Do you O during BDing or after?

[Sunshine4me]

Hey all! I had to start another thread because I couldn’t find anything on this subject through all the pages I looked through.

I don’t know about you ladies but I have a hard time Oing during sex. I hear that it can make things a little even harder since having an O helps out the little swimmers. No matter what we do TMI but the only time I can is if I do it myself or he does orally but that isn’t an option when trying to conceive so last night after we BD, I propped up on my pillow and did it myself. Will that help any? Sorry for the TMI but at this point, nothing is TMI when trying to conceive LOL. I will do anything if it helps me conceive naturally!

[Jaimee]

I'll take a stab at this, but I'll add a disclaimer that this is a guess...  I would say an orgasm right after ejaculation has occurred whether you do it yourself or it just takes longer for you than him would help.  The semen has been deposited near the cervix and on the cervix and if you have fertile CF, it will swim in that and hang out (for up to 6 days).  So if you orgasm right afterward I don't see why that would help any less than orgasming during sex.  I know it says in TCOYF that you should wait several hours after sex before doing kegels to expel the excess semen so as to give it a good chance to swim through the cervix.  So I would imagine you could orgasm within an hour or more of sex and still reap the benefit of it.  But again it's just a guess.