Sometimes I feel like I'm just not cut out for this parent thing...

[AFWife]

On days like today when my son refuses to listen to ANYTHING I say I feel like I'm a huge failure as a parent. It's frustrating and depressing. He was/is high needs and we're having him evaluated for a sensory issue...but in the end I always feel like it's MY FAULT.

It's especially bad when we go visit family. When he doesn't listen there I get sideways glances and comments that begin with, "Well Mommy..."

Does it get easier? Please tell me it gets easier.

[CatsCradle]

Hugs.  Keep in mind that he is a distinct human being, with his own views, feelings, opinions on things.  He is learning to exert his independence and it is natural that he will push your buttons or see how far he can push those buttons or stress you out!  It is not really about you...it is about him!  Even "normal kids" (those without sensory or other needs) will do this, and will do it with a vengeance!  The hard part for a parent is when the child's behavior comes down to morality, safety and respect issues (respect for one's self and for others).  I'm still learning this stuff myself but at some point a while ago I realized that a lot of this was about independence and expression.  I try to gear my own DD in the right direction, but dang, it is hard sometimes.  Look at this way, if you were a "bad" parent, you probably wouldn't be fretting about it.  

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by CatsCradle 

 Look at this way, if you were a "bad" parent, you probably wouldn't be fretting about it.  

I had that thought while showering earlier. If I were a "bad" parent I wouldn't care how he feels or was affected by things...

It's just been hard lately. Terrible twos and teething...

[CatsCradle]

Originally Posted by AFWife 

I had that thought while showering earlier. If I were a "bad" parent I wouldn't care how he feels or was affected by things...

It's just been hard lately. Terrible twos and teething...

I feel like I'm in some sort of paradise right now because my own DD is at a really good stage (incredibly engaging; limited meltdowns; interesting to talk to; thinks before she talks (sometimes!)).  But then I go on to the pre-teen and teen forum on here and think to myself:  "You mean the hard stuff hasn't even started!??"  Oh boy.
 

[SuburbanHippie]

I have these days like at least once a week.  Cut yourself some slack, mama.  You have a 2 year old and a tiny baby.  You're not a failure.  If you were, you would have walked away for good.  But you're staying around and venting to us and that makes you a winner. 

[Dandelionkid]

Right there with you