Yeah, I have to agree with her on the grossness factor. I think the semen is really disgusting! It smells bad, is sticky, etc. Lucky for us, our good friends were TTC for a few months before we started trying, also using a KD, and they told us that the partner who was being inseminated freaked out about the sperm at the first insem and actually refused to have it put in her! She finally consented to it, but it planted the thought in my head that this was something to be aware of. In the Stephanie Brill book she writes about welcoming the sperm (and the baby) into your body, so I did some work on that and felt fine about it after the first time.
I do IUIs for other people (it's part of our midwifery practice), and while it appeals to me in some ways, I just don't want to bring the speculum and catheters and all the rest of it into the equation just yet...
PS, thanks for posting this! We're working through the stress of this process and trying to remain solid. We're also trying to focus on something I tell my pregnant clients all the time, which I'm sure any of the mamas on here could agree with. When moms are close to their due dates and struggling with being patient, I suggest they make a list of all the things they won't be able to do for a while (or that will be challenging to do) with a new baby. Then, they try and reframe the wait as a the time to enjoy those things. We are trying to do the same; instead of waiting for the next part of our lives to begin (which is where my head goes) we're going out later at night, going out to hear bands, being spontaneous, and just trying to remember that in the scheme of things, this will be a short period of our lives.
(Just so you know, I also spend time whining "Where's my BFP?" Nobody's perfect, right?)