The great big factor that complicates things is that my son has autism. He is absolutely refusing to go, causing a huge amount of retention and horrible pain. I am at a loss, and I am begging for help before I take him to emerg again for a cut. Any information would be greatly appreciated.
UPDATE: James went in to the clinic shortly after this and was sent to emergency and had a procedure to open up the end of the foreskin. He was still unable to urinate three hours after the surgery, so they cathed him and pulled out 400 cc's. Because of this, and due to his urine culture coming back showing an infection and a high white blood cell count through his blood work, they decided to admit him. We spent seven days in hospital, with the infection spreading upward to his kidneys. He was constantly holding in his urine, and needed major assistance to urinate, but luckily his stream looked better, albeit far from perfect. It got very scary for a while, and I am so thankful he is out now. However, two urologists have now seen his penis, one in the hospital and one just last week, and both say he absolutely needs a circumcision. He still is just so tight, already is having troubles peeing again, and has a lot of scar tissue. It looks to me like he will never be able to retract.
I will say that I immediately contacted my old midwives to ask about this, and they recommended those two urologist. Both very anti-circ in general, and the second one we saw last week has two intact sons. We are still vigorously applying the steroid cream, but he has been booked for surgery on the 19th. I feel like I need to just accept that this is medically necessary. Still feeling a little sad, and so thankful that my younger son is fully retractable at four.
Edited by Intuition - 5/9/11 at 4:06pm