Originally Posted by crunchy_mommy
To me, the only solution -- at least the only one that I can think of, though I don't even know if it would be logistically & financially feasible for some school districts, would be for each school to offer 2 programs (simultaneously or consecutively) and allow parents to choose which program their child attends. This would guarantee that all -- all but a few who still choose to opt out, that is -- would get sex ed, but would avoid infringing on people's personal or moral beliefs & religious freedom.
So one program would contain all the facts, and the other would be people's opinions about what one ought to do, but not contain the facts?
To me, that's what it really boils down to. To understand what BC is and how it works is just a fact. To understand the role of condoms in the limiting the spread of STDs is just a fact. Whether or not one is sexually active or has more than one partner or ever uses BC, it's just stuff that every single adult should know, so it falls into the category of "things you should have learned at school." How could you even be part of this conversation if you didn't know those things? How could you follow politics?
How to make decisions about with whom to have sex, under what conditions to have sex, and what precautions to take when having sex are OPINIONS. And yeah, I do share my opinions with my kids because I think those are major decisions and that I've learned a few things from being on the planet so long.
I didn't appreciate the school sharing their OPINION that having sex before marriage will ruin your life. I don't think that's a true statement.
And do think that parents and schools who give kids their OPINIONS without giving the kids the FACTS are doing a kids a disservice. The real message there is "don't talk to me because I won't be honest with you."
Originally Posted by choli
Better yet, why not allow the students to choose which program they attend?
Kids want the truth. They don't necessarily want to do anything crazy with the information, but they want honesty and openness from us.
I've answered questions about how gay men have sex that I'm quite sure my daughters will never need a practical way, but they want to understand the world and the people in it. They don't like us having a bunch of secrets from them.