weird awkward silence. And I just think - you're the one that seemed to want to talk about my pregnancy.... I'm fine if we just stuck to talkin' about the weather!!

My least favorite comment this week has been, "You're taking THAT much maternity leave? What's your team going to do without a fourth person for so long?"

My response: "Yes, I am. And they'll be fine. I'll send the baby in to work for them so everything will be okay."

[JollyPop]

Originally Posted by Partaria 

My least favorite comment this week has been, "You're taking THAT much maternity leave? What's your team going to do without a fourth person for so long?"

My response: "Yes, I am. And they'll be fine. I'll send the baby in to work for them so everything will be okay."

When I had to quit work to go on bedrest and my boss said " You don't look big enough to quit work yet. I never had to quit work when I was pregnant...those pains are normal with first babies." 

She also commented that I should feel bad about leaving them shorthanded at such a bad time. I'm not really ashamed to say that I didn't feel the least bit bad. :)

[PunkElmo]

lame-o on your boss's part... every pregnancy is different, and if you or your care provider decided on bedrest, that's that. not her decision. no discussion!

You're making me realize how lucky I am that my boss is almost like a father figure (though he's a little young to be my father, I remind him of his daughter)... so when I had to take 3 days off to rest, he was just worried (although if I hadn't had someone to cover my job, he might've TOTALLY freaked, I'll admit that.)

Nothing too obnoxious today - just generally people seeming to be more excited about impending kiddo than I am (I am tired and just want to get this all over with, mildly anxious about laboring and what the heck contractions will feel like...)... the day's still young though, so we could have all KINDS of fun comments. (HAH!)

Originally Posted by JollyPop 
When I had to quit work to go on bedrest and my boss said " You don't look big enough to quit work yet. I never had to quit work when I was pregnant...those pains are normal with first babies." 

She also commented that I should feel bad about leaving them shorthanded at such a bad time. I'm not really ashamed to say that I didn't feel the least bit bad. :)

[anne1140]

Ever since I hit 38 weeks, I'm finding it very humorous when people ask me when I'm due. Every single person's eyes have bugged out, and I know they're thinking, "Oh, please don't have this baby right in front of me!" I admit, I snicker inside, and part of me wants to lean over something and start moaning. 

[L&K'smommie]

Originally Posted by Tdunahoo 

What I REALLY hate is "oh do you know what you're having" "yup another boy" "oh thats too bad, I'm sure you really wanted a girl. Will you be trying for another then?" 

What's bad is that it doesn't matter what it is people still make comments.  I had my dd first and then my ds, when I was pregnant with ds1 people would ask if we were done having kids now that we had one of each...I didn't realize that that was a perfect family and I should stop  It's really a lose/lose situation no matter what with sex of babies and comments.

I haven't gotten many comments this time around fortunately...just people asking if I'm ready to be done.

[lava mama]

I don't have too many comments about my belly or anything, but I carry pretty small until the last week or so and then I just kind of explode size-wise. :P The thing that bugs me most right now is when someone finds out we that the baby's gender is a surprise, and they say, "Well, you already have one of each, so it doesn't matter." Ugh! Just because we aren't "choosy" about our kids' genders doesn't mean that it doesn't matter. Bah. I try to be nice and tell them that our DD's gender was a surprise as well and we would have been happy whether or not she was a girl--but I'm getting to the point where I don't mind if I'm being nice anymore. :P

[GamineNoir]

Tonight someone told me I look like Jello, like the way I got up out of my chair.

Thanks dude!

And everyone else just keeps telling me I look very pregnant and/or bigger. I swear I don't remember saying things like this to any of my friends that were pregnant a few years ago. I told them their hair was really shiny or that their belly was so cute! And I meant it!

[ryleeee]

i would have slapped that person, honestly. 

[elonwy]

Originally Posted by ryleeee 

i would have slapped that person, honestly. 

People say dumb things even when you say it's a surprise, it's true. I think people can't really see outside of what they would do in such a situation and are completely shocked you might be doing something different. It's funny, I just drew a comparison to the stupid things people say when I tell them I have Celiac Disease and can't eat gluten like "How can you deal with that, I would just die" (which is comment I got the other day when I said I didn't know the sex). Really, you would die? I think it gives an extra special level of excitement to the birth, which I think is awesome. As far as gluten goes, when people say that I reply with "Well I'll die if I do eat gluten so...." which usually makes them realize they said something kinda dumb. 

I know it's a bit off topic, but I have a point. I think people have a real hard time thinking outside their comfort zone on the spot like that (even though they are often the ones brining it up) and that's what leads to the comments that are borderline insensitive and somewhat ludicrous.

As for people that comment on pregnant women's weight and appearance, well, they are just jerks. I am a snippy comeback kinda person and my filters have been going away steadily all pregnancy. I pity the person that says something like that jello comment to me, seriously. I can tolerate a certain level of stupidity but being openly jerky like that will invoke the wrath of Elonwy. 

[MrsBone]

I posted this one awhile back..I think I was 33 weeks pregnant when I had this conversation with a total stranger:

him: oh, you're pregnant?

me: Yes

him: is this your first?

me: No, we have a 2 year old boy

him: oh...same father?

WTF?!! What kind of question is that?

[ryleeee]

hahahahahaha. oh mrs. bone. that is so hilariously obnoxious. what a tool!!!

i've gotten some like that before. :P

[anne1140]

I was at the grocery store last night, and some creepo looked at my belly and said, "That'll teach ya."

Huh?!?!