This is common for me in general, but right now I'm talking about my DP sister. DP's family likes me, including his sister, but I'm not getting the connection I'm looking for. She is the same age as me. She is single, christian, works alot, and still lives at home, but she does still hang out with other girlfriends. I've been dating my DP, her brother, for a year and a half. His family wants us to get married, so I know they at least like me that much, but I try to reach out and it just seems to not happen.
For example, DP and I invite her with us to outtings we have (w/o the kids) so she and I can chat more and hopefully build a bond, but more times than not she for some reason cannot. Then honestly I see her with other gf's in pics on FB and it does hurt my feelings. I know I'm a bit sensitive about alot of things, but I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I have literally been trying to befriend his friends and family the whole time. His male friends are great, nice and easy to talk to, but not with the female friends or family. I actually get along well with his mom, so that is a big plus. He has a little sister, but she is still a teenager and so I know that's like blowing into the wind lol. Anyway, I don't know what to do. Anytime I'm at his parent's house we make small talk and all, but well if we are going to be family I want to be more than just "small talk" ya know? He has another female friend who is friends with his sister, and I can't get through to her either. I know I'm being a wuss I guess, but dangit I'm just trying to be their friend!
It always seems that people's capacity for friends is "full", and I'm always trying to make friends and it just never gets passed the small talk and I hate it. It ends up making me feel very lonely and then depressed a bit.