Moving out of toddler's bed

[MamaAsheri]

Hi everyone!

I have one DS who just turned 3. I am expecting my second in September so I want to move out of my son's bed and cosleep with the baby. When I ask my son if he wants to sleep by himself he matter-of-factly says 'no', that he wants to sleep with me. I'm not sure how to handle this transition effectively but gently. We are about to move so I thought that would be a good time for the change, instead of when the baby arrives.

I know if I need this kind of help this is where to come. Thank you in advance!

Mama Asheri
(wife to a wonderful husband, mother to one wild man son, another bundle on the way) joy!

[D_McG]

Do you sleep with him full time? And your husband sleeps alone? Here we just say that mommies and daddies sleep together and kids if they are lonely can come sleep in the bedroom but only when it's getting bright out. I make exceptions obviously for bad nights. I would just be matter of fact about it and be prepared for some drama during the transition. You could put a mattress on the floor of your room for him to come if he wants some nights. That might be a compromise.

[MamaAsheri]

Well He has his own bed. When we transitioned him out of ours to his he would wake up one time in the middle of the night or early morning saying he wanted to see me. I would go to him then either fall back to sleep in there or go back to bed. Eventually I got tired of waking up every night so I started sleeping with him all night. He doesn't wake up if I'm sleeping with him. (How does he know!?) Then for whatever reason, I can't remember, my DH started sleeping with us. So now it's a full family bed but in his room instead. We don't truly mind but want to sleep with the baby and now that DS is 3 I figure it's about time...

On another note, I told my DS this morning that when we move he will have his own bed and mommy wouldn't sleep with him anymore. He said, "Yeah." I asked how he felt and he said, "Not happy." Sigh.

He's not as attached to my DH so I've thought of lying down with him as usual but then not sleeping with him at night but having my DH do it then transition out. Maybe he'd let him go more easily. I don't know.

Thanks!!